ClapYou123 Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 OK so let's start from the beginning... I met a woman online a few months ago, must have been around early July, or so. I'm 29, she's 25. We're both women. We swapped numbers, but I wasn't really interested at first. She used to message me more often than I did her she was very persistent, but I really didn't think anything would come of it. As time went on, I started talking to her more often, and we began chatting a whole lot more. She didn't live far from me, so we started meeting up. She came to my house a few times, we went out a few times, etc. We got very close. This all took place over about three months? So anyway, I presumed we'd been seeing each other. We spoke and met up regularly, did couple-y stuff, etc. Last Friday, I went to stay at hers - it was only supposed to be overnight, but I ended up staying there almost a week. We had dinner together every night, slept together every night, cuddled and talked every night. It was actually lovely, lovely. Just before I came home yesterday, she revealed to me that she doesn't want a relationship, isn't ready for one. So I asked her, OK, what's the deal, are we just friends then? Her reply was that we are and have always been friends, that are getting to know each other. She told me loads of confusing things. She says she wants to give me a chance, "but not yet". Has been telling me she misses me every day since I've come home. But when I bring up the topic of meeting up again her reply is usually "I know". I don't think she's being nasty, or intentionally trying to hurt or confuse me, but that's exactly what this is doing. I feel as if she's keeping me as an option. I asked her what it is that she wants and she said "I would love to tell you, but I don't know myself". She calls me often and still messages me often but seems to be very guarded. I think she is genuinely scared of being with someone - that's the impression I get. I've been in this situation many a time, but still am unsure what move to take next. I feel like telling her that either: We can't talk until you decide what you want, or: We need to cut it off completely. So - I guess, the reason I've posted here is because I've asked friends for advice but, being my friends, they will always side with me and I really would like some honest advice. I am so confused, and quite hurt, really.
CptSaveAho Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 When anybody says "they aren't ready" LISTEN TO THEM and move on (key part here is to move on) 1
Recommended Posts