Scale Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Do taurean girls have the capability to just shut/ disconnect themselves completely someone they once loved ? Even if no non sense or nasty things happened between the two. I'm a scorpion and my ex is a taurean, we had a mutual break up but I wanted to get back and love her crazy. But I'm fine with just being friends as she does not want anything; as a matter of fact she wants nothing to do with me, like just nothing at all and wants me completely out of her life. She blocked me from everywhere ? I don't understand this psychology or personality trait in taureans?
Reels Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Yeah, she blocked me from everywhere too.. And i keep asking myself, "how someone can be so tough"... Seriously, no idea, no idea what she's thinking about me now, or wait, did she ever thought of me 2nd time, after blocking me from everywhere? Don't know...
HorseLuck Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Taurus ^ While I don't agree with everything posted above, nor am I firm believer in astrology, it's interesting to read. It really depends on the reasoning behind the break-up. Generally speaking it takes Taureans a long time to heal after a relationship ends. If she's made a firm decision, that may just be it. They're stubborn as heck. It's difficult to convince them sway or change their mind once they've made a choice. She has to come to that conclusion on her own. She may also be putting on an illusion, keeping her guard up. Afterall no contact is the best way to heal and move on.. They're not fond of change. As for NC, i don't think it hasn't anything to do with personality traits. I'm sure feelings are there, they're just not being revealed. Especially if you guys ended on ok terms. If you know her birth date, where she was born and her time of birth you can look up her birth chart and read some more in-depth information.
HorseLuck Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 (edited) Yeah, she blocked me from everywhere too.. And i keep asking myself, "how someone can be so tough"... Seriously, no idea, no idea what she's thinking about me now, or wait, did she ever thought of me 2nd time, after blocking me from everywhere? Don't know... I'm a taurus doing strict NC. Guy wanted to stay in contact. There are various reasons why I disappeared. Yes I'm a dumper. Yes it was fairly mutual. And personally, I have more emotions than i want to want to deal with. Behind the wall I'm fighting my own battles. There is no way the both of you haven't cross their minds... Wondering the same thing about him you guys are wondering about her. But no way I'm breaking NC. I'm assuming you both have tried to get in contact. Wish my ex was attempting that. We're butting heads in silence. OP, if she was in love with you at some point she surely had feelings towards you. They don't deteriorate over night. It doesn't make sense and is nearly impossible to remain in contact with someone you once loved. You're setting yourself up for prolonged pain that way. Edited October 4, 2013 by HorseLuck 2
Reels Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 I'm a taurus doing strict NC. Guy wanted to stay in contact. There are various reasons why I disappeared. Yes I'm a dumper. Yes it was fairly mutual. And personally, I have more emotions than i want to want to deal with. Behind the wall I'm fighting my own battles. There is no way the both of you haven't cross their minds... Wondering the same thing about him you guys are wondering about her. But no way I'm breaking NC. I'm assuming you both have tried to get in contact. Wish my ex was attempting that. We're butting heads in silence. OP, if she was in love with you at some point she surely had feelings towards you. They don't deteriorate over night. It doesn't make sense and is nearly impossible to remain in contact with someone you once loved. You're setting yourself up for prolonged pain that way. What is NC?
Renard99 Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 What is NC? No Contact By going 'NC' you're basically going 'cold turkey', refusing to contact the ex regardless of how hard they try to contact you or how much you want to contact them. "out of sight, out of mind" 5
Reels Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 No Contact By going 'NC' you're basically going 'cold turkey', refusing to contact the ex regardless of how hard they try to contact you or how much you want to contact them. "out of sight, out of mind" Thanks. I'm a taurus doing strict NC. Guy wanted to stay in contact. There are various reasons why I disappeared. Yes I'm a dumper. Yes it was fairly mutual. And personally, I have more emotions than i want to want to deal with. Behind the wall I'm fighting my own battles. There is no way the both of you haven't cross their minds... Wondering the same thing about him you guys are wondering about her. But no way I'm breaking NC. I'm assuming you both have tried to get in contact. Wish my ex was attempting that. We're butting heads in silence. OP, if she was in love with you at some point she surely had feelings towards you. They don't deteriorate over night. It doesn't make sense and is nearly impossible to remain in contact with someone you once loved. You're setting yourself up for prolonged pain that way. Seriously? How you can be so cruel honestly, you like someone else now?
