He wont date me unless we have sex?

[hppr]

His last girlfriend he dated for 14 months. And i guess they were never able to have comfortable sex during that whole time because he was too big for her. So now he wants to make sure its not gonna be the same.

 

Is his name John? Just wondering.

[Shocksock]

Obvious out come of this situation.

She will have sex with the guy who only wants a FWB situation.

She will get hurt and come back to make a topic about it when that happens.

 

On the other hand people should be more leniant as both parties are still in there teens with 1 not knowing what they want and the other being painfuly naive.

[FitChick]

OP should ask his ex-girlfriend what really happened.

[Titania22]

What I told my daughter when she has had boyfriends pressuring her for sex is,

 

Only have sex if you want to have sex, i.e. you have the desire within you building and making you want it.

 

Don't have sex to please someone else, and don't have sex as a negotiation tool.

 

 

You can't control what happens with the guy after the sex, but at least if you wanted the sex, you can feel happy knowing that at the time you wanted it, and therefore there is no need for regret, regardless how the relationship (or lack thereof) pans out.

 

Also in my daughters case, she wants the occasion of losing her virginity to be special, i.e. she wants the guy the make at least some effort to be romantic (accepting that the actually event might be disappointing due to lack of experience on both sides), so I have told her she should hold out for a guy who is willing to make that effort, because let's face it, you only get the first time once.

 

BTW she is the same age as you OP.

 

I agree with the others that his aversion to kissing is a red flag. But I don't have a problem with players if they know what they are doing with regard to seduction, because sex is better when you are really turned on (and I mean REALLY).