johndoes Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 My ex broke up with me about three months ago. We we're together for about 7 months. We were no contact until recently when we bumped in to each other at bars on two separate occasions about two weeks apart and we ended up sleeping together. Well I sat down and had a talk with her about everything. During the talk she said that She just needs time to figure herself out and this and that. I just told I couldn't do it right now cause I still have feelings for her and it just isn't right. She told me that I wasn't a booty call that she just didnt want to see me go home with anyone elsa but yet doesn't want a relationship. I do want something to work out with us but I'm just going to leave it to chance...can't wait. Question is....was it a mistake to tell her my feelings I still have for her??? I'd it a turn off or what
denxnis Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Yes. She fired you from your job; it's time to work on your resume not ask for another interview with your past employer...
Never Again Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Ex sex just makes things more confusing, especially for someone that doesn't know what they want. A lot of people will start saying that people only break up because of a "loss of attraction", but I like to think that we're a little more complex than that at this point. That being said, bringing sexual attraction BACK into the picture when someone is rationally trying to convince themselves they shouldn't be with you....it gets weird. Trust me. My ex was having sex with me regularly until I got dumped, and it made it worse and more confusing for both of us...and that was BEFORE the breakup. If we slept together now...it'd only be worse. Telling her your feelings only punctuated the confusion. I'm sure she knew that you felt that way...but putting it into words put pressure on her. IF you feel the need to have contact with her, and I wouldn't recommend it, I'd suggest you just acknowledge her need for time and space and that you agree that you couldn't be together while she's confused so still being apart is best for now. Then go strict NC. I understand that this sounds pretty similar to those "get your ex back" schemes, but there's a reason that advise can sometimes work...because it makes things amiable and relieves pressure on BOTH of you. Don't hold your breath for reconciliation...but the best chance you've got is to be mature, understanding and patient.
reddragon588 Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 It wasn't necessarily a mistake. But now that you've told her how you feel, and she is unchanged in her feelings, it's time to move on. If you continue to pine over her now after this, that would be a mistake.
Brown-Eyez Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 It wasn't necessarily a mistake. But now that you've told her how you feel, and she is unchanged in her feelings, it's time to move on. If you continue to pine over her now after this, that would be a mistake. this ^^ is spot on! you were being yourself and sharing your feelings, nothing wrong with that but sadly by what she said..now you know leave her alone and focus on healing awesome you
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