HorseLuck Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Thanks. Seriously? How you can be so cruel honestly, you like someone else now? It's not cruel. I haven't met many people who can go from being in an intimate relationship with someone, to being friends immediately after. And that's if you want to feed a friendship in the future. More often than not, people still have feelings for the other person after a break-up. Staying in contact causes unnecessary pain, like mentioned above. There is a thread pinned here that explains how no contact works. You can read about it. No, I don't like someone else. 2
Frank13 Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 I'm a taurus doing strict NC. Guy wanted to stay in contact. There are various reasons why I disappeared. Yes I'm a dumper. Yes it was fairly mutual. And personally, I have more emotions than i want to want to deal with. Behind the wall I'm fighting my own battles. There is no way the both of you haven't cross their minds... Wondering the same thing about him you guys are wondering about her. But no way I'm breaking NC. I'm assuming you both have tried to get in contact. Wish my ex was attempting that. We're butting heads in silence. So you are the dumper, the guy wanted to stay in contact, but you disappeared. Now you wish he was attempting contact. Why, for an ego boost while you ignore him? You pretty much told him to get lost. Under the circumstances, I don't think he would break N/C regardless of how bad he wanted to.
HorseLuck Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 (edited) So you are the dumper, the guy wanted to stay in contact, but you disappeared. Now you wish he was attempting contact. Why, for an ego boost while you ignore him? You pretty much told him to get lost. Under the circumstances, I don't think he would break N/C regardless of how bad he wanted to. That isn't my entire story. And it isn't the point of this thread, but I'll answer. I felt regret immediately after and I let him know that. Was hoping for another chance. Asked for a direct answer on if there was a potential future. Even though I ended it, the break-up was a fairly mutual decision. He wanted to stay in contact for friendship. I can't manage a friendship with him instantaneously. I didn't just fall off the face of the earth and turn cold with no viable explanation. I explained why I'm doing no contact. Lol, he hasn't been ignored or unheard. What for, so he can have me as a friend while he dates someone else? Have some of his needs met from me? Umm, no. Obviously I am not over the relationship. To an extent it is an ego boost yes. If he wants to rekindle things I'm not going to get kicks out of him contacting me. He made clear how he felt though. If he changes his mind, different story. I'm not going to attempt to alter his decision. I respect it, yet I'm not rid of hope. But the point remains, I can't go from mate to friend and it isn't an unfair thing in my opinion. I also think it would cause him an extended period of pain. Edited October 5, 2013 by HorseLuck 2
sniperz Posted October 5, 2013 Posted October 5, 2013 Hurt is the main reason. She didn't stopped loving. She might have lied but the fact is if your the one hurting her through words , abuses or violences. She surely has to cut it off. But with time, there's some possibility she can accept back as friend or etc. Things isn't easy so the girl/woman knows it too.
Author Scale Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 I kind of agree with all that you said and yes we did have nothing nasty in our relationship at all. In fact I always wished it did work out as my feelings have always been serious for her.
Author Scale Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 I'm a taurus doing strict NC. Guy wanted to stay in contact. There are various reasons why I disappeared. Yes I'm a dumper. Yes it was fairly mutual. And personally, I have more emotions than i want to want to deal with. Behind the wall I'm fighting my own battles. There is no way the both of you haven't cross their minds... Wondering the same thing about him you guys are wondering about her. But no way I'm breaking NC. I'm assuming you both have tried to get in contact. Wish my ex was attempting that. We're butting heads in silence. OP, if she was in love with you at some point she surely had feelings towards you. They don't deteriorate over night. It doesn't make sense and is nearly impossible to remain in contact with someone you once loved. You're setting yourself up for prolonged pain that way. I'm sorry to hear that and yes I did try to get in touch with her. I was out of the country for 2 years and during that period we broke up and I wanted to just meet her and see her as I hadn't seen her in person in 2 years. But why do drama of NC as this hurts even more and definitely does when your own friend ****s you over and is dating her after your break up, even though he knowing how you felt for her. It's hard to realize when a girl does so much crazily for you and is making future plans with you and wants a baby from you and feels for you that those feelings wither/ disappear and she says she moved on. This part is beyond my understanding.
Author Scale Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 I'm a taurus doing strict NC. Guy wanted to stay in contact. There are various reasons why I disappeared. Yes I'm a dumper. Yes it was fairly mutual. And personally, I have more emotions than i want to want to deal with. Behind the wall I'm fighting my own battles. There is no way the both of you haven't cross their minds... Wondering the same thing about him you guys are wondering about her. But no way I'm breaking NC. I'm assuming you both have tried to get in contact. Wish my ex was attempting that. We're butting heads in silence. OP, if she was in love with you at some point she surely had feelings towards you. They don't deteriorate over night. It doesn't make sense and is nearly impossible to remain in contact with someone you once loved. You're setting yourself up for prolonged pain that way. Why you girls are so stubborn and adamant and what you say is like writing on a stone forever. Why like that?
