Here's to the future!

[Wings Of Love]

So, after more than a month of what should probably be labelled as LC, the real NC begins today.

 

I know I was foolish, but when he deleted me from Facebook back in August and then tried to add me again a day later, I was stuck. I left it until late September, and then I accepted his request. I had hoped he would try to reach out to me. He didn't. Instead he made it his mission to post NON-STOP (kinda odd behaviour for someone so anti-Facebook) about how great his life is. Bit of a turnaround from the depressing statuses he posted during the time we were not Facebook friends.

 

Towards the end of our relationship he received a friend request while he was here at my house. He showed me, told me he'd never even heard of the girl. They had no mutual friends or anything and she lives in another country. He told me he deleted the request and I thought nothing more of it. Yesterday, he accepted her request, so he must have lied about deleting it. I woke up this morning to find he had tagged this "stranger" in a post saying "Missed you, lol! <3". It hurt a little, but I was more angry than anything.

 

Tomorrow (4th of October) would have been our 15 month anniversary, which is a real milestone in my mind. I won't explain why, it's a long story. But he knew this and he knew what it meant to me. And yet his post this morning seemed to be his way of twisting the knife and hurting me even more.

 

So, at long last, I deleted and blocked him. I feel lighter somehow, as though a weight has been lifted. I hope the pain doesn't hit me later, but right now I feel good. I have a feeling he might try to contact me at some point when he realises what I've done, but if that day comes I'll stay strong.

 

But now that that's done, here's to a bright future! And hopefully a new man who will love me for who I am.

[Turnandcough]

So, after more than a month of what should probably be labelled as LC, the real NC begins today.

 

I know I was foolish, but when he deleted me from Facebook back in August and then tried to add me again a day later, I was stuck. I left it until late September, and then I accepted his request. I had hoped he would try to reach out to me. He didn't. Instead he made it his mission to post NON-STOP (kinda odd behaviour for someone so anti-Facebook) about how great his life is. Bit of a turnaround from the depressing statuses he posted during the time we were not Facebook friends.

 

Towards the end of our relationship he received a friend request while he was here at my house. He showed me, told me he'd never even heard of the girl. They had no mutual friends or anything and she lives in another country. He told me he deleted the request and I thought nothing more of it. Yesterday, he accepted her request, so he must have lied about deleting it. I woke up this morning to find he had tagged this "stranger" in a post saying "Missed you, lol! <3". It hurt a little, but I was more angry than anything.

 

Tomorrow (4th of October) would have been our 15 month anniversary, which is a real milestone in my mind. I won't explain why, it's a long story. But he knew this and he knew what it meant to me. And yet his post this morning seemed to be his way of twisting the knife and hurting me even more.

 

So, at long last, I deleted and blocked him. I feel lighter somehow, as though a weight has been lifted. I hope the pain doesn't hit me later, but right now I feel good. I have a feeling he might try to contact me at some point when he realises what I've done, but if that day comes I'll stay strong.

 

But now that that's done, here's to a bright future! And hopefully a new man who will love me for who I am.

 

Sorry for your loss and hurt at this time. I'm going to be very blunt and honest with you because that is the only way to lose this sense of false hope he will contact you. Look at it this way, either he contacts you too soon and you carry on in the relationship for.. oh lets say 4 months. IT WILL END AGAIN. Or... you will move on like your supposed to and you come across someone wayyyyy better than him that makes you truly happy. See either way you have to move on. Not move on with hopes he is gonna come back, truly, MOVE ON! Neither you nor him have had anytime to heal showing from you constantly checking on his social networks. You made a great move deleting and blocking him.

 

Now saying all this. Think about moving on like this. You take the time to become happy by yourself and learn that being single is just as great as being in a relationship. Pure freedom. You are going to grow so much in this time and become 100% yourself again and confident. This will not only attract many guys way better than your ex, but also your ex when he see's this amazing girl he used to have in his life succeeding without him. He will crawl back. By then you may not give 2 F's about him. So either way your WINNING! Really think about it. If he wasn't the one and you loved him that much, think about how great the next love has got to be.

 

Point of this all is to truly move on. Do not and I repeat DO NOT kid yourself while moving on. Don't keep false hope your doing this so he will come back because you won't really heal. It's only when you completely say, "you know what, I'm done with the worry and stress. I'm doing this for me." You then take the power back and can really shine. Keep your head up, your worth a hell of a lot more than you think you are. Hiss loss, bye d-bag =D.

[Wings Of Love]

Sorry for your loss and hurt at this time. I'm going to be very blunt and honest with you because that is the only way to lose this sense of false hope he will contact you. Look at it this way, either he contacts you too soon and you carry on in the relationship for.. oh lets say 4 months. IT WILL END AGAIN. Or... you will move on like your supposed to and you come across someone wayyyyy better than him that makes you truly happy. See either way you have to move on. Not move on with hopes he is gonna come back, truly, MOVE ON! Neither you nor him have had anytime to heal showing from you constantly checking on his social networks. You made a great move deleting and blocking him.

