Jord Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 so ever since i found out my ex has been dating another guy already, things have been getting worst. what sucks is that she's lying about it. i did the right thing and blocked her on all social media sites, and plan on burning everything that reminds me of her, as well as all our our pictures. i can't stop thinking about her, no matter what i do to take my mind of her, she keeps popping up in my head. i literally feel so much pain, i hate having these nervous breakdowns.
thetinmansam Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 so ever since i found out my ex has been dating another guy already, things have been getting worst. what sucks is that she's lying about it. i did the right thing and blocked her on all social media sites, and plan on burning everything that reminds me of her, as well as all our our pictures. i can't stop thinking about her, no matter what i do to take my mind of her, she keeps popping up in my head. i literally feel so much pain, i hate having these nervous breakdowns. Hey man, if you need to talk, contact me on Skype @ "avalanchemannn" I know every single feeling you're going through, it may help to chat about it in detail. 3
JDPT Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 I can only tell you that this is something unavoidable that you must go through. You must weather the storm. It's excruciating I recall the feeling but keep in mind, are you honestly going to allow her to inflict this pain in you? Prove to yourself sand no one else that you will make it out of his a new and improved you. 3
reddragon588 Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 Take it slow! Break your day into 15 minute increments. Plan out that 15 minutes, tell yourself what you're going to accomplish and tell yourself you won't think about her until after that 15 minutes. After that time, feel free to think about her for a bit, then plan out your next 15 minutes. Rinse and repeat. You'll find yourself thinking about her less and less about her at the end of the 15 minutes. 2
Author Jord Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 thanks everyone. its just i feel that my confidence got shattered. like i can never make another girl happy. she told me "you'll never have another girlfriend. you're everything a girl doesn't want." i'm taking it to heart, and its really f*cking with my head. its like i love her, but i hate her.
JDPT Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 thanks everyone. its just i feel that my confidence got shattered. like i can never make another girl happy. she told me "you'll never have another girlfriend. you're everything a girl doesn't want." i'm taking it to heart, and its really f*cking with my head. its like i love her, but i hate her. Perfect example and I hope you see that she accomplished her objective which was to leave you scared to think that you aren worth shiet. Reality is she is a terrible person for being emotionally abusive and making think that. You are amazing and deep down inside you know that, we all know that. Albeit my ex never told me directly how she felt her actions made me feel like I was worst than scum and that I wasn't worth anything. I too felt terrible about it but I'm managing to realize that I'm not perfect not for her and not for anyone and that's perfectly fine. I don't need to be this perfect being and if you expect me to be that then I feel so sorry for her because she will neon an endless journey looking for someone perfect. Know that you are worth it all and you deserve nothing but the best and the best was not your ex. 1
Author Jord Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 Perfect example and I hope you see that she accomplished her objective which was to leave you scared to think that you aren worth shiet. Reality is she is a terrible person for being emotionally abusive and making think that. You are amazing and deep down inside you know that, we all know that. Albeit my ex never told me directly how she felt her actions made me feel like I was worst than scum and that I wasn't worth anything. I too felt terrible about it but I'm managing to realize that I'm not perfect not for her and not for anyone and that's perfectly fine. I don't need to be this perfect being and if you expect me to be that then I feel so sorry for her because she will neon an endless journey looking for someone perfect. Know that you are worth it all and you deserve nothing but the best and the best was not your ex. endless journey looking for someone perfect, exactly what my ex is doing. always saying "i want a man who can do this, who can do that." it really fueled my insecurities every time she told me how she wants her perfect man. it was emotional abuse and she expects me to be that that guy, but all her tactics just brought me down.
JDPT Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 endless journey looking for someone perfect, exactly what my ex is doing. always saying "i want a man who can do this, who can do that." it really fueled my insecurities every time she told me how she wants her perfect man. it was emotional abuse and she expects me to be that that guy, but all her tactics just brought me down. Oh please my ex gave me the same bs line. She always wanted and needed something and that was HER problem. I was there for her through it all and clearly there are certain things that were out of my reach. I felt terrible then for not "meeting" her standards but reality is I never had to. And neither should you. There is being reasonable and then there are girls who want you to do absolutely everything for them and that's just irrational. 1
Author Jord Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 Oh please my ex gave me the same bs line. She always wanted and needed something and that was HER problem. I was there for her through it all and clearly there are certain things that were out of my reach. I felt terrible then for not "meeting" her standards but reality is I never had to. And neither should you. There is being reasonable and then there are girls who want you to do absolutely everything for them and that's just irrational. you're right. it was all about me trying to meet her standards, everything was what can i do for her to make her happy. there really was no compromise. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 you're right. it was all about me trying to meet her standards, everything was what can i do for her to make her happy. there really was no compromise. Wow. This is exactly how my RS was too. I gave my all, and she gave nothing. I was her tampon. She used me, then binned me when done. I know I keep going back to this in my posts, but... I feel like this is her fault AND my fault for allowing it for so long. And why? Because I have low self esteem and can't set or enforce boundaries. Damn it!!! I notice this also directly correlates to how attracted to my partner I am. In this case, I was extremely physically attracted to her, so it was all one-sided. All me. I think I created this environment. That sucks. I don't want to think this about myself, but the facts are the facts. Now, it's time to do something about it and break the cycle!! This started in me many years ago, but it ends now!! 2
Author Jord Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 Wow. This is exactly how my RS was too. I gave my all, and she gave nothing. I was her tampon. She used me, then binned me when done. I know I keep going back to this in my posts, but... I feel like this is her fault AND my fault for allowing it for so long. And why? Because I have low self esteem and can't set or enforce boundaries. Damn it!!! I notice this also directly correlates to how attracted to my partner I am. In this case, I was extremely physically attracted to her, so it was all one-sided. All me. I think I created this environment. That sucks. I don't want to think this about myself, but the facts are the facts. Now, it's time to do something about it and break the cycle!! This started in me many years ago, but it ends now!! i feel you. i let my ex walk all over me. same goes for me too about how i was physically attracted to my ex. i realized just because a girl is hot and beautiful on the outside, doesn't mean her inside is the same.
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