Author Barby Posted November 30, 2004 Author Posted November 30, 2004 Thanks, I feel so dumb because I've fooled myself into thinking that I was truly happy, I think maybe I did this since this was the "best" relationship I've had...my marriage was a diaster he was an abusive drunk, (long story) but I figured since Oscar didn't do any of these things, he didn't cheat on me or go out, that he must be a great guy.....well I knew in my heart of hearts I was "settling" because I know and felt that I wasn't as happy as I should be.... I just thought it was me being ungrateful...I'm glad to know that I am not the selfish incaring woman that I was starting to question if I was...
morrigan Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 Barby, if you don't want to see him, make this abundantly clear. Notify him that you don't want him to visit you, after that, don't accept his calls or visits. You need time to get upset, vent and think without his tears or "I'm sorry"'s around you. He should at least respect your feelings in this matter. There are good men out there who will love you and whom you will love. He wasn't the only man who will care for you. It just takes time.
Author Barby Posted November 30, 2004 Author Posted November 30, 2004 Barby, if you don't want to see him, make this abundantly clear. Notify him that you don't want him to visit you, after that, don't accept his calls or visits. You need time to get upset, vent and think without his tears or "I'm sorry"'s around you. He should at least respect your feelings in this matter. There are good men out there who will love you and whom you will love. He wasn't the only man who will care for you. It just takes time. I've told him calmly and clearly the day we broke up, he respected it for two days and then called me this morning, I told him again (he thought I was just upset and would change my mind) but I didn't...hopefully this time he'll not attempt to call. I know I'm young (I'm 24) but he reminded me every other day (it seemed like) that I was old, not getting any younger, soon I wouldn't be able to have kids, (basically that I was getting "used up" in every sense of the word) that no man wants a woman after 21ish unless they've been together for a long time, that no one will want to date me seriously except him, blah blah, blah, so now I've got to overcome these thoughts I have imprinted on my self esteem.
Debster Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 Geez... not only was your man verbally abusive.. he also was an idiot. You are never too old for a man to find you attractive and desirable. I say good riddance.
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