ponchsox Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 My GF of 1.5 years broke off our relationship this week. She is a single mom and has an issue in her life right now that she feels prevents adequate "together" time and feels I am getting the crumbs. She let me go out of selflessness and I know it was difficult for her as it is me because we had a great relationship. I have expressed interest in remaining friends and she also does too but needs time before making the transition. She is too I important to me not to be in my life and I am very capable of keeping it as a friendship. She has mentioned that she may have blown her future and she doesn't know what the future will bring in terms of changes in her life to allow dating. She aso told me if she can't make it with me (as I have been very accommodating) she can't make it with anyone. In your experience, does being friends after breaking up work and do you see it working for us?
lollipopspot Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 I don't know if I see it working for you, since I don't know you. But it has worked out for me. I'm great friends with one of my exes. It took awhile, because it did not end well. But it's definitely possible. In fact, I much prefer when people can be friends with their exes. Just because it doesn't work out in one area does not mean it can't work out in others.
Author ponchsox Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 I don't know if I see it working for you, since I don't know you. But it has worked out for me. I'm great friends with one of my exes. It took awhile, because it did not end well. But it's definitely possible. In fact, I much prefer when people can be friends with their exes. Just because it doesn't work out in one area does not mean it can't work out in others. Do you guys hang out often and did you ever contemplate reconciliation?
lollipopspot Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Do you guys hang out often and did you ever contemplate reconciliation? Short romantic reconciliation at one point, years ago. Then for various reasons it just moved into friendship and nothing more (nor will it ever be). I might see him once a week to take his dogs out for a walk or something. His house is on my way home from work. We would call each other if there were some emergency or something. I consider him family in a way. We've known each other a long time and been through a lot. He would be no threat to any future relationship, because I guarantee it will never be more than friendship. It might be hard for you though, if you're still carrying a flame for her.
Author ponchsox Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 Short romantic reconciliation at one point, years ago. Then for various reasons it just moved into friendship and nothing more (nor will it ever be). I might see him once a week to take his dogs out for a walk or something. His house is on my way home from work. We would call each other if there were some emergency or something. I consider him family in a way. We've known each other a long time and been through a lot. He would be no threat to any future relationship, because I guarantee it will never be more than friendship. It might be hard for you though, if you're still carrying a flame for her. I did have a flame for her, but honestly it's going away quickly. She is a such a cool person that she is someone I would enjoy hanging out with on occasion. If she's thinking about wanting me back, I'm moving on to dating others.
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