newguy1008 Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 So a couple weeks ago i met this woman, 33, with 3 kids, pretty and a lot of fun. All last week all we did was talk via texting and we went out for coffee. Our conversations were about everything, what we liked, what kind of music we listened to, the the convos got really sexual, with pictures being involved as well. Made plans to go see her on thursday and ended up having sex. Later that day she sent me a long text about how she just got out of a relationship, wasnt completely over him, but then she started telling me how much she liked me and spending time with me. I work nights so on friday she was telling me how much she wanted me to get of work early so we can hang out. couldnt get out of work though. found out she went home with a buddy that night. I was a little irritated may have sent her a negative message while intoxicated but i apologized when i realized what i wrote. Now i feel like i made things awkward, really like talking to her but i know deep down i would most likely never date her, a lot of baggage with the kids and she had gotten divorced a year before as well....so knowing that i wouldnt date her, why do i feel sad? It bothers me that this whole thing is bothering. No one did anything wront but.for some.reason i feel like my pride has been hit. Sorry for being so long....just needed to vent i guess.
coolheadal Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 Well yes she has the kids and the EX she still cares about him. The EX will always be apart of her because of the kids they share with. It gets very messy when there are that many kids and she's not over him the. EX. You'll find someone else though. This type of women can't wait for you to get of work so late so she going to be nag about it with you. You don't want to loose your current job over her. That would makes things worst. Are you ready to take on her baggage as you say, can you support she and the 3 kids. Of course the EX will visit too. Too much drama for me. But you might still be able to cope? Right now pull in your gut and think of THE NOW! Your intent is to happy but you need to move on and find someone that can make you happy an etc. 1
Author newguy1008 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 I know i need to move on. I was talkibg to one of my friends and he just feels that im feeling this because ego was damaged a.bit and not because of feelibgs. I hope he is right because wouldnt see a future with her, which is why im annoyed that i feel.this way. But i do feel that i was led on in a way.
coolheadal Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 I know i need to move on. I was talkibg to one of my friends and he just feels that im feeling this because ego was damaged a.bit and not because of feelibgs. I hope he is right because wouldnt see a future with her, which is why im annoyed that i feel.this way. But i do feel that i was led on in a way. Well we all of those issues with ego, but your intent should be now to move on. Yes your will hurt, but I try to let those know that hurt creates negative energy around them also weaken your internal spiritual thus you feel like you do now. Also pride. Still the best think to do not think about it. Laughing (comedy stuff changes your mood quickly) helps but takes time to get to this point. Just think of the next person you meet up with you now know what not to do and what not too look for in a women.
harrybrown Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 If she goes home with somebody else, because you are working, you need to run from this sitution. 2
Author newguy1008 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 What i find really pathetic is the fact that i havent even known her 2 weeks....guess i felt like we clicked. But again, i know i should not be bothered by this but for some reason i am. Fact is she did nothing wrong, when she told she still had feelings for her ex i wasnt bothered at all but i am now. Oh well ill live. Thanks guys.
Author newguy1008 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 And to respond to coolheadal....i tbink i def know what to look for in a woman, and i didnt follow my own advice.
coolheadal Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 And to respond to coolheadal....i tbink i def know what to look for in a woman, and i didnt follow my own advice. Good we are all here for you so remember that. You need anything let us know here. Take care!
pteromom Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 Later that day she sent me a long text about how she just got out of a relationship, wasnt completely over him, but then she started telling me how much she liked me and spending time with me. I work nights so on friday she was telling me how much she wanted me to get of work early so we can hang out. All of this points to her just looking to you as a FWB. The "just got out of a relationship" line is code for "I don't want anything serious." So when you weren't there to be her booty call, she found someone else who was. If a casual FWB situation isn't what you are looking for, she's not the woman for you. And of course your ego was bruised. No matter how casual a relationship is, everyone wants to feel special. That you were so easily replaced is insulting. But there's also nothing wrong with admitting you were starting to fall for her. 2
Author newguy1008 Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 You are right pteromom, but i should still never have been mad or upset. I did text apologizing for what i said to her. She said i was pissed, which i dont remember but everything seems fine. Truth is ive known nothing was ever happen between us so i really need to stop acting this way as well. Just going to try to not bother her. And i dont know if i was fallling for her, atleast i hope i wasnt, but talking to her everyday and getting texts every morning from.her making sure i got home safe from work did feel kind of nice.
Author newguy1008 Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 Well yes she has the kids and the EX she still cares about him. The EX will always be apart of her because of the kids they share with. It gets very messy when there are that many kids and she's not over him the. EX. You'll find someone else though. This type of women can't wait for you to get of work so late so she going to be nag about it with you. You don't want to loose your current job over her. That would makes things worst. Are you ready to take on her baggage as you say, can you support she and the 3 kids. Of course the EX will visit too. Too much drama for me. But you might still be able to cope? Right now pull in your gut and think of THE NOW! Your intent is to happy but you need to move on and find someone that can make you happy an etc. You are totally right, so lets say, hypothetically of course, something was to ever happen, i would not be able to support her, 3 kids, and other baggage. But i actually feel better. Just needed to think things through because as i said, dont think i would ever actually go into a reltionship with her, but i wont lie, if she was to tell you the same things she told me, you'd feel very nice, and i guess i just got comfortable with her, even if i had only known her for a very short period of time. This is why i may have gotten jealous when i heard about her and my buddy. My buddy had no idea we had slept together and i def dont blame him, what guy wouldnt?
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