russellfitch1980 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 I have been with my girlfriend for a little over a year now. I'm 24 and she is 21. I know when we first met it was honeymoon phase and we constantly talked, texted, hung out, had sex...we couldn't keep off of each other. That went on for about 3 or 4 months. After that, school started and we realized that life had to settle back into place. We hung out a lot still but went from 4 or 5 day's a week to 2 or 3 days a week. Sex gradually went down from every night (like 4 days a week) of hanging out to maybe 2 times a week max. She told me that it wasn't me and that she has been just stressed and tired because of school. I believe her and everything and it was like that till about 9 months into it or so. We both love each other a lot and started saying it about 3 months into us dating. We hung out a lot in the summer again like 4 or 5 days a week and had sex occasionally maybe 2 times a week and that went on till about the 1 year mark. We had our anniversary and that went well. Lately I have just felt like she is bored with me and just doesn't seem to enjoy my company as much as she did when we started dating. She told me that was no sense and that she wasn't losing interest in me. I guess I'm getting a little bit distracted because she has this friend from school who she seems pretty fond of. They talk every few days and hang out between classes and stuff. Sometimes with me, sometimes without me. They are usually studying, talking, or grabbing lunch. Harmless stuff. She wants to hang out with him outside of school but knows that it might make me uncomfortable so she hasn't yet which is good. Sometimes I feel that she is more interested in hanging out with him than with me. Sometimes when she is with him she won't answer my texts and it takes a lot longer than usual. He does have a girlfriend and I know my girlfriend would never cheat. I'm just afraid she is emotionally involved with other guy and feels stuck with me but she just told me yesterday that she loves me and wants me to be happy. I told her how I felt and she said how she has been busy with school and how its just a different time in our relationship. Does this seem normal? Is she into this other guy and just dodging me to be with him? Maybe he is just a friend and she likes his acquaintance because he is different than me? She tells me all the time how she loves my personality, how she wants to marry me, and how I'm the only guy she will ever love but sometimes when she is with me I don't feel like that. I never know whats on her mind...maybe just because she started school and is more busy. Any advice? thanks!
pteromom Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 It sounds very normal to me, and it sounds like she constantly reassures you that she's happy and loves you... so maybe you should believe her. If you feel she is bored with you, why not do something to make sure she isn't? Surprise her with something she'll love. Do something together out of the norm. Shake things up a little.
coolheadal Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Your both young well she's 21 and your 24. Her intent might be like testing the waters or just have the other guy as friend in the friend zone. A lot of 20 to 21 years are doing this today. The boy friend can't be around them as much as they could. But your intent is to be around her more. Stale-mate there. Best you can do is call her instead of text talk. How old is this guy friend she has? When you, her and him go out how does that go? Does she pay more attention to you or him. If she does then you have something worry about. If she doesn't and more attention with you don't have to worry about it. Remember you two are not married, not engaged and nothing is committed yet. So pretty much she a free except with you she's your girl friend. This other guy has a girl friend also. How does she feel about her guy hanging with your girl friend. What you should do it call her up and get her to come with you and head over to where your girl friend and her boyfriend are at. See at they interact. Go dutch and everyone goes out for dinner. See how that goes. Just don't sit there on the side line worrying just not going to be anything for for you to start thinking what's going on, what are they doing etc. This is negative talk. You what to stay positive here. Again there is no problem for her to have guy friends in the friends zone and the same goes for you with gal friends in the friends zone. Why don't you become friends with his girl turn the tables around. This optional. Make sure she knows what's going on too.
Phantom888 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Is it possible for you 4 (you, your GF, her friend, and her friend's GF) to go out together and do something fun? Then you and the friend's GF can hangout independently. See if everyone is okay with that?
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