in despair, 2 week ex and my "friend" are dating

[heartbroken1357]

I was just coming to terms with a split that I had no real explanation for other then

"We didn't work" despite how well I treated this girl, she played me cheated on me

And lied too me.

 

She begged me too take her back 2 months ago after I found out

And I forgave her as she genuinely seemed like she realised it was a mistake

I lived with her for another 6 weeks until one night I found she had lied

Yet again and had been out on dates and had been sending pictures too other guys

I packed my stuff and left she had a guy round that night and slept with him

And she seemed really happy then that fell apart after a week.

2 days ago shes asks me to come round and says she has something to tell me

And that shes dating one of my "friends"

 

Not just any friend the one mate that helped me through my last breakup

When my ex cheated and left me for a mate.

 

I feel so much pain right now, is she doing this to hurt me?

Why do my friends have such little respect for me?

I feel so cursed right now

 

I know I deserve better she slept with 3 guys including me in the space for 10 days

I just feel so sick

[faithfully]

OMG sooo sorry to hear about this, such a low and disgusting thing anybody can ever do, ITS NOT FOR ME TO JUDGE but this girl is CLEARLY NOT GOOD FOR YOU. And as your "friend" its a line you never ever cross.

 

SHAME ON BOTH OF THEM!!!! DISGUSTING!!! Hope you can get over her. Easier for me to me but that's the only way you can move on.

 

SHE DOES NOT DESERVE YOU AT ALL. WHAT A BITCH!!!!!

[LostOne1]

OMG sooo sorry to hear about this, such a low and disgusting thing anybody can ever do, ITS NOT FOR ME TO JUDGE but this girl is CLEARLY NOT GOOD FOR YOU. And as your "friend" its a line you never ever cross.

 

SHAME ON BOTH OF THEM!!!! DISGUSTING!!! Hope you can get over her. Easier for me to me but that's the only way you can move on.

 

SHE DOES NOT DESERVE YOU AT ALL. WHAT A BITCH!!!!!

yeah your bud is an idiot.. the least he SHOULD have done is ASKED you if it would be okay.

 

Then again.. I'd never go out with my best friends ex. Things get too weird and plus it was your best friends ex.. it just feels weird..

 

It's time to move on my friend and this time... for good!

[coolheadal]

Not good sign here a lot of negative energy towards you from her and so call friends, I am getting just reading what you had type. First no more contact with her or anyone you know that gone behind your back to be with her which has to be your intent now. Your trust and respect for this person and all those involved with her has gone down empty pit of shame.

 

Now you have to pull yourself together get back on the positive side. Can you take a long trip go to another town or city or even leave the country for a while. To get over the pain from it all. I don't recommend being in the same area where this person resides as she knows she can still get to you and make you feel as you do now.

 

Those so called friends of yours going behind your back to be with her that's even so low.

 

Right now you have to think of THE NOW! Get yourself esteem back for one. Need to be positive once again. Going to take time for you to get over all this and start with a new life and new people for this new quest. Leave the past behind you for good!

[heartbroken1357]

She's already lieing to him, reacons we've been split for 4 months when I moved out 2 weeks ago, which he knows must be cloudee by the wrong head im guessing, I'd never go there.

 

I mean she's done so much to hurt me yet I can't hate her and im struggling

Lies after lies, flirting and messaging my mates, sleeping around

And cheating, I just don't understand girls who want to be like that

I couldn't possibly live with myself

[Fashiongal]

I would never talk to either of them again. Your friend is absolutely disgusting. I would expect it from her though. She has no respect for herself by sleeping with all of these guys so how can she possibly respect you? I'm really sorry. That is really heartbreaking. Its sad that in this world you can only trust yourself.

[devilish innocent]

Do you have any indication that your friend slept with her other than what she told you? The reason I ask is because she seems like the sort of person who would make up something like that simply to cause trouble.

 

If they did sleep together, you should realize this says absolutely nothing about you. It's completely about the type of people they are. It sucks, but try to look at it as a learning experience. Now you can cut the toxic people out of your life. There are plenty of decent people in this world as well. Once you adjust and are ready to move on, you'll find that your life will be better without the wrong people in it.

