butterfly4me Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 Hi everyone. While I was at work on Thanksgiving, my boyfriend of four years left me and took our one year old. I am so sick. I just want them back. His family has interfered before, but, he promised he would never go with them again. I haven't heard from him since. He had told me that he loved me so much. We had an argument before I left for work, but, it was no different than arguments we had in the past. What are my chances that he will call or come back? My friends and family are glad that he's gone, but, I can't explain the sick, emptiness that I feel. I almost feel like I can't function. I am going to the DR today, and will get meds if necessary. Any advice on when I might hear from him? He's staying with his parents two states away, and I think they are keeping him from calling me. They are leaving on a week's cruise on Sat, and maybe then he'll call. Please help
gwennebe Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 Oh MY!! You poor thing!! I can't imagine the pain you are in at the moment. He just left and took your child? Were you two married at all? Does his family not like you? Had you been having a lot of problems up to this point? I think it is very wrong to take your child away from you and not even be in contact. That is just wrong not matter what the circumstances are. Do you have his family's phone number or address where he may be staying. I don't know much about child laws or anything but I think something should be able to be done about him just taking your child away from you. hmmmm.
moimeme Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 Unless it's your stepchild, he's not allowed to just take the child. Call the police and charge him with kidnapping.
FreeMe Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 Originally posted by moimeme Unless it's your stepchild, he's not allowed to just take the child. Call the police and charge him with kidnapping. Exactly what I was thinking. You should have called the police the day he left.
bluechocolate Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 He's staying with his parents two states away, and I think they are keeping him from calling me. He's taken your son out of state?! As the others have mentioned - Why haven't you called the police?
morrigan Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 Just echoing what everyone else has said--notify the police in your city/county what has happened right now! Your boyfriend can have charges brought against him, but you have to get the legal ball rolling.
Mary3 Posted December 4, 2004 Posted December 4, 2004 May I ask if you have any drug or alcohol problems or problems with mental illness ? I only ask this because it seems your son is gone and perhaps your husband took the child to protect him ? Not knowing your facts about the situation I do apologize for assuming. But if this is correct could you possibly need to get some help ? The red flag is that your son is gone and you have made no moves to contact the authorities ( police ) . Assuming..... If you do get help hopefully you can work toward being with your son again. I also stress too that if he took the child out of state this is illegal and as a parent you have rights.
Author butterfly4me Posted December 4, 2004 Author Posted December 4, 2004 yes, I have contacted the authorities, and since we have no custody agreement and he is the father, it is absolutely legal. Unfortunately, I am broke, have no money for a lawyer, and his parents are supporting him. So, even though this may seem illegal, it is not. Unless it happens to you, you would not understand the repercussions of being a person with little money. I have friends that were married with money, and they fought out the custody thing, 10,000 later, they are all appealing. I don't even have 100 to spare. I called legal aid and there has been no response as of yet. Understand that without money and a plan to have care for the child--I travel for a living,==a woman is pretty much at of luck. No drugs or alcohol have any bearing. But, many people who have not been in this position do not understand. I was taking care of us all on my meager income.. He was staying at home, with a very supportive family, two states away. This is not the first time his family came and took him and the child
jcweik Posted December 4, 2004 Posted December 4, 2004 Sadly enough, cops will do nothing. My sister went through the same thing. It isn not considered a crime because he is one of the parents. Different states and different laws.
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