Real36 Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I went on date 2 with a guy I met through OLD tonight. He is a super nice guy. Lots of compliments, chivalry and won't let me pay for anything. Old fashioned type. I didn't feel a spark with him on our first date but he was so nice I agreed to go out again. He brought me flowers on our 1st date and sent a bouquet to my job yesterday. Today when he picked me up he had made me 3 mixed CDs of music we had talked about on date 1. In between he has texted but not too much and has asked before he called on the phone. He sent me links to a vacation spot he would like to take me to if things go well and has already bought tickets to a concert later in the month. I wanted to give him a good chance because he really likes me but after tonight I am sure that I don't have any romantic chemistry with him. I don't know what to say to him. He asked me to come to his house for dinner on Wednesday. I said yes, it took me by surprise and I was not ready to tell him I didn't feel a connection. I know that I should be upfront and tell him soon. I just need to figure out what to say. Advice?
Froelich87 Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Um.... No? Lol wtf is he being serious right now? Flowers? Mixed CDS? Talking about Vacation with you? NO!!!! Red Flags all over. 2
Froelich87 Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Just tell him the truth. He's moving too fast and that caused you to not even be able to feel a connection (If there ever was going to be one) Please do me a favor... don't be the girl who just wants to let him down "easy" with cliche' BS lines. Because it just hurts more in all honesty. Hope everything goes good!
Never Again Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Honestly? Tell him exactly that. Let me know that he's wonderful, but you're not sure he's a great fit. It may be worth letting him know that he's being a little over-eager as well. Flowers on a first date is nice, but if you add in the CDs, vacation spot, concert, and dinner? He's pushing a little to hard a little too soon, and that's only helping kill the vibe. Eagerness like this can stem from insecurity, and even if you don't realize it, that's probably how you're subconscious is reading it...and there's no bigger chemistry killer.
Author Real36 Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 Thanks. I asked him to take it slow on the first date after he had already given me flowers and tried to hold my hand. I'm trying to get up the courage to tell him. I don't want to cause drama for each of us by putting it off too long. Just have to figure out exactly what I am going to say. I can clearly see that I am not over my recent break up now.
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