Author Scale Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 I'm a taurus doing strict NC. Guy wanted to stay in contact. There are various reasons why I disappeared. Yes I'm a dumper. Yes it was fairly mutual. And personally, I have more emotions than i want to want to deal with. Behind the wall I'm fighting my own battles. There is no way the both of you haven't cross their minds... Wondering the same thing about him you guys are wondering about her. But no way I'm breaking NC. I'm assuming you both have tried to get in contact. Wish my ex was attempting that. We're butting heads in silence. OP, if she was in love with you at some point she surely had feelings towards you. They don't deteriorate over night. It doesn't make sense and is nearly impossible to remain in contact with someone you once loved. You're setting yourself up for prolonged pain that way. For Horseluck, I kind of agree with all that you said and yes we did have nothing nasty in our relationship at all. In fact I always wished it did work out as my feelings have always been serious for her. But this is really terrible. I come back to my country and city after 2 years met all my friends but her. I was waiting for these days to come where I could spend a lot of time with her and treat her nicely and show what truly I'm in person and how I have fun around (we did not get too much time before we both went abroad to study). I was waiting to meet her more than anyone and now I don't even get to see her. She lived in my apt while I had gone, chilled with my friends and everybody besides me got to be with her. It hurts, feels like treated like **** with everything happening.
Author Scale Posted October 6, 2013 Author Posted October 6, 2013 Hurt is the main reason. She didn't stopped loving. She might have lied but the fact is if your the one hurting her through words , abuses or violences. She surely has to cut it off. But with time, there's some possibility she can accept back as friend or etc. Things isn't easy so the girl/woman knows it too. Living in that hope of her coming back into your life and getting to see just once is crazy. It is also hard to believe to be feeling the same for someone else or feeling same level of happiness and gratitude back in your life.
Author Scale Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 It's not cruel. I haven't met many people who can go from being in an intimate relationship with someone, to being friends immediately after. And that's if you want to feed a friendship in the future. More often than not, people still have feelings for the other person after a break-up. Staying in contact causes unnecessary pain, like mentioned above. There is a thread pinned here that explains how no contact works. You can read about it. No, I don't like someone else. Can I ask you if you know the 2 of you love each other and just butting heads, why don't you simply just talk and patch up and both be happy.
Reels Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Can I ask you if you know the 2 of you love each other and just butting heads, why don't you simply just talk and patch up and both be happy. Any one of them is always the biggest embarrassment, in such situations.
Author Scale Posted November 14, 2013 Author Posted November 14, 2013 Same story here HorseLuck... Why would you hold back when you know that you 2 love each other ? It doesnt make sense. Here people are dying to talk to their loved one and you guys are holding back coz of you're egos.
Never Again Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 Some may hold back because of egos, but I doubt these two are from their stories. Horseluck even said - she was the dumper but she wanted him back. He pretty much said "no". In effect, she's now the dumpee. He rejected her attempt to get back together. It hurts her too much to talk to him. It's not ego - it's pain. Dumpers go through it too sometimes, especially if the "role reversal" happens.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 14, 2013 Posted November 14, 2013 heh, my ex is a Taurus too and it's been 2 months now. eight years and she's not coming back. she even told me there is no point in trying to change her mind. she said i'm no longer her boyfriend, not in her mind.
HorseLuck Posted November 15, 2013 Posted November 15, 2013 (edited) Can I ask you if you know the 2 of you love each other and just butting heads, why don't you simply just talk and patch up and both be happy. I suppose "butting heads in silence" was the wrong term to use. Us talking right now won't resolve anything. Patching up isn't that simple..I can't make his decision for him to want to start up a future with me again. He may still care and love me but is not interested in a second chance. If the opportunity was there I'd take it, but i'm not even sure that's the smart decision. He's being logical, and rightfully so. I'm still fluttering about emotionally. Logic comes in waves. There were plenty of problems that we both need to work on, and it can be done individually. I'm keeping no contact because I'm allowing him the space to recover, as well as for myself. How would he feel if I was blowing up his phone , begging and pleading, doing pathetic stunts, while he's trying to get over me? It might feel good initially to him, but it would also serve to confuse him and slow down his recovery process. He would also probably think I'm crazy and needy. Additionally, he's respecting my request at no contact because he knows it would hurt me further. It's out of pain and respect. Would I like a friendship in the future? Sure. We both would. I don't know how long it's going to take to get there though. Same story here HorseLuck... Good to know I'm not the only one, Me85. Some may hold back because of egos, but I doubt these two are from their stories. Horseluck even said - she was the dumper but she wanted him back. He pretty much said "no". In effect, she's now the dumpee. He rejected her attempt to get back together. It hurts her too much to talk to him. It's not ego - it's pain. Dumpers go through it too sometimes, especially if the "role reversal" happens. Yup. Thanks for answering Pfenixphire. I'm sorry, MoooOinkBaaa. Edited November 15, 2013 by HorseLuck
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