Foox2 Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 When my boyfriend and I started dating, he told me he hooked up w a girl he works with but that they're just friends. Then months later he admits to me that he cheated on his gf of three years w her. They still text each other and he just told me that he plans on going hiking w her and another person they work with. I'm nervous about it. Should I be? Should I just keep my worries to myself?I don't want to make a big deal out of it if it's not a big deal
Phantom888 Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 I seriously hate the idea of ex-flings hanging out or doing friendly activities. I mean, if you voice your dislike about it, you look like some insecure jealous freak even though you have every right to not approve at all!!!
Author Foox2 Posted October 5, 2013 Author Posted October 5, 2013 Thanks girls!! Really appreciate the advice.
FitChick Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Why don't you invite yourself along? Then you can watch them interact and judge for yourself what is up. 1
veggirl Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Oh hell no. A guy wanting to hang out with his former affair partner?! ha ha ha ha. Good one. I'd say nice try, jackass! and be OUT. How does he think this is okay? why do you think this could possibly be okay/not a big deal? Your bf is a liar. He lied and cheated on his ex and then he lied to you. Look at the info he is giving you. He is NO GOOD.
Author Foox2 Posted October 5, 2013 Author Posted October 5, 2013 I guess there's about 7 people going. When I asked who was going before, he only mentioned her and another person grrrrr maybe he was just trying to get me jealous. He said "that was so long ago" when I told him the reason I don't like it is because he cheated w her.
Author Foox2 Posted October 5, 2013 Author Posted October 5, 2013 Why don't you invite yourself along? Then you can watch them interact and judge for yourself what is up. That wouldddd be a good idea except I wasn't invited lol The whole thing was brought up when he said "you can't sleep over Friday night.. I'm Going hiking early Saturday"
candie13 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 If other people are going, men and women, why aren't you invited? Sorry, girl, break the gates of hell and get answers. A guy who likes you would actually invite you along - except if: - the hike is especially difficult and only experiences hikers are coming - it's a guy's thing: only guys hiking. no girls in a male bonding trip The big red flag is not that he cheated his ex gf with this girl, but it's that he works with this person. It's not like he can decide not to see her, if he wanted to. She will always be around and... she does not mind being the person he cheats whomever he might be dating. She is fine with his leftovers, so why wouldn't he treat himself with a bite, if he can? This situation and their interaction... yeah, huge red flags. I'd have a serious discussion with him. Joking is fine. Cheating ain't. 1
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