irishguy1470 Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 Here is my situation, A girl got contacted me on a dating website two sundays ago. We seemed to have a pretty good interaction, but then she all of a sudden just stopped. So here is what has happened: She contacted me on a Sunday and I messaged her back, she did not respond to this until Wednesday of that week, then for the week we messaged each other back and forth about 4 times, then she sent me a message the Sunday after giving me her phone number and telling me to text her (which I was just about to ask for, she just beat me to the punch). So I texted her that Sunday and she responded this past Monday and we texted through out the day and it ended with me asking her out. She said she would like that and asked when and where, I told her Friday and she said possibly, but she would have to find a sitter (she is a single mother). I said okay let me know. She never got back to me, so I just randomly text her the next night asking how her day was, and she replied that it wasn't bad, but she had an impromptu funeral to go to, it wasn't anyone she was close to, but it just made her day rough. I responded back saying I was sorry to hear that, and she never responded back. That was Tuesday it is now Thursday and I have heard nothing, I'm just confused by this behavior. Why would she get in contact with me, give me her number, say she would like to go out, and then just all of a sudden go AWOL. Any ideas or opinions on what to do next, say screw it and just move on, or try to contact her one more time.
Purepony Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 Giver her a week and shell contavt you i guarantee it
Author irishguy1470 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 Yeah that's what I figured, I just wanted some opinions, I know she's busy and I completely respect that.
tlegend Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 I think waiting a little bit and allowing her to deal with that funeral is probably your best bet at this time. However, it's also important to keep that attraction that was obviously there beforehand. I would personally, in a few days, text her and ask her if you could help ease her mind by taking her out and getting her mind off of things. She will either be into it, or not. However, I think her reaction will give you the fuel you need to make a decision as to what route you would like to take.
Author irishguy1470 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 I agree on the waiting part, but she acted as if the funeral was an inconvenience in her day and that was the problem, not the funeral itself. I'm assuming she did not know the person that well, or wasn't that close to them.
Atem Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Here is my situation, A girl got contacted me on a dating website two sundays ago. We seemed to have a pretty good interaction, but then she all of a sudden just stopped. So here is what has happened: She contacted me on a Sunday and I messaged her back, she did not respond to this until Wednesday of that week, then for the week we messaged each other back and forth about 4 times, then she sent me a message the Sunday after giving me her phone number and telling me to text her (which I was just about to ask for, she just beat me to the punch). So I texted her that Sunday and she responded this past Monday and we texted through out the day and it ended with me asking her out. She said she would like that and asked when and where, I told her Friday and she said possibly, but she would have to find a sitter (she is a single mother). I said okay let me know. She never got back to me, so I just randomly text her the next night asking how her day was, and she replied that it wasn't bad, but she had an impromptu funeral to go to, it wasn't anyone she was close to, but it just made her day rough. I responded back saying I was sorry to hear that, and she never responded back. That was Tuesday it is now Thursday and I have heard nothing, I'm just confused by this behavior. Why would she get in contact with me, give me her number, say she would like to go out, and then just all of a sudden go AWOL. Any ideas or opinions on what to do next, say screw it and just move on, or try to contact her one more time. Here's what you do: 1. Forget her and move on to texting/meeting/sleeping with other girls. 2. IF she contacts you again and IF your interaction is to your liking/seems promising, go out on a date with her. 3. IF she does not contact you, go back to step 1 Honestly bub - this early in the game do NOT even waste a second thought on girls who drop off the face of the earth - especially whend you OLD. Keep moving and - more often than not - these gals will randomly reappear again. It's happened many times to me and has resulted in many fun dates and good sex... PS: what does AWOL stand for?
Author irishguy1470 Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 Haha, thanks for the advice. AWOL is- absent without official leave, I use it as slang for just disappearing. And I'm not overly concerned, I don't plan on wasting time on thinking too much about it, but I just found the behavior extremely odd for her to initialize much of the progress and then just stop out of the blue is all.
