malin819 Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 :laugh:Well well well..if you read my previous threads, you'll understand this My ex came back to me on Tuesday night Wednesday morning. She found out I started dating a pretty nice lady. She knew somehow that Tuesday I was going out on a date. She started texting me from another number that we needed to talk and wanted to see me after the date. Main problem is that I would be sleeping at my date's place I got over 20 missed calls and easily 50 txts msgs from 6pm to 4am. She even said she wanted to die and could not stand that I was moving on. Yesterday morning, I decided to see her. Well she apologize for everything she's done to me and wanted me back. She said she will clean up her life and stop the drugs and drinking. I didn't know what to say but its done. I made her understand that she needed to work on herself before seeing or dating any type of guy. I finally got the closure I wanted and knew it wasn't my fault 7
thetinmansam Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 Wow, I'm happy for you my man! Congratulations! Any way you could link me to your previous thread?
Author malin819 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/417022-confused http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/425843-never-set-your-expectations-too-high She got played in her own game...and guess what?! While seeing me for the past 2 months she was sleeping around with 2 guys at the same time once again!! Deja vu She is still begging and trying everything she can... 1
thetinmansam Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 She is showing signs of having BPD and she's obviously an attention whore. She keeps coming back because she knows how well you treat her. This is just like my ex, literally EXACTLY the same scenario.. She comes back because she knows I'll give her the attention she needs, and when she's filled up, she runs like a chicken with its head cut off! This is a never-ending cycle that will not get better in time. Sorry you ran across one of these freaks. 1
Author malin819 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 She is showing signs of having BPD and she's obviously an attention whore. She keeps coming back because she knows how well you treat her. This is just like my ex, literally EXACTLY the same scenario.. She comes back because she knows I'll give her the attention she needs, and when she's filled up, she runs like a chicken with its head cut off! This is a never-ending cycle that will not get better in time. Sorry you ran across one of these freaks. Thats why I sarted to date and go out with my friends like Barky told me 1
thetinmansam Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 Thats why I sarted to date and go out with my friends like Barky told me I'm happy for you bro. Good job! Keep it up!
barky2 Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 Thats why I sarted to date and go out with my friends like Barky told me Lmfao imagine that huh? Listen man, shes not done yet...it'll continue. Mark my words...if you give in and talk to her or meet up and try again,shell burn the hell out of you. Congrats bro. Maybe I may know just what I'm talking about. Just this am I was writing to someone about how they can sense change...weird isnt it? Lol I said..maybe u want her back. She's acting out of desperation, not love. Dont give her a damn inch right now,or ill slap you Keep posting,myself and other members will direct you from here on out. Barky 3
cavalier99 Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 Good for you. However keep in mind you havent been broken up that long and very well might need to do some more processing of this BU. Also new girl might or might not be good for you at this stage. Im all for getting out and hooking up post BU but these things often dont last and are just a temporary distration. Eitherway id play it very safe and just block your ex. No need to know if she is blowing up your phone or not. It might seem gratifying for the moment but these things are fleeting and really the only concern you need to have now is you recovery. Rock on! Cav 1
Author malin819 Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 well another night...she txted and called ALL NIGHT long begging for me to come back. Now she is at work crying like a baby and being sick non stop. She even called my mom this morning and now my I need a ***serious*** conversation with her -__- (my mom) Her mom is calling me and txting me also. I told her I wanted out but she is not listening. She says she will die without me and her life will crumble. She says I'm the cause of her pain and I'm putting her thought all of this. I dont know how to feel right now...she is stressing me out badly and I dont need this.
barky2 Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Like I said earlier,its just the beginning unfortunately. But remember Malin.. if you decide to take her back right now,shell break it off max in 2 weeks. For her its the chase right now. Id just simply text her saying, you need time and space...that shed please respect that and stop calling your mom. Tell her youll be in touch when you're ready. Stop strong broseph. Barky
Author malin819 Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 Like I said earlier,its just the beginning unfortunately. But remember Malin.. if you decide to take her back right now,shell break it off max in 2 weeks. For her its the chase right now. Id just simply text her saying, you need time and space...that shed please respect that and stop calling your mom. Tell her youll be in touch when you're ready. Stop strong broseph. Barky I dont want her back after seeing all this!! she is broken into pieces and she will drag me into her troubles. I told her many times to stop and take care of herself but she is not listening at all Don't want to deal with this I have plenty on my plate right now
Fufu Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 I'm only concern with 2 things now. 1. She tries to hurt you or 2. She tries to hurt herself. If your mind is set to move on from this girl, don't reply her anymore.