[Leigh 87]

I read a few lines of your post and it is just bloody obvious mate..

 

These people are of low quality and they do not really hold common decency and integrity in very high regard.

 

To be happy in life, and I mean the happiest person you can be, it is best to avoid sumbags, losers, and idiots who sleep with their friends exes and cheat and lie.

 

Only associate with people who do not do these sort of things.

[heartbroken1357]

Thanks for the input guys, i cant move out of the country because of my new job here and I've just moved into my own house, i go past his everyday for work, bit of a killer.

 

I know i deserve better and she has treated me like ****, it's just easier said then done as we did have good times.

 

I'm really struggling tonight and that's with distractions i don't understand why im hurting over someone i should hate, i almost hate myself for letting it get too me soo much, I wish i had stuck to my guns and not got back with her now.

[heartbroken1357]

Do you have any indication that your friend slept with her other than what she told you? The reason I ask is because she seems like the sort of person who would make up something like that simply to cause trouble.

 

If they did sleep together, you should realize this says absolutely nothing about you. It's completely about the type of people they are. It sucks, but try to look at it as a learning experience. Now you can cut the toxic people out of your life. There are plenty of decent people in this world as well. Once you adjust and are ready to move on, you'll find that your life will be better without the wrong people in it.

 

she has told me so, and i wouldn't put it past her, she was parked outside his last night when i traveled past, despite the fact they both told me they'd take a step back, once again shows what selfish liars the pair are

[hotpotato]

Makes me want to vomit.

 

Maybe it's time for some new friends...

[Salvatore85]

I was with my ex for 5 years and she started dating someone I considered a friend 3 weeks after we broke up...it's painful as hell and you just need to do what I did and get away from all of it.

[bubbaganoosh]

Why would you want her back? She lied to you. She cheated on you. She has no problem hurting you by dating your friend with no guilt so why would you want someone like that.

 

Be glad she's gone. It's your buddies problem now. let him deal with her. Go find a girl with some dignity and class because she lacks both.

[lookingforbalance]

heartbroken, same thing happened to me. bubbaganoosh is exactly right, its his problem now. We were together a year and a half, I told him we were having issues, he started sniffing her on fb. She got freaked out and told me about it, said she could never do that because he was my friend,and un-friended him. A month or so later I notice they are friends on fb again. I really didn't think much about it at the time. A month later she dumps me but she continues to contact me for the next 3 weeks, then nothing, don't hear from her at all. A week later she announces she is in a relationship with him, and never been happier in her life. This is something I would expect from a high school girl, not a 32 yr old woman with two kids. She allowed me to get close to her daughters, her and the girls all were at my place more than they were home, the younger daughter was like my own child, we were that close. She told me I could no longer see the girls since we were no longer in a relationship. My heart was truly shattered, and when I found out she was with my friend, it was like her running over my heart with the car after she broke it.

When I found out I went and confronted him, and told him he was nothing but a f**king coward to his face.

She called me the next day, worried that I was going to do something to cause her to lose her job (we work at the same place), I told her that its really sad that she would think that I would do that after all I have given of myself to her and how much I truly loved her. Then I told her she was his problem now and that she would never hear from me again. That was 28 days ago, and I am on the road to heal, determined not to backtrack at all. Some moments are definitely harder than others, and I struggle with it every day. At some point I have to get over the feeling of wanting an apology from her, as the reality is that I will never get that. The hardest part is that she has done something that could never be repaired, even if I got to the point to forgive her, I would be giving up my self respect if she was ever truly sorry and wanted to try again. It is lost forever, and that is hard for me. But it does force me to focus forward, understand and accept my mistakes in the relationship, and look forward to something new and better when I am over this. They are right when they say you don't these type of people in your life. They are showing their true colors, and will most likely never be happy in their own relationships until they make changes for better within themselves. Hang in there, you are not alone.

