elmichi Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Ok, so I met this guy on Tinder. We spoke once and then neither contacted each other for 2 weeks and then I texted him hey him: Hey stranger. It's going well. Busy Sunday with soccer and the breaking bad finale. But alas it's a new week. --then talked about breaking bad--- me: so I realized I texted you out of no where, but would you wanna hang out sometime this week? him: I've got a somewhat busy week. What days are good for you? --told him I was busy until Thursday (it was monday) and that I was thinking of just getting coffee or froyo. him: haha that's cute. well I go into work Thurday evening (I think he's a bartender?) We could do late afternoon. --told him I work til 5, he starts at 8, he said he'd get back to me after he saw how the week went and that he'd "definitely like to get together sooner rather than later and let's make it happen :)" him: (today) hey today might not be the best day for me. Wouldn't wanna rush things. Whats next week look like? me: told him I am busy mon-weds him: does weds nights work? me: later would work.. we (my grad classmates and I) have to do our labs and will prob be avail at 6 or 7 but we'll make it work, no sense in getting togeter a month from now him: haha yeah sounds good. So, sorry I gave you our entire history lol but I hate that we have to wait almost another week.. like, do we still text? Does he seem interested? I was typing like long paragraphs and that he just said haha yeah sounds good. lol
todreaminblue Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 lol....i do that to my friends type really long texts that take me ages and they go good deb see u then....i stare at the message for a while and have to laugh sounds all good to me ...smilin atcha......best wishes and have fun when you do meet.......deb 1
tlegend Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 BAM* Thats the gunfire for the start of the race!
Author elmichi Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 BAM* Thats the gunfire for the start of the race! lol, is that a good thing? Should we still text? We haven't been actively chatting for a couple of weeks so I don't know if it would be weird to chat with him at this point.
Atem Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 lol, is that a good thing? Should we still text? We haven't been actively chatting for a couple of weeks so I don't know if it would be weird to chat with him at this point. This early on, do whatever you feel like doing. After all, you do know what you want from a guy. If he responds in the way that you like, continue. If not, let him go. The beauty of your situation is that you are still so early in the game that you're not emotionally invested at all (or so I hope). So - don't overthink this and just be yourself. Depending on his reaction decide on next steps (i.e. whether you'll meet him or not). PS: If I were in your shoes, I'd have let him go after he flaked. But then again, I've a HUGE aversion against flakes, so maybe it's just me... 1
Author elmichi Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 This early on, do whatever you feel like doing. After all, you do know what you want from a guy. If he responds in the way that you like, continue. If not, let him go. The beauty of your situation is that you are still so early in the game that you're not emotionally invested at all (or so I hope). So - don't overthink this and just be yourself. Depending on his reaction decide on next steps (i.e. whether you'll meet him or not). PS: If I were in your shoes, I'd have let him go after he flaked. But then again, I've a HUGE aversion against flakes, so maybe it's just me... I mean, I don't think he flaked. We never set a time, place, or idea for a date. He just said he'd see how the week went, he never confirmed a yes or no. I also agreed with him on not wanting the date to be rushed.. If I got off work at 5 (assuming also he's giving me time to go home and get ready) and he'd have to leave by 8, it would be rushed. I'm assuming he's busy during the weekend for him to suggest next week since he said he's "rather meet sooner than later"
Lansing Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Isn't at under the "Hookup" site? Sounds like he is working you. Saying he is busy, tentative plans than canceling, rescheduling for an "evening" thing,etc. sounds like he might be hoping for a ONS if he lines it up correctly. Is this guy really hot? Why are you so keen?
Author elmichi Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 (edited) Isn't at under the "Hookup" site? Sounds like he is working you. Saying he is busy, tentative plans than canceling, rescheduling for an "evening" thing,etc. sounds like he might be hoping for a ONS if he lines it up correctly. Is this guy really hot? Why are you so keen? I don't think he really "canceled" but maybe that's just me? I wasn't thinking it was going to happen today, I actually didn't really want it to but I don't know. He is very attractive. I dated a guy for almost 3 years.. and I'm over him and just want to date! I'm in grad school in a new city and have 5 other girls in my class, I don't know how to meet other guys.. Couldn't he have suggested Wednesday evening since I said I was busy Wednesday during the day? The only thing I didn't like was that I tentatively said I'd be free at 6 or 7 and he just said "haha yeah that sounds good"...is it up to me then to set it up? He is usually more elaborate/commenting in his texts.. he is very funny and attractive so why not? If it means anything, I have a friend that went to h.s. with him, she said he was a nice guy but didn't really know him. I am weary he could just be a ONS kinda guy (just cause he's very good looking) but idk, he actually makes me lol through texts too and it's not sexual but still flirty. Also, he originally said we could do late afternoon (before he knew I worked til 5) and he started work at 8 so that couldn't have been a set up for a ONS. Just a thought lol Edited October 4, 2013 by elmichi
Author elmichi Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 Any other thoughts on this? I left out some details in the texting. I just feel like I'm getting mixed reviews from you guys! haha
Brown-Eyez Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 it looks to me like you're overthinking things with him already... analyzing his motives for what he texted you etc i'd say play it cool let HIM suggest the next meetup idea you'll learn alot from when he contacts you next & what he suggests 1
Author elmichi Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 Okay so it's now Sunday night and no texts from the guy. If he never texts me and Wednesday approaches, should I just not say anything? I have another date with a different Tinder guy on Thursday now so I don't care as much about this one anymore lol. This guy isn't as attractive but I think we'll have more in common since he is also in grad school. The other guy is really cute though but I just don't feel like putting in the effort (as in, I think we will have a date IF I text him) and am hoping for the other guy to go well.. but if he doesn't then.. woops, lost both! What should I do?
Ok Good Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Okay so it's now Sunday night and no texts from the guy. If he never texts me and Wednesday approaches, should I just not say anything? yes to your question, his silence is your answer
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