Lansing Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 So, in general, I find that I don't like really talking about myself unless I am prompted. Like, if someone asks me about my family or my job or what I was up to the other night I will talk about it but if I mentioned something and the person doesn't ask questions about it I don't really go into talking about something at length. I think this comes down to when I interact with people (i.e. dates in this context) I ask them about things (not in an interview style but more getting to know them more/understand something). So, I figured if the other person is interested they would do the same. I don't want to feel like I am bragging or being egotistical by talking about myself but at the same time I feel like I may come across as "shy" or "quiet" even if I do have a lot to say. Also, I find it odd to go back to a topic if we get side tracked by something so I could be sharing a story about something and then that takes the story in another direction and I won't go back to finish what I was talking about unless the person brings it up again. Otherwise, I feel like I am saying "oh, well, lets get back to what was important about ME"... Anyway, I am not sure how to keep a good balance and if I am boring girls that I meet by not sharing enough. I try to relate stories to what they are talking about so it isn't always a "so, what about you" type thing but at the same time maybe I am having trouble guaging people's interest level. Suggestions/comments?
coolheadal Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 It's more spontaneous, as you just never know what will be talked about? If you hit right off on the spot with the girl you can see how the conversation is going? Smoothly or no going great at all? I go in there with the intent to make it fun and enjoyable. Smile and laugh just don't sit there like a broom stick in the corner. You need to open up and talk. Yourself you can give a brief low down of what you are like and what you like doing. Don't have to give out a book report on your background right off the back. Play it by ear as they say. I keep on thinking in THE NOW! Say focus on your situations and the environment along with the good company your with. Look at their faces them eyes keep looking and talking. Let her talk then you talk but not at the same time. Once everything is moving along then you know it working. Keep on doing it and see how with a good positive attitude it does pay off very well.
365daysgone Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 How to go back to a topic when the conversation gets sidetracked: "(Akward silence)......So going back to what we were talking about before... __________(insert question here)_________"
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