Chasing a girl I'm crazy for.

[Ed the 3rd]

Okay so don't know what this is. Started college and not soon after found this girl in my class. She wasn't all that at first but personality wise she is just so awesome. So easy to talk to and very tom boyish (Not to an extreme) and the more I think about it she looks amazing. So naturally I asked her out and she told me it wasn't me but she just interested in anything right now as other guys have messed her around.

 

I really don't know if I should pursue it further. I think I've trained myself to understand any answer other then "yes" as a no but I don't think she was lying to me. Even before I asked her out she seemed to be rather regretful of passed relationships. Also she is very friendly to a couple of people who asked her out but she quite plainly rejected where as with me she's a little quiet now.

 

I'm stuck between either pushing it a little and try to convince her I'm a half decent man who won't hurt her or just leaving it as she IS in my college class and I don't want to make it awkward for her.

 

I would really be gutted if I had to drop this as she really is different to other girls I liked. Its so rare I fancy anyone nowadays for anything other then face value. We even share the same birthday which even I thought was kind of cute.

Edited October 3, 2013 by Ed the 3rd

[todreaminblue]

if you really like her dont give up, keep up the contact....dont try and convince her you are a decent guy , show her you are a decent guy ......actions with the words are far more telling...deb

[Atem]

Do NOT "pursue".

 

If you like her, do what deb said - since you're in the same class, keep chatting with her, joking after class, maybe grabbing a snack or so nonchalantly and, yes, even flirting from time to time.

 

If she's indeed not just ****ing with you, she may come around (in which case you WILL have to have the balls to ask her out again).

 

If she sees you as "just a fried", you'll have fun together nonetheless.

 

And btw bub - you "just started college"? This is the best time of your life to have fun, so go out and party hardy. Imo, this is no time for serious GF stuff. Just enjoy yourself without any strings attached. Enough of those will kick in later in your life and once they do, you'll wonder where that carefree college time went...

[Ed the 3rd]

Getting a bit bored of this. She is acting differently with me and I really just want an idea of whats going on. Thinking of just asking her to lunch or something just for a talk. Even if there is no hope there is no need for awkward tension either.

[Groundzeroharvester]

Any time you notice a change in personality, proceed with caution. It very well could me she now involved with someone else.

[Blastoplast]

Ask her out to lunch, it's a great casual way to get to know somebody pretty well. You can pick her brain a little bit, and then maybe she'll see a different side of you too. At the very least, it's a good way to build a friendship which can lead to bigger things (so long as you don't get friend-zoned).

[Ed the 3rd]

Yeah I'll ask her to lunch when we have some time.

 

Kinda wish I'd stop getting crushes. They are extremely few and far between but they never fail to absolutely kill me inside. Its easier to brush off rejection under normal circumstances.