enchanted771 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 So thought this guy was a flake, but found out that he is just really shy. Its actually kind of cute. He isn't just shy, but VERY shy. When I pass him everytime, he makes a comment to his friend. lol. Anyways, the problem is, when he comes by to my work, he wont go into my office and talk to me. He will pass right by and is afraid to say anything. So, the best I can do is say Hello when he passes by, but will that make me look pushy? and sometimes he comes to social gatherings but he will sit with his coworker at the table and not move lol. We are supposed to go out soon but in the meantime, I am wondering how I can start a convo with him if the opportunity strikes. I am actually a little nervous and a tad bit shy but in this case, looks like I have to step up to the plate, but I get nervous starting convos with people. I get embarrassed easily. Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 Does he know that you like him? Could someone do you a favor and mention to him: "You know that so-and-so thinks you're cute?" Maybe this will get him to stop and say hi? Link to post Share on other sites
Author enchanted771 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 Does he know that you like him? Could someone do you a favor and mention to him: "You know that so-and-so thinks you're cute?" Maybe this will get him to stop and say hi? He said Hi before, but not since then. Maybe I will have my coworker mention it to him next time were talking about him. Not sure if he knows or not, but I am always talking about him with her, and she isn't one who keeps secrets so I am sure she mentioned it, which probably embarrassed him more. LOL guess I just got to be patient because comeing on too strong will scare him away. Link to post Share on other sites
LatinCoffee Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 How do you feel of possibly dating someone at work? Link to post Share on other sites
MalachiX Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 Sounds like one of his friends needs to explain to him that you're interested and he shouldn't let the opportunity pass by. If that can't happen, find an excuse to talk to him. Ask him about himself, what he's working on, what he's doing after work. See how he responds and then you'll know if he's into you as well. I realize this is easier said than done but remember that HE'S the more shy one so you've got the power here (which is cool). Also feel the need to add a shameless plug for shy guys (as I was/perhaps-still-am one): We can be great people to date and some of us make awesome lovers (now your dude owes me if you guys get together) Link to post Share on other sites
Author enchanted771 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 Sounds like one of his friends needs to explain to him that you're interested and he shouldn't let the opportunity pass by. If that can't happen, find an excuse to talk to him. Ask him about himself, what he's working on, what he's doing after work. See how he responds and then you'll know if he's into you as well. I realize this is easier said than done but remember that HE'S the more shy one so you've got the power here (which is cool). Also feel the need to add a shameless plug for shy guys (as I was/perhaps-still-am one): We can be great people to date and some of us make awesome lovers (now your dude owes me if you guys get together) He is the one who wanted to meet me. I think hes just nervous why idk. He is good looking and has alot going for him. I am nervous as well but i guess someone has to step up to the plate. Going to talk to my friend today and if he doesnt come in to talk to me, I am going to make sure that I talk to him whenever he comes by. Hes just very shy. Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 He is the one who wanted to meet me. I think hes just nervous why idk. He is good looking and has alot going for him. I am nervous as well but i guess someone has to step up to the plate. Going to talk to my friend today and if he doesnt come in to talk to me, I am going to make sure that I talk to him whenever he comes by. Hes just very shy. Sometimes us shy guys like a woman and then when it's time to step up, we freeze, get nervous... it happens. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 I wish I was there to help you two out. I've done it many times. I use to know two at my work with the same issue. Thanks to me they're okay now. Came back to the job and told me thank you. At work is work but falling in for someone and on top it your both shy around each other is cute, but you need help to get your two going out on a date and start talking. Right now your not talking too much he won't even say hi. He might not want others to know whats going on. Drama at work is a no, no! To bad you can get him outside the work place like the parking lot and talk to him. You can't even use the company work place email system. Everything is checked today. Try to leave work when he does and try to talk to him prior to your date. Ask a friend to intervene to drop him a hint you need to talk? Link to post Share on other sites
Author enchanted771 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 I wish I was there to help you two out. I've done it many times. I use to know two at my work with the same issue. Thanks to me they're okay now. Came back to the job and told me thank you. At work is work but falling in for someone and on top it your both shy around each other is cute, but you need help to get your two going out on a date and start talking. Right now your not talking too much he won't even say hi. He might not want others to know whats going on. Drama at work is a no, no! To bad you can get him outside the work place like the parking lot and talk to him. You can't even use the company work place email system. Everything is checked today. Try to leave work when he does and try to talk to him prior to your date. Ask a friend to intervene to drop him a hint you need to talk? Just to clarify, he doesnt work directly with me. He is a client of my coworker who works in a different department. Anyways, I talked to her this morning and I told her to tell him to come see me next time he comes here. Then she told me at the same time that he told her to tell that were still going to go out. I guess he is just nervous and its slow moving, but being pushy will just make him more nervous. Link to post Share on other sites
Author enchanted771 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 I wish I was there to help you two out. I've done it many times. I use to know two at my work with the same issue. Thanks to me they're okay now. Came back to the job and told me thank you. At work is work but falling in for someone and on top it your both shy around each other is cute, but you need help to get your two going out on a date and start talking. Right now your not talking too much he won't even say hi. He might not want others to know whats going on. Drama at work is a no, no! To bad you can get him outside the work place like the parking lot and talk to him. You can't even use the company work place email system. Everything is checked today. Try to leave work when he does and try to talk to him prior to your date. Ask a friend to intervene to drop him a hint you need to talk? I am just going to have to say Hi to him and try and strike up a convo everytime I see him. Eventually he will warm up to me, if i initiate something I think. I am shy too like I said but someone has to step up to the plate, and if i have to i will talk to my friend. He seems to want to go out but is nervous. I understand everyone is nervous thats why I wanted to talk to him some first before we go out, thought maybe it would make him feel less nervous. Link to post Share on other sites
truth_seeker Posted October 3, 2013 Share Posted October 3, 2013 When you go out, get some alcohol in him so he loosens up a bit Link to post Share on other sites
Author enchanted771 Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 When you go out, get some alcohol in him so he loosens up a bit were planning happy hour. Once I get his cute behind to go lmao. It's kind of adorable but he needs to push down harder on the gas Link to post Share on other sites
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