alexjames Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 She is 18 and I am 21. We have been together for just around 3 weeks. We bacame ''facebook official'' a few days ago. She told me when we got together that she doesn't like to see her boyfriend too much. She said a couple of times a week at most. We both work awkward times, so it's actually sometimes really hard to find time to see her. Aswell as this, her mum is really protective and doesn't let her out much, so when I do see her it's only for a couple of hours here and there, she isn;t even allowed to come round mine because her mum doesn't like it! I am going to a friends' 21st party Tonight and she is coming with me. I told herwe are going up town after it's finished, but she said she doesn't want to ever go clubbing with me as she would rather just do that with friends. Is this normal? She is still a virgin and would never cheat on me or kiss another guy etc, BUT she has told me that if she goes out with her mates and have a lot to drink that she wouldn't be able to control her actions and may end up kissing a guy without wanting too! She told me she turned a guy down for sex when she was on a family holiday last week. I really like her, she is amazingly pretty (too hot maybe as she gets ALL the guys attention) but it just worries me why she wouldn't want to go out for a night etc with me. She said it's important to have our own liveswhich is true, but surely we should spend some time together? Please don't suggest ending it with her as thats the last thing I want, just some advice if possible please?!
Author alexjames Posted October 5, 2013 Author Posted October 5, 2013 She is also really naive, so when a guy likes her, she takes it as a compliment and think its sweet and will un knowingly flirt with him and give off wrong signals... its really hard
bubbaganoosh Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Your taking an 18 year old girl clubbing? Where are you from? The U.S.? First of all, her Mother isn't doing anything wrong. The girl is only 18 and just because you turn 18 and 'they" say your an adult, is bull $h!t. She's still a kid and I ever found out that my 18 year old was seeing a 21 year old, I would have a problem especially if she met him on FB. Second of all, if I found out you took my 18 year old daughter clubbing, you could bet everything you own that the word "clubbing" would be an accurate description of what I would be doing to your a$$. From what you have said about her she sound like 18 going on 16. Move on before you get in trouble and come to regret it.
Author alexjames Posted October 5, 2013 Author Posted October 5, 2013 Your taking an 18 year old girl clubbing? Where are you from? The U.S.? First of all, her Mother isn't doing anything wrong. The girl is only 18 and just because you turn 18 and 'they" say your an adult, is bull $h!t. She's still a kid and I ever found out that my 18 year old was seeing a 21 year old, I would have a problem especially if she met him on FB. Second of all, if I found out you took my 18 year old daughter clubbing, you could bet everything you own that the word "clubbing" would be an accurate description of what I would be doing to your a$$. From what you have said about her she sound like 18 going on 16. Move on before you get in trouble and come to regret it. First off all, we met through one of my work mates, where did it say we met on facebook? Secondly, I have met her mum a few times and we get on well, she likes me. Would you rather your daughter going clubbing and meet a bunch of drunk men you or her have never met, who are looking for fun, or with a guy you know, who treats her daughter right and who looks after her? I am from the UK, but don't see what that really matters. I am not going to just leave her for no reason. I was asking for some advice, not to have wrongful assumptions made up about me and this girl....
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Not sure why people are freaking out over an 18 year old dating a 21 year old, or an 18 year old clubbing. Where I'm from (UK) plenty of teenagers start clubbing aged about 14/15, when they find a club they can get into without ID. At 18 she's an adult and can do what she likes with who she likes, she's two years over the age of sexual consent, she can vote, get married without parental permission, work to keep a roof over her head, etc. etc. Having said that, OP, she sounds immature if she's still in a place where her mother dictates to her what she can/can't do. It's down to her mother to express what she finds acceptable in her house, sure, but it doesn't bode too well if she is so protective that she doesn't want her going round to your house. She doesn't even sound that into you anyway; find a girlfriend who is a little more mature and who wants to spend time with you rather than pushing you away and placing restrictions on what your relationship will look like. 1
Silly_Girl Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Exactly what ATU said, on both counts. OP, find someone who fits you.
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