faithfully Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Just soooo confused right now. My boyfriend of a year broke up with me 2 weeks ago because he needs to "sort his life out" he has been depressed due to losing his job 5months ago too. Found an innocent conversation msg I sent to my ex who lives in a different city to me- which as led him to say he doesn't trust me and hasn't since the start of our relationship but thought he would give me the benefit of the doubt. I was upset, begged for a few days, cried still do now. Met up with him and he confirmed it was definitely over so I initiated to be friends and civil hoping maybe we could get back together. After discovering this website and read some post decided to go NC (lasted for 4 days) Picked him up 2 days ago when he finished work as it was raining and felt bad on him coz he didn't have transport and was kinda an excuse to see him on my part. That day we went back to my apartment to pick up his stuff and clarified the friendship, asked if he means friends with benefit- which he then replied and said "noo it would just complicate things and its not fair to do that to you as you are a really nice person and the best girlfriend ive ever had". The thing is right now I want him as a partner, not a friend. SHOULD I JUST DISTANCE MYSELF AWAY AND GO COMPLETELY NO CONTACT OR SHOULD I TELL HIM I'M GOING NO CONTACT??? just any advice would help that's all I want please. WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS OR NOT???
Mz_sassy_77 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 I just dont see how friends can ever work unless the BU was totally mutual. I mean I dont want to hang out with my ex when he gets a new GF, I dont want to hear about his love life. I dont see how a romantic relationship can ever change over to just a friendship without someone having hope to get back together. I think it just prolongs the pain and being able to move on too. 1
Fashiongal Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 That seems like such a small issue to break up with someone over. It sounds like an excuse to end things. I would never be friends with an ex. Friendship is the bonus of a relationship. No relationship, no friendship.
Author faithfully Posted October 5, 2013 Author Posted October 5, 2013 thanks guys SO should I just simply delete and disappear and let him miss me or should I tell me i'm gonna stay away from him before NC??
Fashiongal Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Just simply disappear. If he calls or texts you, respond back hours later with short answers. Don't return any calls, just send a short text.
Johnsmith100 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 I've been seeing a girl for 8 months that has been one of my best friends for 10 years. She's called it off and now I have to go no contact. Hardest thing about it being I can't be there for her anymore even as a friend.
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