Ryman Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 (edited) This will be a bit long but Im SO confused =/ So theres this girl I met on a dating service, she seems super into me calling me cute, telling me Im "super attractive" a lot a lot lol, sending cute good morning texts to me every morning and talking in paragraphs back and forth all day long. Wed even exchange pics from time to time without asking(nothing sexual just like selfies or random pics) and she always talked about wanting to cuddle with me and watch movies lol. She really is a great girl, good with kids, works with them actually, family-oriented, shy and sweet, pretty as well. In my opinion looks-wise I may be out of her league though but shes still pretty but I dont care about that, shes a great person.. Anyways after 2 weeks of amazing back and forth and never running out of things to say, we go for a meet up at a glow-in-the-dark mini golf course Thursday the 3rd. I had to get there 20 mins late to take my grandma to the hospital(my aunt was there I didnt just abandon her lol) but she was cool with it and said we can reschedule, stupid me was too excited to say yea to that. So we meet up and it was really cool, we got along really well, we were the only two there so the employees treated it like a movie lol and we talked for a while. Afterwards we both decided we were too tired for a movie and well save it for another day. She asked what my schedule was like and we landed on Monday for a movie date. We still talked for about an hour just outside before we said our good byes. Btw I grabbed her thigh and held the small of her back often and she seemed completely comfortable with it, as well as standing arm to arm when looking at things. Only problem was with my crazy day I had I felt like I was mentally distant or "out of it" but am unsure =/ Anyways an hour later she sends a pic of her making a funny face at walmart telling me that shes helping her grandma shop real quick. I was kinda relieved because I feel an uninterested girl would never send pics like that to a guy she just met. However she started taking longer to respond than usual, and say if I asked what shes up to she just tells me and doesnt ask "how about you?" after like she used to... also her good morning texts stopped. =/ I said it to her yesterday and she responded but her responses were brief with maybe a few questions asked and like 2 paragraphs from her.. Then today she sent me a pic randomly of herself in her room, and I responded with a comment then howre you and just got "Im gooood lol", so I tell her Im gonna call her on my break at 7 about monday and she says "Okeedokee lol". I call and get no answer and text her to call me. She responds an hour later saying sorry and she was in the shower and getting ready. I asked ready for what and said I can call tomorrow and she says "Lol Im at TGI Fridays now haha" so I asked if its for her cousins bday she was talking about before(to make convo) and confirmed Ill call her tomorrow then and now no response. Ever since the meet up shes stopped responding after like 11-12 at night whereas before shed text me till she fell asleep then send a good morning text and an apology to pick it back up. So whats her deal?? Why keep sending me pics first and randomly at all if she isnt interested?? This behavior was a pretty sudden change. My friend(a girl) said that girls who barely know a guy wouldnt waste any time texting a guy they dont like, especially not first and especially not a pic. She suggested maybe she feels she was coming on to hard and felt Im not interested(I might have been distant that night but Im not really sure) and is trying to back off to not seem desperate. Which is food for thought. Any thoughts on whats going on here would be MUCH appreciated and thank you so much if you read all this!! She seems like a full package and would love to still take her out(she agreed to monday night indirectly 3 times already, she doesnt know the exact plans but suggested well do it that night each time. Thank you!! Edited October 6, 2013 by Ryman
joethedatingguy Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 hey ryman... relationships are a tricky thing particularly with a good looking woman she has a lot of OPTIONS. so the day that you finally met up with her and didn't make a significant enough move by spending time talking to her kissing her moving locations perhaps back to your house for more intimacy she probably considered you to not be bold enough or not interetsted in her enough to make that move. girls have a lot of options and their interest DWINDLES/AUGMENTS day to day. The best move for you is to seek out other girls and hit her up to meet up again whenever she is free. This time you should seal the deal by having things get more intimate
Author Ryman Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 Why does she keep initiating contact with a picture though? And she isnt all that physically attractive, in all honesty maybe a 7 or 7.5 tops.. but Im more attracted to her as a person.. but trust me with this movie date I want to get to on Monday Im planning on at least kissing her. She says shes shy(hell in her profile it was the first thing she said) and Im a bit shy too, but less so than her I would think. Idk, thanks for the answer.
joethedatingguy Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 not a problem bro. you'll find this situation easier to deal with if you have another girl (or two) you're interested in. (she sounds like shes got anothr guy shes interested in as well)
Author Ryman Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 I am talking to another girl as well, but this one just confused the crap out of me and also (used to at least) seemed WAYYYY more interested, hence my confusion. Edit: And again why bother initiating contact with me and with pics no less if she wasnt interested, god Im confused lmao. Thats why what my friend said made me think a bit, Ive never run into this before lol.
deathandtaxes Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 I am talking to another girl as well, but this one just confused the crap out of me and also (used to at least) seemed WAYYYY more interested, hence my confusion. Edit: And again why bother initiating contact with me and with pics no less if she wasnt interested, god Im confused lmao. Thats why what my friend said made me think a bit, Ive never run into this before lol. She was interested. And then she wasn't. And you're confused because you don't know why. That's natural. I second the advice about having other women to go out with. That way you're not all hung up with why this lady isn't texting like she was. Did you ever confirm the movie date? How many dates have you gone on? Just the first?
skweezd Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 In my opinion.... Sorry but she's just not that into you. Her texts are now sounding kind but distant. Just move on and remain friends
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