Stealth3 Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 So I broke contact today because I am leaving soon and wanted to say goodbye to my ex and try to see if there is any chance of reconciliation before I leave out of state. I'm 26, she is 23. She dumped me because she felt she was "settling" for less with me...and gave me a bunch of other bs reasons. I broke NC today and found out she is after this guy who she found out is 35 and with a kid. Im assuming he was around when we were together and she just dumped me to be with him eventually and then found out about his age and baggage and says if she cant be with him, she cant be with anyone else.... Honestly, I'm not taking her back after all of that ****, no way I'm taking her back after she dumped me for someone else....she claims she met him after me but i smell bs. I guess.... wtf guys and girls? Seriously w t f..... Mindblown:eek:
JDPT Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 You would agree that she has not made the attempt at reconciliation. Don't beat yourself over breaking NC as stated before you are not the first or last to do it. Simply learn from this and turn it into a learning experience.
Romaks Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 That's why it's usually better not to break NC. You'll find out some **** you don't want to know. You know that you did all you could to make her happy, and if that's not enough for her, you have the choice to walk out with your head held high knowing you did all you could, but some people need to be treated like **** countless times before they realize it's not all disney land out there 1
lauri Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I'm sorry to hear that you learned this about your ex. I've come to the realization when a girl loses interest level in you she doesn't care at all any more about your feelings / what she is going to do to you. I think when you have that in mind, cutting them off is for the best to move forward and become fully healed. Stick to NC and do your best to get this girl out of your mind because she isn't worth another second of your thoughts, especially since there was a guy in the down low while you were together.
Never Again Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 That's why it's usually better not to break NC. You'll find out some **** you don't want to know. You know that you did all you could to make her happy, and if that's not enough for her, you have the choice to walk out with your head held high knowing you did all you could, but some people need to be treated like **** countless times before they realize it's not all disney land out there Some people need to be treated like crap in order to remain interested. They need the emotional rollercoaster. The feeling people get at the beginning of a relationship, that "spark", is from newness and anxiety of the unknown. The worse the partner, the longer the anxiety stays and the longer those "sparky feelings" stick around. If you did what you could, and it wasn't valued, then you're better off. Breaking NC often leads to learning things you don't want to know, but sometimes that can help you recover...sometimes you need something to PUSH you down the road of recovery. Take the positive from this - now you know you're better off.
Romaks Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 It's no secret that young girls (and guys) just have no idea what they want. Some get lucky and fall in love with a really good guy at a young age, and this kind of screws with their perceptions of things. They don't realize that not all guys are like that, and most are just as clueless and are only interested in sex at this time. Other girls that have had "life experiences" or have dealt with some bad relationships initially, will pour their heart and soul into the ones that come across that are actually really good and based on love and friendship. They will really appreciate you and try their hardest to keep you happy. Either way, they all have to learn the hard way. I guess this is kind of what GIGS is. You just have to learn from it and move on. Don't take things personally and be more careful with the ones you choose to date.
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