Making it work..

[lilmiscassie92]

So we have been long distance for about 2 months. We originally started talking in December (he was deployed), met in May, started dating in August.

 

I live in Vegas and he's stationed in San Diego. He has a home here as he is planning on moving back here once he finished school/navy in the next 3 years. I preach that reciprocity is important. Some would agree with me and say that it's only fair to switch off visits. Since this semester started he has been coming in once every other weekend. It's hard for me to pull myself away from school and drive down to California because 1, the drive makes me nervous; 2. I'm pre-med so my classes are really demanding and I'm also a research assistant part time, which most of my lab hours are done over the weekends. I was supposed to go there last weekend, as we talked about switching off so we each visited once or twice a month, but it's hard with finances and my school. One of my friends suggested instead of driving down there this weekend that I give him cash to fly out this weekend to visit since I really don't want to, or have the time to, leave. I know some girls would not want to do something like this, but I've also had a long 2 weeks finishing up with all my exams, and not seeing each other has been driving us crazy.

 

What should I do? Should I reciprocate or should I only wait for when he comes into town to visit?

[Polak]

If he knows how busy you really are, then he should understand! If he isn't quite aware of your demanding schedule, let him know.

 

You both obviously want to see each other (and being in a LDR, that requires $ for the trip). If you guys are both looking at finances, I don't think it's a problem to share some $ for him to fly out to you. Especially if it's not a usual thing (plane tickets can get pricey). Seeing as how you have a bunch of work on your hands, and not as much time for the commute to visit, it seems like a good enough idea.