boyoh Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Hey guys! there is a girl at my gym who i (and others) find very attractive. Thing is, she doesnt talk to anybody and there are very FEW people she even says ''hey'' to. Me and my boys have tried to figure out what is the thing with her. She comes in quite regularly 5 times a week around the same time and she does a real workout, so i have to say, shes one of few women who is more in the weight area than in the cardio she puts her ipod on and exercises for an hour. She is surrounded by an aura that makes you a little bit afraid...if you know what a mean. She is not rude or anything, if someone asks her sth she's always responding, but that is it. So i dont know how to approach her...better, the question is, is she interested at all to talk to somebody?! I thought about waiting for her in the parking lot...but then i figured, that might be creepy
Philosoraptor Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Be confident and just walk up and say hi. Worst she can do is blow you off... and if she does with that kind of attitude why would you want to be with her anyways? 3
giblesp Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Attractive girls go through their life with men staring at them with their tongues out, and other women sometimes being jealous and judgmental. So, they build a wall around themselves. Its quite easy to talk to girls, you just get talking. As you probably know, chemistry between a man and woman just happens or it doesn't. You've just got to pluck up the courage to test the waters. But don't approach her and ask her out just because she's good looking. This translates as 'I just want to sleep with you, that's why I'm talking to you right now.' She gets that all day every day. Hence the wall around her. Whatever you decide, be respectful and cool with her. And no, don't wait for girls in a parking lot. Talk to them in a public place where they feel safe. 3
Atem Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Hey guys! there is a girl at my gym who i (and others) find very attractive. Thing is, she doesnt talk to anybody and there are very FEW people she even says ''hey'' to. Me and my boys have tried to figure out what is the thing with her. She comes in quite regularly 5 times a week around the same time and she does a real workout, so i have to say, shes one of few women who is more in the weight area than in the cardio she puts her ipod on and exercises for an hour. She is surrounded by an aura that makes you a little bit afraid...if you know what a mean. She is not rude or anything, if someone asks her sth she's always responding, but that is it. So i dont know how to approach her...better, the question is, is she interested at all to talk to somebody?! I thought about waiting for her in the parking lot...but then i figured, that might be creepy That's quite a pickle here. See, guys/girls who are serious about their workouts do NOT want to be disturbed while working out. So, she may get annoyed if you try to hit on her while she's focusing on her lifts (I know, I would because I time my lifts and do not have minutes to waste on idly chit/chat). Parking lot stalking is, as other have said, also not the way to go. Try to catch her on her way out or on her way to the juice bar (if your gym has one). Whenever she's done lifting, she may be more approachable. Howver - keep in mind that the gym is nto a good pickup place (at least it hasnt been for me). So, if you can "accidentally" bump into this girl somewhere else (school, book store, grocery store, street, etc.), I'd go with that option. my 2c 2
ConstantVoyager Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 I keep my headphones on at the gym, focus and don't make chit chat because I don't want to be bugged. She may want to be left alone. 5
Author boyoh Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 well, funny thing is, we do have a juice bar, but she's not using it. she always brings her own water and we've got several tables on the floor to put your bottle their. so as the guys figured she always brings her own bottle, suddenly all of them are bringing a bottle now and putting them on the table where her's is *lol* one douche asked her once sth during a set, she ignored him til she was done...so it could be that she is that serious about her workout... but to meet her somewhere...i aint no nothin about her...not even her name...she is from the area probably...but sometimes she disappears for a week or weeks...like this week, she's only been there on monday...
Art_Critic Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 i aint no nothin about her... all you can do is ask.. she might act that way becuase she isn't looking to hook up with anyone form the gym or has a BF but the only way to find out is ask.
