Angry bird Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 When I read it, I was like: Huh?. I didn't respond tho. Why would he say that? I don't talk to him much. Once maybe twice a week. That's all I need to, I want to develope a friendship type of thing, get to know him better. Seems inappropriate since we just buried the hatchet this past Saturday after almost four months of not speaking. What are your thoughts? I think about him all the time and love him for real, but I think it's too soon to say that to each other again.
ponchsox Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 When I read it, I was like: Huh?. I didn't respond tho. Why would he say that? I don't talk to him much. Once maybe twice a week. That's all I need to, I want to develope a friendship type of thing, get to know him better. Seems inappropriate since we just buried the hatchet this past Saturday after almost four months of not speaking. What are your thoughts? I think about him all the time and love him for real, but I think it's too soon to say that to each other again. He isn't over you yet. Don't respond and give him more time. Speaking twice per week may not be a good idea since it could prolong his healing time.
NoMoreJerks Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 lol, if you take the bait and respond, he will then complete the sentence... "I love you, but i am not in love with you." Ignore, flush! If he loved you, he had an odd way of showing it. He can do better than an "i love you" TEXT if he really loved you. Unless you dumped him. In which case, he's still not over you, and I'd just put distance between you two, to ease his recovery. 3
Author Angry bird Posted October 5, 2013 Author Posted October 5, 2013 Lindsay That's what I think...a breadcrumb, lol. Boys r so stupid. 1
hotpotato Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Sounds like, he's horny or lonely. Right now, i would say he is giving you breadcrumbs. He has to prove he means what he says.
Author Angry bird Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 Another love you from the ex tonight. I don't think it's breadcrumbs. I think he still loves me.
Romaks Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 and you have not responded to any of these? If it were me saying those things, I'd damn well mean what I say, but he isn't me. You know him better.
Author Angry bird Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 I did respond with a "love u 2". I guess I'm guilty. But, I do love him. I have never been in such a vulnerable place. Do y'all's mind if I keep checking in for advice on this?
Fufu Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 So he texted you "love you" And you replied "love you 2" so what's next? What's his reply or action? Or was there any action afterwords from him?
Author Angry bird Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 Well, today he liked a post on Facebook. I don't know what to think, so I stopped thinking about an outcome. I keep focusing on myself, what I want, where I want to be and just keep working toward that. I have realized the more you love yourself, and give love to yourself, the less you need it externally. When I focus on him, his thoughts and behavior, I get really anxious and doubtful and I start to feel in need of his attention and validation. I don't want to feel that way anymore. I want to be okay, better than okay either way. I love him, but I am trying to focus on myself still.
Turnandcough Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 I did respond with a "love u 2". I guess I'm guilty. But, I do love him. I have never been in such a vulnerable place. Do y'all's mind if I keep checking in for advice on this? No matter what you read on here about what to do it not to do, the only advice you should follow is your heart. No games.... Just plain and simple. That doesn't mean jump back into your old ways! Take things slowly and with caution. Love is patient and love is kind. 1
melell Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 That is not a breadcrumb at all in my opinion. Far, far from it. 1
Author Angry bird Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 Turn and Cough... Thank you I needed to hear that right at this moment. Kinda md me tear up Love IS patient
Turnandcough Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Turn and Cough... Thank you I needed to hear that right at this moment. Kinda md me tear up Love IS patient I think you knew this all along. When we get hurt we tend to think irrationally as as I agree LS had helped me out tremendously, I believe a lot of what people say to do are games. Remember one thing, he did leave you. You can be nice to him and still guard yourself. I recently (month ago) went NC because my ex used a lie I told as an excuse to go see what else is out there. I know someone like that is confused and unstable for a relationship. Now the emotional side of me says go NC and prove her you don't need her. I consider this mind set a game. I had to really did in to myself and notice tht she just doesn't want me anymore.... Nothing I can do about it but move on for me. No other strings attached to it. If she came back would I ignore her completely? No, I would be friendly but short to guard myself. It's all about who you are and how you can look after yourself.
Author Angry bird Posted October 8, 2013 Author Posted October 8, 2013 He did leave me. And I am trying to be more honest and open with myself. The safe route is to write him off and stop contact. What I am doing now is residing in the place of "will he contact me today?" And I definitely don't like that either. I sense I am lonely. My sister is coming to town in a few weeks and I think that may help me move past a bit of lonliness.
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