qila rose Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 my name is qila.18.and just broke up with my ex about 4 weeks ago.he's 2 years younger than me.i've never felt like he's younger than me since he is very matured boy.during our relationship,he show like he really loves me.take care of me.we dated for a year and go to LDR when i have to pursue my study.Then i found that he is not like usual.text me just once a day,and he never asked if i never replied.it's weird..i asked for break up.,i didnt meant it.i just want him to persuade me as he always did that if i asked him for the break up.But on that time,he didnt.I can feel like something wrong.Then i go to his FB account and found that there is a photo of him and another girl! oh gosh.i called him the night after that,and try to talk to him.he said that our relationship is over and he said if i really love him,he want me to wait him.what?! i have to what him here while he with that bit**?i missed him for every second after the break up. :'( http://www.loveshack.org/forums/newthread.php?do=newthread&f=18
Sneaky Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Hey, I read your thread and I am sorry that you are hurting. However I have to say, breaking up in the hopes of being persuaded is very unhealthy behavior for a relationship. That feeling of rejection that you are feeling right now is pretty much what he felt and reading your post you put him through it more than once. I'm sorry if that sounds mean, but that's the way it is. That being said, asking you to wait for him is unfair as well both to the person he's possibly seeing and yourself. I urge you to try and move on and stop checking up on his FB, it will just lead to more hurt. I hope things improve for you. 1
Author qila rose Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 dear sneaky.thanks a lot.i google 'how to make my ex want me back','how to survive' and i read and follow the guide,and i ignored him.its really hurt and i take a lot of patience when he called and texted me and i never answer or reply it.A few guys had asked me for a relationship,but everytime i know about them and getting closer,i started comparing them with him.It's hard to move on.,but like you said,i have to..its hard to let go someone that mean everything to me.im getting stronger now but i still cant over him.
JDPT Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 It's a slow and painful but as times goes on and albeit you may not acknowledge you will start making progress and healing your wounds. Be gentle with yourself and take it a day at a time. Surround yourself with good people, family, and true friends who can provide objective and constructive advice in moments of distress.
Beautiful diamond Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 You are young and he is younger. At his age he just wants sex. He doesn't love you. He doesn't wanna marry you. He is a kid. Cut your losses. All he will do from this point is try to get sex from you, lie to you, use you, and eventually get another girlfriend. Enjoy being young and single. Wait until after college and career to date...
Author qila rose Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 dear beautiful diamond,thanks for your opinion.i've tried to put that on my mind.sometimes i hate him.sometimes i miss him too..i dont know what to do,.my friends gave the different opinions,that i have to fight for my love.im getting more confuse when our mutual friends said that he told her that he really regret for dumping me and his new girlfriend do not treat him as well as me.
Beautiful diamond Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 He wants you back so no one else can have you. He knows another guy would treat you better and make you happy. Don't give in honey! It will be ok.
Author qila rose Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 He dumped me for another girl about 4weeks ago.We still keep in touch as he always contact me sometimes 3 times per week,and almost everyday too.I never act desperate or needy like text him emotionally or call him as i want him back.Is he happy with that girl? is that worth to fight for him?he was really angry when he called me use unknown number since i'd rejected his call for 4 times or something last week.
Zahara Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Of course he got mad when you didn't pick up. You're a doormat. He expects you to be readily available when he calls on you. Call him if you like being his back-up girl. 1
reddragon588 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 He dumped you for another girl and you still keep in touch with him? Why?
Beautiful diamond Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 He dumped me for another girl about 4weeks ago.We still keep in touch as he always contact me sometimes 3 times per week,and almost everyday too.I never act desperate or needy like text him emotionally or call him as i want him back.Is he happy with that girl? is that worth to fight for him?he was really angry when he called me use unknown number since i'd rejected his call for 4 times or something last week. No its not worth fighting for him. Realize this relationship has hurt your self esteem. You deserve a good guy, a faithful guy, not your ex. You will feel better, just give it time...
Author qila rose Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 oh.i want him back.seriously..i called him last night.he call me baby..and said he loves me.he admitted that he's not happy with that girl.he's not really in love with her..he did that cause he was really mad as i said pretty much of bad words to him.he asked me to get back together.i said yes..then i called him just now.he sounds like he dont want to be bother..i called him for second time,but he off the phone. i thought that everything was cleared..is he trully meant that want get back?argh.
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