NorthVanGurl Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Ive been seeing this guy for a couple of months (not exclusive yet). He works in a different province 9 days there, 5 days here, so its been a little difficult to make this ‘relationship’ move forward. After talking for a month, then meeting and having a couple of dates I asked him to be exclusive and I think that freaked him out, said he wanted to see how things go first since we only met twice. Anyways, the last time he had plans to come back to town, we did talk about meeting up, but I didn’t hear from him for a day or two and kind of ‘freaked out’ and sent him a bunch of texts which he didn’t respond to because I guess I was pushing him too much …? So we didn’t end up seeing each other that visit. We have talked a little since then, and I think things are back to normal now. He is on his way here again (will be here in 2 days) and he’s talked about it, but hasn’t actually asked me to hang out. I sent him a text a couple of hours ago to say safe travels, but haven’t heard back. Do I ask him if I’ll see him or wait for him to make the move to get together?? L
Jenkins22 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 It's a difficult situation because he seems stand-off is at one moment then date worthy the next. I think this is one of those things that you have to wait out and can't rush into things. You can't really know someone until after 8-10 dates and you've only had 2. You can learn lots about people over the phone, but trust me (speaking from experience) you can spend MONTHS talking to someone only to finally date them and find out they are not who you though they were. You can text him and tell him you would like to see him, but that is it. No more going off the deep end and texting him a bunch. If he doesn't respond to it then just move on.
Author NorthVanGurl Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 Thanks for your input!! I appreciate it. I just got out of a 6 yr relationship about 8 months ago, so I'm not so great at playing the 'game' anymore. I suppose i will wait for him to come to me rather than chase him away...i just really like him and get so anxious that if i dont try it wont work out.
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