justlooking463 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 ok, so my ex and u split in the middle if August, hadlittle contact in the beginning, then u went total NC for a few weeks, one Friday she asked if she Could stop by and get some if her things, i said ok, so i met her at my place, helped her get get things, i was kind of cold towards her, she stuck around and we talked.she couldn't keep her hands off me. We flirted And one thing led to another and well u know the rest. She stayed for about5 hrs that night, she kept telling me how much she loved me and wanted to come back, she had another guy in the picture right now, but she is ending it soon, like within the next few days, but this past week had been incredible between us, been talking everyday. She keeps telling me how much she regrets leaving me and wishes she never had and even begging me for another chance. She's coming back tho, i know she is. We always had a great relationship, never ever fought our argued, always did things together, I I've never been happier than i was when i was with her and she feels the same way. I can't wait for her to come back!
Mariposa10 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 So she's pretty much gonna go from having sex with this new guy to have sex with you in a matter of days? How can people do this? Shouldn't they be a little bit on their own at least?? Wish you good luck, hopefully you won't get the "I'm confused" phrase again in the future. My only advice is: take things super slowly. 4
melell Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 This is hard, because things may resurface. Bottom line is that as long as you are okay with any outcome then everything will be fine.
Airwave2020 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 (edited) So she's pretty much gonna go from having sex with this new guy to have sex with you in a matter of days? How can people do this? Shouldn't they be a little bit on their own at least?? Wish you good luck, hopefully you won't get the "I'm confused" phrase again in the future. My only advice is: take things super slowly. i don't evem know how people do this... the woman leaves, screws other guys for a couple of weeks... then comes back... you welcome her with open arms! how could you even trust that person again? some other dude has been pounding your woman, get it? Edited October 5, 2013 by Airwave2020 5
hotpotato Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Red flags abound. So,what does it feel like to be her rebound dude? 1
Mariposa10 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 My ex tried doing this to me, I ran for the hills and started NC. I get physically ill just by the thought of him touching me or kissing me, and we were together for four almost five years... Imagine what if he got confused again?
hotpotato Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 i don't evem know how people do this... the woman leaves, screws other guys for a couple of weeks... then comes back... you welcome her with open arms! how could you even trust that person again? some other dude has been pounding your woman, get it? Unless she was a virgin, other guys were already pounding her. Now, if she was dating them both at the same time then left for the other guy, I get the frustration. Im more upset by him being treated as a cushion, but the mentality in the bolded part I do not get. ETA: This is a good example of why you shouldnt hold on to an ex's stuff. It's an excuse for them to come back and manipulate you. Ship it to them if you have to. Give it to a mutual friend. Whatever you did, get rid of it! 2
Mariposa10 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 I just went through your old threads... You're the guy who had sex with the ex while she was with someone else...This is such a red flag.... You should revisit your first thread, so you remember how bad you were feeling. I'm not saying it's wrong to take your ex back after she/he left you for someone else, you're free to do whatever you want. The problem is how you've been doing this. Have you thought about the message you're sending your ex by acting like this? So forgiving and available all the time? 3
Phoe Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 She's not coming back dude. The "she's leaving within the next few days" will turn into "She'll leave by November" to "Now's not a good time for her to leave, but she will soon". Nope. If she was 100% sure she wanted you and not the other dude she already would've left him. Immediately. She's not coming back... 4
hotpotato Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 My ex tried doing this to me, I ran for the hills and started NC. I get physically ill just by the thought of him touching me or kissing me, and we were together for four almost five years... Imagine what if he got confused again? I think these people are always confused because they are bouncing from one person to another. They can't be alone. They dont think about what they want or how their behaviors affect themselves and others.
