Having lots of books about sex on living room bookcase, good or bad?

[Antenna_Of_Destiny]

I'm not ashamed of human sexuality and see no reason to be. I would even have unused fleshlights on display if it wasn't for all the ignorant intolerant people.

 

I have a large bookcase, one shelf is now entirely populated with books about sex and relationships. Everything from the "mechanics" of great sex, to the pick up, to tantra, kama sutra, to illustrated picture books, cunninglus instruction manuals, formal academic analyses of sex and relationships, casual relationships, serious relationships, hook ups, etc.

 

If you are at someone's house and see a bunch books on the shelf about sex, would it alter your perception of him in any way? What if it is the initial stages of dating?

 

 

 

Think books like

 

"Oral Sex That'll Blow Her Mind: An Illustrated Guide to Giving Her Amazing Orgasms"

 

"Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship"

 

"Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the 21st Century"

 

"She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman"

 

"The Modern Kama Sutra"

 

"The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists"

[darkmoon]

I would see promiscuity, you need somebody who is not fazed by this, imho, you do not look like you want to settle down so much as play, up to you what you have on your bookshelf, but I would be wary of you, sorry loverboy xx

[Ronni_W]

It depends entirely on if or not the woman has a healthy, positive outlook on sex in general, her own sexuality, body image; on if or not she desires, expects for herself happy, healthy, fulfilling sexual relations.

 

You might want to find out where she stands before you take her home...seems to me to be likely that you're not into prudes, anyway.

 

Personally, I'd first be wanting to know if you've actually read the books <lol>. If so, I'd be excited, turned on, looking forward...but not if you made a big deal about the books (or how great you are at the subject matter) in any way, shape or form.

 

I've got some of those you mention and plenty others...and, being I'm a girl, mine include how to please a man. The ones on a man's shelf that would be a turn-off for me, though, are about pick-up artists and tactics on how to pick-up.

[miss_jaclynrae]

I would be creeped out.

 

 

 

 

You seriously need THAT many books, not to mention you put them on display?

Not modest enough for me, and super uncomfortable.

[veggirl]

The titles you list would make me be like WTF cause it just...I don't know, why do you need SO MANY books to tell you what to do? I would wonder that. Most of us figure it out as we go along, naturally, perhaps a supplemental read here and there but not a whole collection of 'SEX HOW-TO'S'.

 

I think studying human sexuality is A LOT different than collecting "how to make her cum" or "how to get chicks" books.

 

and WHY would you ever want/need to put fleshlights on display? Do you just rage against the machine period for some reason? There is nothing wrong is you know, some discretion. Why would all your guests need to know you f*ck fleshlights?

[CarrieT]

I am a *major* book/reading person and was really turned off by a guy I was dating when I visited his home for the first time and didn't see a single book anywhere in his home.

 

The guy I am marrying now is incredibly erudite and our biggest co-habitation problem is finding enough space for both our book collections.

 

That said, I would look at the OP's book collection with interest *if* there were other books on other subjects as well. Does your reading include history, biographies, philosophy, science, literature etc. Or is it just a giant bookshelf of sex-related topics? In context of trying to expand one's mind with many other topics, I would be intrigued - on their own with no other reading material, I would find it creepy.

[hppr]

If you had a business deal going would you want a prospective partner to see "1001 Penetrations - The Secrets of Great Anal Sex" on your office desk? No of course not.

 

IMHO hide that **** until you are sleeping together.

[TheGuard13]

If I was a woman and saw a guy had all those books, my first thought would be "Well, at one time he needed a book to explain how to handle basic sexual activities. Wonder if he's less rubbish in bed now?"

[thefooloftheyear]

I agree with the others....Thats some creepy shyt...just sayin

 

TFY

[SpiralOut]

I would feel uncomfortable to see that, just because you don't mention anything about books on relationships. If the sex books were balanced out with books about emotional intimacy and how to understand women, it would be less creepy. You would look like someone who is trying to be a good boyfriend. But ONLY books about sex? I would wonder how much of a value you place on me as a person.

[janedoe67]

Honestly, I would wonder which spouse is frustrated and which spouse is withholding....that is because when I was DYING inside for my H to touch me....I bought a lot of books.

 

Then I would wonder if the books actually did any good or if the aching for touch spouse was still dying inside.

 

I guess I wouldn't see promiscuity because I no longer believe the fundamentalist dogma about sex being evil.

[Bubberfly]

I wouldn't think it's creepy... More along the lines of "wow, you're SO bad at relationships and sex you need a whole bookshelf of self-help books?"

I get the kama sutra and sex positions books and all that...

But the books you're describing here kind of remind me of women who read nothing but "men are from mars" and "men and how to love them" type stuff.

[Phoe]

If I saw that I wouldn't think too much about it. Maybe be amused for a minute and then move on

[StanMusial]

Why not just have a stack of back issues of Penthouse and Hustler on the coffee table? Don't try to church it up son.