MalachiX Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 In my humble experience, when plans get pushed back a woman can lose interest very quickly. She may have been 100% interested before. She may have had a 100% legitimate reason to push back a planned date and regretted doing so. She may have had the intention of seeing you again as soon as her schedule frees up. Even if all this is true, sometimes just the lack of seeing someone or a progression forward can make a woman go from being really hot for your to uninterested. I agree with the poster above who said to move on. If she's not putting the same level of energy in then you have no reason to keep this up. It's not going to make you seem like a great guy but rather it may actually annoy her. Remember, it's not your fault. It just sounds like you had some bad luck. She may contact you in the future when he life clears up but I personally wouldn't hold out for that as it'll just distract you from other women. 1
scubasteve Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 She lost interest in you or you played her game and she won
EdG Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Sounds like she's in to you, but life is getting in the way at the moment. You haven't met the girl yet, so she really doesn't have any emotion attached to you yet and because her life is a little challenging at the mo you've been put on the back seat. I agree with posters above. Leave it a few days then text her saying can you help take her mind off things. Hopefully meet her, have loads of fun, then she'll be all yours as you came to the rescue. Ha. Good luck bro. I reckon you've got this, just give it a little time. And if you don't meet then it's her loss boss, not yours.
soccerrprp Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 You two aren't 15 years old. And even if you were, OP, you're not going to get anywhere of significance by texting ONLY.
Atem Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 In my humble experience, when plans get pushed back a woman can lose interest very quickly. She may have been 100% interested before. She may have had a 100% legitimate reason to push back a planned date and regretted doing so. She may have had the intention of seeing you again as soon as her schedule frees up. Even if all this is true, sometimes just the lack of seeing someone or a progression forward can make a woman go from being really hot for your to uninterested. I agree with the poster above who said to move on. If she's not putting the same level of energy in then you have no reason to keep this up. It's not going to make you seem like a great guy but rather it may actually annoy her. Remember, it's not your fault. It just sounds like you had some bad luck. She may contact you in the future when he life clears up but I personally wouldn't hold out for that as it'll just distract you from other women. This! PS: Stuff like the OP's story happens - esp. when you OLD - so just accept/almost expect it and don't take it to heart. There are TONs of cute gals out there who'll have time to see you "right away", so go after them
truth_seeker Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 I've had women contact me on OLD giving me the impression they liked me only for them to disappear. Women get inundated with tons of emails from guys. Imagine putting a woman in a store with hundreds of clothing options. She'll see one thing she likes, hold onto to it, see another thing she likes, hold on it, grab 2-3 more things... then it's time to check out and she might buy one thing or decide to buy nothing and try another store. Then one day, she'll go back to the store and decide to buy one of things she was holding onto weeks before. 2
Author irishguy1470 Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 Truth seeker that may be the most genius analogy ever.
Nomad Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Here is my situation, A girl got contacted me on a dating website two sundays ago. We seemed to have a pretty good interaction, but then she all of a sudden just stopped. So here is what has happened: She contacted me on a Sunday and I messaged her back, she did not respond to this until Wednesday of that week, then for the week we messaged each other back and forth about 4 times, then she sent me a message the Sunday after giving me her phone number and telling me to text her (which I was just about to ask for, she just beat me to the punch). So I texted her that Sunday and she responded this past Monday and we texted through out the day and it ended with me asking her out. She said she would like that and asked when and where, I told her Friday and she said possibly, but she would have to find a sitter (she is a single mother). I said okay let me know. She never got back to me, so I just randomly text her the next night asking how her day was, and she replied that it wasn't bad, but she had an impromptu funeral to go to, it wasn't anyone she was close to, but it just made her day rough. I responded back saying I was sorry to hear that, and she never responded back. That was Tuesday it is now Thursday and I have heard nothing, I'm just confused by this behavior. Why would she get in contact with me, give me her number, say she would like to go out, and then just all of a sudden go AWOL. Any ideas or opinions on what to do next, say screw it and just move on, or try to contact her one more time. This has happened to me on OLD a few times (and IRL, as well, at least once that I can recall). I usually have trouble understanding why a woman would give out her number if she never intended to see you. I would text her again and just ask her out again. What do you have to lose? It's not like you're going to be bumping into her every day; most likely you'll never see or speak to her again if she's not interested. Maybe she just got sidetracked with other stuff for the time being, but is still up for meeting. And, of course, with OLD, there's always the lingering doubt: maybe she met someone else online, who she likes better than you, and thus would like to cut you loose. Painful to consider, I know, but a possibility.
Joaquin Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 If you have set up a meet via online or in real life and she has called off for WHATEVER reason then its on her to reschedule. Stuff happens but then its on them to put it right and they will if they are up for it. Oh, and start lining up someone else.
truth_seeker Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Truth seeker that may be the most genius analogy ever. These are the types of women you play with but do not take seriously. They're unstable and train wrecks. Can't get emotionally attached or you're doomed.
Joaquin Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 These are the types of women you play with but do not take seriously. They're unstable and train wrecks. Can't get emotionally attached or you're doomed. Exactly. They are the ones you try in i dont give a **** kinda way when its late and you've not pulled.
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