[heartbroken1357]

dude straight up...usually if i think it maybe worth for someone to get back with their ex i tell them. sometimes people break up for silly reasons and it maybe worth them getting back together... sometimes. but you need to ask yourself this. when you look at your wife, do you want to think that she slept with 3 or 4 different guys in such a short space of time.. then went out with one of your friends? im pretty sure you wouldn't. so if you wouldn't want that from your future wife... don't waste your time with this chick any more. she needs help.

 

the reason this girl is playing you like this, is because you are too genuine and forgiving and she KNOWS it. you are too "nice". she knows that you 'arent going anywhere'. which is why she feels like she can take the p***.

 

know your worth man. when she goes to the toilet, it stinks just as much as any one elses. i can GUARANTEE you, that you would be able to get a woman who is not only more physically beautiful and sexy than this little skankbag(sorry man), but who has a much better personality also.

 

when she texts you... ignore her. act like you don't care at all. let her realise that your going out and having fun. and then watch how her attitude towards you changes. and then if she starts trying to come to you again...start blowing her off... but make excuses. it will start to play with her mind and bother her..why.. because she doesnt feel like she has CONTROL over you. you are your own man.

 

you need to decide... do you want her back... or would you want someone else. if i were to put her in front of you... and then put nicole sherzinger infront of you... and either one could be your wife/gf... ask yourself who would you pick. in this scenario..nicole has a nice personality.. your ex has your exes personality.

 

let me know who you would pick and then ill tell you what it means : )

 

 

I was an idiot and made a mistake but I guess thats what love does to you, it makes you blind, she is a stunningly beautiful girl but there is better out there, when she takes her makeup off though she just looks like everybody else, I can see now I've made 3 mistakes nowin picking girls that look stunning, but have the personality and morals of a doormat.

 

She is a manipulative, selfish, lieing, cheating, attention seeking bitch and while the pain is raw as hell I know I deserve so much better, they are both ignoring me so they clearly know they are in the wrong, end of the day she has so many bad traits and habits and she said she deserved better, hah? Reallly I mean, she must be tapped she treated me like absoloute ****

And over the last 48 hours I've come to realise that, I come in and out of feeling like crap but I quess thats natural, she told him we had been split up 4 months makes me realise how **** of a liar she is, she deleted loads of stuff off my phone and said we could be friends if I didn't tell people the details, well sorry but **** her, I have restored my phone and have chat logs if her asking me for sex 4 weeks ago, and I will tell people EXACTLY what she's all about.

 

I've had friends over all week and had a great house party last night,

I'm also going to hit the gym 3 days a week and swim the other 2, spend the time I've now gained back to better myself, I just hope this realisation isn't temporary, and I start to feel **** again at work this week.

[Beautiful diamond]

She is doing this too hurt you. Please never speak to her again. You are a good guy. You know how many women pray for a man like you. Don't be bitter or sad, my friend, I commend you for your character.

 

Next time really get to know a woman before dating or moving in. Something in you attracted such a bad woman. Work on whatever that is.

[heartbroken1357]

She is doing this too hurt you. Please never speak to her again. You are a good guy. You know how many women pray for a man like you. Don't be bitter or sad, my friend, I commend you for your character.

 

Next time really get to know a woman before dating or moving in. Something in you attracted such a bad woman. Work on whatever that is.

 

I just found out yesterday she has been bad mouthing me too people and she said "i need to grow up and get a life", to which my reply was "you need to grow up and learn to close your legs" that felt good, good but spiteful, but i've grown to hate her, now i found out today she had a threesome and slept with another guy who is a known get around in the same week, she literally drove there had sex with him and then left, probably came back to me that night, actually makes me sick, god knows what she could have passed onto me, it angers me people like this breathe the same air as me, Karma is going to bite her so hard in the arse one day

she played me and many others, I'm over her already, and iv'e been soo happy the last couple of days and i've met someone else but being careful not to rush things too quick, i think my problem is going for overly attractive girls and treating them too nicely, but that's my nature, how can i change who I truly am? and why would I want too, I'm sure one day I'll find a genuine woman who actually wants a faithful loyal and caring guy..