Radu Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 First of all, she probably tries to be serious about her workout, and she probably used the earphones approach to be left alone, and put up a wall. Second, avoid iceprincesses/icequeens ... just avoid them, always. This is not a joke, i'm not trying to be cute ... just avoid them. 3
Atem Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 well, funny thing is, we do have a juice bar, but she's not using it. she always brings her own water and we've got several tables on the floor to put your bottle their. so as the guys figured she always brings her own bottle, suddenly all of them are bringing a bottle now and putting them on the table where her's is *lol* one douche asked her once sth during a set, she ignored him til she was done...so it could be that she is that serious about her workout... but to meet her somewhere...i aint no nothin about her...not even her name...she is from the area probably...but sometimes she disappears for a week or weeks...like this week, she's only been there on monday... Catch her when she takes a water break and lightly try to break the ice. If she totally blows you off, then she's just too serious about working out and/or not into you. Either way - you won't know if you don't try. Good luck 1
Author boyoh Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 First of all, she probably tries to be serious about her workout, and she probably used the earphones approach to be left alone, and put up a wall. Second, avoid iceprincesses/icequeens ... just avoid them, always. This is not a joke, i'm not trying to be cute ... just avoid them. thanks for your input.but why should i avoid iceprincesses/queens?!
cif Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 People with headphones on don't want to be disturbed. Myself included. You could try talking. If she keeps them on she's not interested. If she takes them off she may be. 1
Atem Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 This is why I never dated men I met at my gym. Shallow shallow shallow. I put on my headphones too when I used to do weights at a gym, and not home like now, not to be an "ice princess" like you call it, but to ward off the shallow pigs like twah. Holy hell, missy. this is the second, slightly passive aggressive post about men that I've read from you tonite. Did someone get burned recently....? Trust me - not all men are pigs and there are some good ones out there, so relax. Now - back to the topic at hand: as I said before, some people are in the gym to *gasp* work the **** out and not to find their dates for the evening. OP - go talk to her during one of her water breaks. If she blows you off, move on. At least try.
NoMoreJerks Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Why do you want to approach an ice princess? 1
NoMoreJerks Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 thanks for your input.but why should i avoid iceprincesses/queens?! Because what's the point? Do you really want to date a cold / moody b*tch? And anyway, not sure if she's an "ice princess" or just doesn't want to be bothered. But if she's the former (possible, I see a lot of them everywhere these days), then I'd avoid. 1
Bubberfly Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Hey guys! there is a girl at my gym who i (and others) find very attractive. Thing is, she doesnt talk to anybody and there are very FEW people she even says ''hey'' to. Me and my boys have tried to figure out what is the thing with her. She comes in quite regularly 5 times a week around the same time and she does a real workout, so i have to say, shes one of few women who is more in the weight area than in the cardio she puts her ipod on and exercises for an hour. She is surrounded by an aura that makes you a little bit afraid...if you know what a mean. She is not rude or anything, if someone asks her sth she's always responding, but that is it. So i dont know how to approach her...better, the question is, is she interested at all to talk to somebody?! I thought about waiting for her in the parking lot...but then i figured, that might be creepy She probably isn't overly friendly because she wants people to leave her the hell alone while she's working out. :rolls eyes: 1
mario_C Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Because what's the point? Do you really want to date a cold / moody b*tch? And anyway, not sure if she's an "ice princess" or just doesn't want to be bothered. But if she's the former (possible, I see a lot of them everywhere these days), then I'd avoid. avoid iceprincesses/icequeens ... just avoid them, always. This is not a joke, i'm not trying to be cute ... just avoid them. Why do you want to approach an ice princess? The challenge. Because they're irresistible. There are zillions of posts here about making yourself less emotionally available to increase the illusion of your desirablilty. "Ice queens" or her male equal "Mr. Cool" have mastered this, and guys like boyoh are hopelessly under the spell. I've been in the same position, wish I had that upfront nature to approach. As for in the gym, you could remind her making conversation while working out is good cardio. Hey, it's true! 2
NoMoreJerks Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Plus. Regardless of whether or not I take my workouts at the gym seriously, I find it icky to be approached by (sweaty) men in a gym. Ugh. Worst place to pick me up, probably. I have ZERO attraction to guys when I'm at the gym. Even the most muscular/sexy/handsome guys (and most men at the gym I go to are not -- they are fat, wearing oversized tshirts and sweatpants, and sweating like crazy, and just not appealing ).
mario_C Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Fair enough. Quite an irony, we go there basically to make ourselves more attractive, and when we see other attractive people, we can't wait to build that wall.
