irc333 Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Something I've discovered recently. A female friend of mine told me she prefers to get to know someone in a "group" setting as opposed to a one-on-on setting because people behave diffrently one on one as opposed to within a group setting. In a one on one setting people are on their BEST behavior as opposed to getting to know someone in a group setting. For instance, in a group setting you start to get to know them and figure out the elements to their character over time, timeliness, temperament, etc. or basically all the things you would not discover when one on one. Can anyone attest to this? There seems to be a group of people out there that prefer the getting to know you process in a group setting than being taken aside on a one on one basis. Agree, disagree? Or depends on the person.
Lansing Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Is this a girl that you are "interested" in or a true female friend? Because she could have been saying that to you as to not go on "dates" with you She may also be afraid of getting too close to someone or things moving along physically at the early stages so wants to keep things in "group" settings. I think if you are dating someone you should definitely hang out with friends/groups but I don't know if just exclusively hanging out in groups really gives you a good picture of someone. I think you need that one on one to really see if you can connect with someone. Even on one and ones you can see how someone interacts with others, wait staff, random people, etc.
TB Rhine Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Honestly, this just sounds like an attempt to "trick" someone into going out with you (i.e., maybe if I tell them there will be a bunch of other people there, it won't sound like a "date" and they'll be more likely to say yes). If someone's not willing to give you a shot one-on-one, if they wanna play games by planning group activities, inviting friends along, etc... why bother with them? I would tolerate this maybe once, but after that if the person's not comfortable being alone in a room with you, I'd check out of the situation. Just my two cents.
Woop1337 Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Women that are really interested in you, want one one one time. Maybe your friend likes to mess with men she's only half interested in. Thats why she says crazy statements like that.
RedRobin Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I prefer getting to know people in group settings... and yes, I think their true nature comes out that way. These days, doing things one on one = getting frisked by a total stranger and some expectation that it is romantic... when all we are doing is getting to know each other. If I want to have casual sex or sex with someone on the pretense of looking for a 'relationship', I'll just go email back one of those "u r hawt" guys from OLD.
Author irc333 Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 if she insists on too much group settings then i say seeya. Yeah, I knew of a guy that was okay with going to Meetups with a woman or meeting at them...but after so many times, he was pushing to do something alone together. SHe wouldn't budge, so he launched her.
xxoo Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 The obvious answer is to do both. Most people, when dating, will bring their date to social occasions with groups, right? If she doesn't want to do one-on-one, she doesn't want to date you at this point.
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