Blastoplast Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Dude. Consider yourself lucky that this is over. Her loss 100 percent... not yours. Dont waver. Eventually 6 to 8 month down the line there will be some hot 29 to 34 year old for you. Stay NC and just forget the bitch. Rock on! Cav This bears repeating, speaking from experience. Now I've got a girl that is better than my EX in so many ways. You did the right thing and to me it seems like you were with your EX mostly for convenience and companionship, but ignored a lot of red flags like you said. A healthy relationship should be loving and open, not condescending and closed. You'll find an upgrade, in due time
Author Airwave2020 Posted October 5, 2013 Author Posted October 5, 2013 This bears repeating, speaking from experience. Now I've got a girl that is better than my EX in so many ways. You did the right thing and to me it seems like you were with your EX mostly for convenience and companionship, but ignored a lot of red flags like you said. A healthy relationship should be loving and open, not condescending and closed. You'll find an upgrade, in due time i really do hope so.... because what i had with her, was not a genuine relationship... it was a joke
Author Airwave2020 Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 I just read the first 5 lines and I can already tell you SHES A HUGE NARCASIST, RUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK!!! You made the correct choice good job. Now go NC and you should be golden. The people always try to contact you to get a fix/ self esteem boots because they are unhappy with them selves so they like to make other people miserable so that they feel like someone is suffering with them because they don't like them selves. I use to have a girl just like this... It will be hard to get over her... I still think about the girl I was with for a year and its been a little over a year since I broke up with her. Just know we have all been through it you will be fine... I have been getting better girls who deserve me, some who don't. see the thing is... in the two years i was seeing her... it was very very rare for this woman to reflect upon her own bahaviour & actions... the only time she ever admitted getting something wrong, was usualy after we had spilt up & we had got back together again weeks down the line... but what is the point in admiting that you was wrong, after the break up, when the damage is already done? why not accept you made a mistake & apologize & save the relationship from breaking up in the first place? to her apologizing to a man, means giving up or losing power & control this is why i believe she is a narcassist. as the only victim in her eyes is always her & an apology or admitting getting something wrong, is just somethig she never does and the problem with me is... when i get something wrong, i do not mind apologizing or making up with my partner... hell i am a proud person, but not that proud to the point where i can't admit i messed up but apologozing to this woman... is a deadly deadly thing to do... as she uses that as a way to maintain control in the relationship also she is a very good looking woman & she knows she can get another man, quite easily.... also i believe this plays a part in her thinking she does not need to try too hard, because if it doesn't work out.... then she has other options!!! i think i need to accept. that a healthy relationship with this woman was always just a dream & was never going to be a reality i just held on to that dream a little too long & should have kicked her to the curb ages ago
happydate Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 (edited) i hear exactly what you are saying my friend.... the things is, i was always always tougher than her... especialy for the first year of the relationship. the reason i got weaker than her, was becasue i fell in love with her... BIG MISTAKE i only realize now, that i should not have even considered her for a realtionship... she was NEVER relationship material she has lots of baggage... also she is low value... has no self respect & nearly all her friends are low value too. her friends are mostly single mothers, claiming benefits, taking cocaine & sleeping around. you are right mate.... but i would not even consider even having sexx with her... woman like that are not worth the headache You were never tougher than her cause she got you hooked; in fact the very statement you said you dumped her -- was it good or bad simply tell me that you weren't all that tough in your mind. When you are second guessing, she knows she got you. Seriously; let's be honest here. What relationship quality have we got off her. Look at her bio. A 46 year old woman with 4 kids and she wants to start a family again with you. That's just ego talk to rub your ego and make you feel good. Trust me. A 46 year old woman ain't planning to pump another kid off any man cause she's done with raising kids. And you're not planning on raising her kids if you marry her? Do you expect this kind of relationship to continue on with her paying the kids expense while step dad gets to enjoy her creaming inside of her a few times? No I think you were just taking advantage of her situation and knew it was an easy lay and you took it. That is what she thinks of you and many other future men she sleeps with. Her body is not all that important. Sex is just something she has to do to get you to be with her which is why she's so dominating and controlling. Which is sometimes why she wants to have sex with you, NOT because she wants to be intimate but her sixth sense told her that you're not happy with her. Women have well developed sixth sense (intuition) than men do! Cause you took the bait, she needed a man to support her and she wants a man to be on her terms and conditions. I think eventually you fell in love with her but she never did love you. Women like her will never have any problems getting new men. Peruse the site of AFF.com (AdultFriendFinder) and you'll see what I mean. I mean she's got a vagina and if she's inviting men to get laid then what is it so hard to get a man? It cheapens her though as nothing more than a commodity. But this is a choice in life she decides to take, but eventually she will have to pay the price. In the meantime, learn from this mistake and heal and make sure you don't repeat it again. Rest assured that you will meet other women similar to her and that the opportunity of sex may arise. Then it's up to you to pass her up or go along with it or better yet, find out the cause of why you are attracting these women into your life. There is no mistake that if you do invite a narcissist into your life is that you may have a little bit of that in yourself. Like attracts like. Edited October 6, 2013 by happydate
Author Airwave2020 Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 so she should not had been anything more than sex.... that is how i should be looking at it, i guess it's true tho.... 46 year old, with 4 kids... what future did i have with her. nonthing!
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