happydate Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 ok, so my ex and u split in the middle if August, hadlittle contact in the beginning, then u went total NC for a few weeks, one Friday she asked if she Could stop by and get some if her things, i said ok, so i met her at my place, helped her get get things, i was kind of cold towards her, she stuck around and we talked.she couldn't keep her hands off me. We flirted And one thing led to another and well u know the rest. She stayed for about5 hrs that night, she kept telling me how much she loved me and wanted to come back, she had another guy in the picture right now, but she is ending it soon, like within the next few days, but this past week had been incredible between us, been talking everyday. She keeps telling me how much she regrets leaving me and wishes she never had and even begging me for another chance. She's coming back tho, i know she is. We always had a great relationship, never ever fought our argued, always did things together, I I've never been happier than i was when i was with her and she feels the same way. I can't wait for her to come back! Always keep in mind that you have to protect yourself against STI. I dated a woman once like this and all she wanted was to have unprotected sex with me. She was so sweet; almost like Shania Twain except she ain't. While creaming her was joyful and nice (feeling wise were both mutual), she neglected to tell me that she was also banging her ex-boyfriend unprotected or whoever she felt like banging unprotected. She didn't even care if she got pregnant either though she's always on top on her pill regimen. In the end, she caught something. Told me after the fact and gave the scare of my life. Pretty much the next few months were dreadful because I was waiting for my indepth STI test result. Thankfully I got lucky and didn't catch anything. Suffice to say; be very very careful having sex with this girl. It's not worth catching something. If she doesn't care about her vagina or her self-worth and down her value as a woman, stay with her ONLY if you enjoy the sex and that the sex is safely done. Otherwise, it's not worth the trouble and the headache and the broken heart when you do fall back in love with her again. Hope this helps.
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 when you find something that works, keep doing it. obviously don't start acting like an *hole, but.. keep being cool. you have to plant the seed in her mind that you have got plenty of options of other girls..and that you don't NEED her. women are almost always unattracted to needy behaviour. it can be hard if you love someone a lot and you want to show your emotions... but don't show it all. give it to her in small drops. dont pour the whole jug in one go.. ull shoot yourself in the foot and undo everything. This is a wise game plan in any RS. Women, well all people, want what they can't have or aren't sure about. If they know you are there no matter what... they're gone!!
Author justlooking463 Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 We are taking things Very slow right now, she just left the other guy today, which us awesome! I'm not really counting on anything, i just want to take things slow and see what happens, we see each other every day only for about a half An hr to an hr, i do not want to go through what i went through last time. I'm being very cautious, trying to protect myself, i do love her alot, I've never felt like this about anyone before. She wants to eventually move back in, but i am def not going to rush it. We both want things to work this time, as for get sleeping with me while she was with him, she wasn't that into him, she said they never sleot together, and no i do not believe that, so before i get torn up for saying it, that's just what she said, I'm sure she did sleep with him. I'm not that naive. She never cheated on me, i know this for a fact bc we were ALWAYS together! She had no time to. We have a very good relationship, it just ultimately came down to my children not being respectful and very well disciplined, which i have been working on. i want it to work, but than there are other times, like right now, I'm thinking i should just walk away and move on so this doesn't happen again. I know she def needs to prove alot to me first and she says she's going to prove it to me, so i will def need to see that before i get to invested into it. it really doesn't matter if i move on, it will happen again with some other girl, they always do it to me, so why not try this again abbr if it happens again, then i will be done with relationships totally!
Stealth3 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Dude...stop setting yourself up for failure. She didn't leave the other guy, get that through your head. It didn't work with the other guy, for whatever reason. Either she found out he is not who she thought it was or he didn't want her. She will come back to you but in the meantime always look around until the next opportunity. Then she will leave you again. She doesn't want you, she just doesn't want to be single and wants what you have to offer until the next guy fills your spot. Run and don't look back or you will be back here later crying and asking wtf went wrong. 2
Stealth3 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 You said she didn't cheat on you because she had no time...well what do you think the breakup was? It was a way for her to make time. She wanted to make sure you were always available in case things wouldnt work out and she needed to come back....
Salvatore85 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Not trying to sound like a jerk but I read stuff like this and it makes me so proud of myself that I don't want my ex back.
ponchsox Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Stop being controlled by someone. You're going to get hurt again.
oracle Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Regards to your upcoming misery express, hope you like rough rides! Best indicator of future behaviour is past behaviour
LostOne1 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Red flags abound. So,what does it feel like to be her rebound dude? You forgot he also is getting some sloppy seconds too...
LostOne1 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 She never cheated on me, i know this for a fact bc we were ALWAYS together! Yikes. No healthy couple is 'always together'... my aunt and uncle are... they are inseparable.. I always see them hanging out or taking part in each others hobbies and activities almost all the time I run into them. Or maybe they just have a really good match as two people. 1
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