clumzboy Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 hey....my girlfriend has TMJ....temporomandibular joint disorder....her jaw hurts and sometimes she has to take anti-inflammatory medication....it hurts when she tries to perform oral sex on me and has to stop....i feel bad that she is in pain when she tries to do it....and she gets frustrated....it's obviously no fun for me either....i think i would feel uncomfortable asking her to take medication ahead of time when we are together just so that she can do it....she didn't have it when we met, but then she suffered head trauma....no pun intended of course....anyone out there that has had experience with TMJ that can give me some advice???
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 Sex shouldn't hurt. Try to find another way for her to please you that you can both agree on.
heckno Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 Not much you can do. I have TMJ and it's a bitch to live with. My jaw pops when I yawn, eat, you name it, even oral sex can be difficult, as with your gf. You can suggest she take her meds, but those wont always help. Although, I did have a facial/ jaw massage once, for an hour, and didn't have ANY issues for a few months after. There are also certain types of neck wear that the dentist can advise her on that relieve the stress and make tmj more tolerable without the use of drugs. I've heard some people actually have no problems with their tmj after wearing these types of braces. You can suggest these to her to make her more comfortable.. But as far as the sex goes, she can still go down on you without putting her entire mouth around you. I mean, if you want some sort of oral stimulation she can use a hand, and at the same time lick the most sensitive parts with a flick of the tongue... so you still get some oral pleasure and she gets to give it to you with less pain.
allina Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 How about you concentrate on HER treating her disorder first so that she isn't in pain period then on how she can please you, so you don't have to feel bad. God you sound selfish, glad I'm noy her
Merin Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 Has your GF gone to see a specialist regarding her TMJ In some cases mild TMJ can be corrected...
SoleMate Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 I sympathize with this problem. You don't sound selfish to me. I do have a mild case of TMJ, but it does not interfere with daily life. I suggest that she consult with her TMJ specialist on this. If it is too embarrassing to ask the questions, then she can write them on a piece of paper and hand it to her doctor. Or even her dentist (ask for a private consukltation room first). Even without TMJ, the reality is that oral sex on a male can be tiring to the jaw. I recommend reading a lot of tips about different motions, positions, etc. and trying them all. Try Googling "oral sex jaw".
tiki Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 I have been told that I have TMJ also. My jaws hurt often. Does she grit her teeth at night? She may need a nightguard if this is the case. Go easy on her and be understanding. If I give my SO a BJ from the side, it KILLS my jaw, I I give it from the front, I'm good to go for a while. The side angle of his penis is much wider than the front angle. And better accessible. Is she giving you BJ's from the side? Have her try giving her BJ from the front only. Just be patient with her. And she may need to be on a maintenance dose of an anti-inflammatory if it's that out of hand.
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