Does this put girls off?

[kobeparker939]

So I've been single for the past 6 years. I've dated but have yet to meet the girl that I can see myself settling down with.

 

My concern is , am I now at a point where this will send Alarm bells to future prospects as to why I've been single for so long. I feel like it'll only get incredibly harder.

 

Girls would love to hear your input.

[Dying on the Vine]

No that wouldn't set off any alarm bells for me - if anything I would think the opposite - I would think that you're a "discerning dater" and that you don't "settle" for just anyone. A woman should actually feel quite flattered if you asked her out - bcuz after all - you're a "discerning dater" and you're not just asking her out bcuz you're bored and alone on a Friday night.

 

There are many many reasons why people stay single for long periods of time - and provided they weren't doing a stint in a Mental Institution or any other "Correctional Facility" - then I wouldn't think there was anything wrong with them.

 

They may have been focusing on their Career - or focusing on personal development etc - there are many many reasons for lengthy stints off the dating roster. And if a woman judges you for this - and she assumes something else - then you wouldn't want her anyways - bcuz a woman who is worth it will take the time to get to know you and she'll make a point of understanding your "down time" and she will feel really really special that you chose her!!

 

Best of Luck!!

[todreaminblue]

i agree with the poster who wrote about discernment.....i dont think its a turn off for a guy to have been selective.....a multi dating guy is a turn off..or a guy whop brags abtou how many dates he has been on...or having......or a guy who goes on lots of dates over the years shows signs to me of commitment issues..fussiness...and of possible standards or ideals that he has that arent beign met....so doubt i would meet them or even want to meet them, that to me is a turn off.....deb