texastapper Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 My girlfriend and I started out about 4 months ago as friends, when we first met she had just gotten out of an engagement and was coping with all of that stuff. It was about three months after her break up that her and I met, so I knew what I am getting into when we met. Her and I became really good friends and I listened to her and gave her advice and stayed by her side when needed...etc etc. All this time deep down I was interested in her and definitely wanted to be a part of her life, but I knew that I had to be patient. Sure enough as time went on her and I became more and more into one another, and one night we went from friends immediately into everything. it was like in a blink of an eye we had changed from friends to lovers. Once we hooked up, which was probably two months into knowing one another she told me that she loved me, and that she was in love with me. I didnt respond, I didnt want to say something I truly didnt feel yet. Plus I didnt want to get pushed into being a true rebound. Though she tells me it is not like that, I still remain skeptical about it. Now four months into this relationship, she is starting to become more distant and confused about things. I give her space and few days aways from me and then she is fine. But is this healthy. I mean should I have to sit around and wait for her to make up her mind whether this is what she wants or not. It is honestly pushing me away when she acts this way and it makes whatever comes out of her mouth just seem so fake. she tells me over and over that I knew what I was getting into when her and I met, but that is kind of a cop out now. I wish things could be normal and just happen instead of feeling like they are forced. All of her friends love me and tell me that I am the best thing that has ever happened to her, well that is a lot of pressure on me, especially when I am losing the sparks of being with her. Any advice, should I sit through and hang in here, or should I just get out.
tanbark813 Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 I can understand your concern about not wanting to be a rebound, but it sounds like you've kept her at a distance yourself. You can't hold someone at arm's length and then be upset or surprised when they act distant.
Author texastapper Posted November 30, 2004 Author Posted November 30, 2004 I guess that makes sense but I guess Ihave learned from my past to be careful so I do not get hurt. Thanks for the feedback!
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