csandiegooo Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 So, I've been dating this guy for 2/3 weeks. We've been on 4 dates and everything between us is great. He's very affectionate, always follows through, we are looking for the same things down the road, etc...I should be SO happy and blissful and wanting to spend every minute with him, but here's my problem: Usually, I go for the "dark, mysterious, and emotionally unavailable" type of guy. Dating someone so calm, grounded, and attentive is totally new to me and I find myself pulling back and holding back emotionally A LOT. I.e. usually I am the touch-y affectionate one, and with this new guy I let him do all the work and feel almost nervous to reciprocate...I don't know if I am self-sabotaging or what, but I am so detached from him when I am usually crazy about a guy I am seeing. Basically, I hate feeling like this! I want to be emotionally open and thrilled to be around him and not be closed off. Has anyone else ever had a similar experience? How can I work through this and be completely present and real with someone I really do like/want to keep seeing?
deathandtaxes Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 You may need some IC to figure out why you always seek the same type of unavailable men. Until you do, you won't appreciate the men that are emotionally available. 1
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