figuringitoutx Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 My ex and I broke up about a year and a half ago or so. We've been NC for about 4 months now (I mean this in a completely NC. Before that we were off and on NC which always ended up with me contacting him.) Anyway, it seems lately that I just miss him. I mean, it's like every little thing has been reminding me of him or what we did or this one time we did x y or z and then I'll think about it and I don't know. I just want to stop missingh im.
Frank13 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 (edited) My ex and I broke up 20 months ago. Went 11 months N/C followed by the past 9 months of N/C. I was doing well and not even thinking of her most days. Then these past 3 days I have been missing her like crazy. Sometimes I feel like I am back at day one. I don't know what triggered it. I never wanted to see her again. Now I am feeling like contacting her and asking to be friends. I feel anxious and am rehashing past events and jealousies. I am hoping this is just my heart and minds way of purging her from my system forever. Edited October 5, 2013 by Frank13
Mr Scorpio Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 My ex and I broke up about a year and a half ago or so. We've been NC for about 4 months now (I mean this in a completely NC. Before that we were off and on NC which always ended up with me contacting him.) I just want to stop missingh im. Have you dated anyone since then?
Mr Scorpio Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 I feel anxious and am rehashing past events and jealousies. I am hoping this is just my heart and minds way of purging her from my system forever. Just one man's opinion, but in my experience, that isn't what is going on. You need to resist the urge to rehash those past events. You need to resist thinking about her before it becomes a habit. 1
JoelBarish Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Just one man's opinion, but in my experience, that isn't what is going on. You need to resist the urge to rehash those past events. You need to resist thinking about her before it becomes a habit. I think I finally got over my OLD ex when my recent ex broke up with me It's okay that it's been a long time and you are still not over them. Your feelings are fine and don't be ashamed for having them. I find that when I've been stuck on an ex it's when I keep reliving the good times in my head. If you find yourself thinking of your ex in a good way, catch yourself and think of the bad things instead.
lindsay1990 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 You and me both, sister. I was also hung up on a guy for a year and a half - until I met my recent ex. Have you dated at all? I know people say this, but it really did help me to love and feel lovable someplace else. Otherwise, I'd probably be in the same place now. 1
Author figuringitoutx Posted October 5, 2013 Author Posted October 5, 2013 Thanks guys. I have dated, in the sense that I've gone out on a few dates with one guy, and a few dates with another, but I'm not really ready for another relationship yet and while I am enjoying meeting new people and everything, it's still bit difficult to not remember "Oh, I came to the cornmaze with the ex." or something like that. My ex was my first boyfriend and my first love perse, we dated for a while and I'm still moving on from it, I just feel like at this point I shouldn't be. Who knows.
jack237 Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 In my experience, having had 4 serious relationships (age 34), and by serious I mean 2 or more years dating: I never fully get over an ex until I have a new ex. Meaning - I didnt get over (at least fully) with my first love, until my 2nd love fell apart. Then, I realized it was my current/2nd girlfriend that I truly loved. Didnt get over girl 2 until girl 3 ended. Just my opinion, but I think it makes sense to long for what you've lost and the most recent relationship would leave the largest wound.
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