NoMoreJerks Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Passive aggressive? Heck no Im extremely blunt. Take it or leave it not everyone wants to hear the truth. Most of the men that hit on girls at gyms are very shallow... I have to say I agree. I don't want men treating me like just a piece of *ss , and men at gyms do that a lot. And I don't even wear anything provocative / that really fleshes out my curves or anything. And the irony is that most people at my gym are college students who are 10 years younger than me. Makes it even more disgusting. 2
Adele0908 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Hey guys! there is a girl at my gym who i (and others) find very attractive. Thing is, she doesnt talk to anybody and there are very FEW people she even says ''hey'' to. Me and my boys have tried to figure out what is the thing with her. She comes in quite regularly 5 times a week around the same time and she does a real workout, so i have to say, shes one of few women who is more in the weight area than in the cardio she puts her ipod on and exercises for an hour. She is surrounded by an aura that makes you a little bit afraid...if you know what a mean. She is not rude or anything, if someone asks her sth she's always responding, but that is it. So i dont know how to approach her...better, the question is, is she interested at all to talk to somebody?! I thought about waiting for her in the parking lot...but then i figured, that might be creepy Just because you find her attractive doesn't mean she noticed that you were even there. I used to work out regularly with weights at the gym and I was there strictly for the exercise. I noticed a few men but didn't think anything of them. I wasn't there to mingle. So if she is seriously working out with weights, she may not notice too many people, because working out with weights takes focus. So if you are interested, it would be a good idea to approach her and introduce yourself. Just don't take it personally if she shuts you down. I know I personally never liked mingling with men at the gym.
Trimmer Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 well, funny thing is, we do have a juice bar, but she's not using it. she always brings her own water and we've got several tables on the floor to put your bottle their. so as the guys figured she always brings her own bottle, suddenly all of them are bringing a bottle now and putting them on the table where her's is *lol* I think it's really cool that you found a gym that encourages 12-14 year olds to come work out... 2
Author boyoh Posted October 5, 2013 Author Posted October 5, 2013 @ no more jerks, i'm not thinking she is a cold bi**h...that would be pretty judgmental, as of i dont know her^^ my pluspoint could be, that nobody else tried before to chitchat with her...the guys just go to her and ask her when shes done with the machine etc. she's also not dressing slutty or anything,there is always more cloth than skin *lol* i just want to get to know her...of course she's sexy and attractive and i wouldnt mind sleeping with her...but thats not the only thing...never had a girl before, who was as much into training than i am... and nobody of the guys is a teen...we are all in our early twenties
Radu Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 thanks for your input.but why should i avoid iceprincesses/queens?! It's basically a long story, but if you want to get the gist of it ... icequeens/iceprincesses [those that are like that by default and don't do this to make sure they are not approached] put themselves above you. With them you will either be someone better than them, in which case they will go gaga [tough as standards are high, they think highly of themselves], or you will always be below them. Most relationships have a dominant/submissive in relationship terms, but they still require that both participants respect each other ... and what i wrote above applies to respect. I went through 3 of these girls before i realized i had a bad attraction to them [wanting what i couldn't have]. 1
irc333 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 and most men at the gym I go to are not What are YOU are ?? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
irc333 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 What are YOU are ?? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I usually try to establish myself at a gym a couple of months and establish familiarity with the regulars around me and later I approach. Because I know they've seen me there a few months and are probably more willing to be less bothered by me talking to them. I usually try to get them at a water fountain or something. 1
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