Author malin819 Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 I'm only concern with 2 things now. 1. She tries to hurt you or 2. She tries to hurt herself. If your mind is set to move on from this girl, don't reply her anymore. if she does hurt herself...people will blame me!!! Double edge sword
alex007 Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 if she does hurt herself...people will blame me!!! Double edge sword The only person that can be blamed for HER actions are HER SELF. Not you. You didn't do anything wrong here.
thishatteredsymphony Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 The only person that can be blamed for HER actions are HER SELF. Not you. You didn't do anything wrong here. This. You are not responsible for her actions. I say congratulations, man. This is a huge milestone for you!
Author malin819 Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 Guess I'll give a quick update She called and txted all weekend crying and pouring her life. She kept on begging I was the guy for her and that she saw a future in me. I had to go pick up some stuff at her place. When I arrived she tried to kiss me. She hid my key and cellphone to force me to listen to her. She got REAL angry and guess what? She kicked the wall in her room and made a huge hole. She said I was destroying her by not being there for her when she needs me the most. She did go to the AA for her drug/alcool problems but only the first meeting. I don't even know what to do her say. I told her she needed work on herself before even considering going into a relationship. She didn't take it well. I also told her it would be really good if we didn't contact each other for a while since we are only causing pain for the moment.
Beautiful diamond Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Don't be cruel. Remember how you felt, now you return that? Be careful. You may have a change of heart one day. Don't let her make you a douche. Then she wins......
Author malin819 Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 she just sent a HUGE txt saying that now she accepts the break up and will move on. Speaking about the last rose I bought that she keep and dried. She said the rose was still beautiful but was dead like our relationship. That she wanted to change and build something but when only one person will make the effort its mission impossible. I'm speachless for the moment since I want to believe she'll change but she made me run for months..slept around while seeing me. I feel like she is still playing with my head and shifted her pain and guilt to me via this txt
JDPT Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Put her out of her misery and implement NC immediately. You got your sweet payback now it's time to move on for your own sake.
Author malin819 Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 Put her out of her misery and implement NC immediately. You got your sweet payback now it's time to move on for your own sake. thanks kind of support I need right now to be honest
Chi townD Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 She's got no one to blame but herself for her problems right now. She did drugs, drank excessively and cheated on you any chance she got. That's more than what anyone should have to endure for a relationship and in most cases, a deal breaker. She wanted the fast and party lifestyle, well, be careful what you wish for. If she's now convinced that she made mistakes, then fine! But, those are mistakes that she's going to have to live with because you don't have to. 1
Author malin819 Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 She's got no one to blame but herself for her problems right now. She did drugs, drank excessively and cheated on you any chance she got. That's more than what anyone should have to endure for a relationship and in most cases, a deal breaker. She wanted the fast and party lifestyle, well, be careful what you wish for. If she's now convinced that she made mistakes, then fine! But, those are mistakes that she's going to have to live with because you don't have to. I feel her last text was to play with my head once again (Push/Pull) She was always good doing that...why did she always wanted me when I started moving on and walking in the proper direction?
Chi townD Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 I feel her last text was to play with my head once again (Push/Pull) She was always good doing that...why did she always wanted me when I started moving on and walking in the proper direction? But there's a big difference! Now, you KNOW that she playing these games. You know what she's playing at! Now, you have the power to ignore it.
Author malin819 Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 But there's a big difference! Now, you KNOW that she playing these games. You know what she's playing at! Now, you have the power to ignore it. True that! Thanks I blocked her number I can expect easily NC for a while 1
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