 

Now saying all this. Think about moving on like this. You take the time to become happy by yourself and learn that being single is just as great as being in a relationship. Pure freedom. You are going to grow so much in this time and become 100% yourself again and confident. This will not only attract many guys way better than your ex, but also your ex when he see's this amazing girl he used to have in his life succeeding without him. He will crawl back. By then you may not give 2 F's about him. So either way your WINNING! Really think about it. If he wasn't the one and you loved him that much, think about how great the next love has got to be.

 

Point of this all is to truly move on. Do not and I repeat DO NOT kid yourself while moving on. Don't keep false hope your doing this so he will come back because you won't really heal. It's only when you completely say, "you know what, I'm done with the worry and stress. I'm doing this for me." You then take the power back and can really shine. Keep your head up, your worth a hell of a lot more than you think you are. Hiss loss, bye d-bag =D.

 

Thank you for posting! I know what you mean, and believe me, I only kept him on my Facebook this long because I hoped he would come back. If I still believed he was coming back, I don't think I'd have had the strength to delete and block him today. What I meant was that I have a feeling he's going to try reaching out now that I have blocked him, because I'm pretty sure he liked the control he had over me. I also feel that any message he does send will be somewhat cold or nasty. Either way, he won't get a response from me.

 

Of course I could be wrong, it may be that he's glad to see the back of me and he won't reach out at all. And I don't mind that, in fact I think I'd prefer it.

 

"You know what, I'm done with the worry and stress. I'm doing this for me." This line made me smile, because this is more or less exactly what I said to my mum right before I blocked him. =) This all happened several hours ago now, and honestly I just feel fantastic. I wish I'd done it sooner! I'd have saved myself a lot of pain. But I have much to look forward to over the next few weeks (my sister's hen party and wedding being the most exciting!) and I'm not letting a face from the past ruin my fun. Life can only get better from here. =)

[Turnandcough]

Thank you for posting! I know what you mean, and believe me, I only kept him on my Facebook this long because I hoped he would come back. If I still believed he was coming back, I don't think I'd have had the strength to delete and block him today. What I meant was that I have a feeling he's going to try reaching out now that I have blocked him, because I'm pretty sure he liked the control he had over me. I also feel that any message he does send will be somewhat cold or nasty. Either way, he won't get a response from me.

 

Of course I could be wrong, it may be that he's glad to see the back of me and he won't reach out at all. And I don't mind that, in fact I think I'd prefer it.

 

"You know what, I'm done with the worry and stress. I'm doing this for me." This line made me smile, because this is more or less exactly what I said to my mum right before I blocked him. =) This all happened several hours ago now, and honestly I just feel fantastic. I wish I'd done it sooner! I'd have saved myself a lot of pain. But I have much to look forward to over the next few weeks (my sister's hen party and wedding being the most exciting!) and I'm not letting a face from the past ruin my fun. Life can only get better from here. =)

 

Be careful with your thoughts! Part of moving on is not over thinking things. Honestly who cares if he reaches out! It's going to be pointless breadcrumbs if he does. You need to realize that he will move a mountain to show you he wants to get back together. When a guy has something set in his head that he wants he will do anything in his will to prove it. Stop questioning if he will reach and expect him not to. It's better to be suprised than dissapointed.

[Wings Of Love]

Be careful with your thoughts! Part of moving on is not over thinking things. Honestly who cares if he reaches out! It's going to be pointless breadcrumbs if he does. You need to realize that he will move a mountain to show you he wants to get back together. When a guy has something set in his head that he wants he will do anything in his will to prove it. Stop questioning if he will reach and expect him not to. It's better to be suprised than dissapointed.

 

You're right. I'm trying not to think about him at all, but I've always had a problem with over thinking and over analysing everything. It's only day one though, I'll get there.

[Turnandcough]

You're right. I'm trying not to think about him at all, but I've always had a problem with over thinking and over analysing everything. It's only day one though, I'll get there.

 

I promise you will! I didn't think I would a month ago, but I'm proud to say I wake up with a smile on my face knowing my life is meant for happiness and good things. Don't let someone who doesn't want you anymore take any part of you with them on this twisted path of confusion they are on. You know why? Your one in a million. Your perfect to that special someone. Once you realize this your gonna shine like a star and you'll be the one in power. He didn't leave you, he lost himself along the way and your in a position to become happier than you ever thought possible..... With yourself! The only person you should always love no matter what! Happiness was never his in the first place. That is yours to share with people to show them how amazing you are.