degearea Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Man... I broke up with her. I did. We had major problems. She drinks too much and is crazy abusive when she does so. There was also always a drama of the week be it car trouble, money problems, her parents, health issues, fights among friends, whatever... I know this isn't going to change. My stupid heart. She's already replaced me... didn't take but a month. Moved in with this rich guy. I guess I should be happy for her since I was always having to play at Daddy and take care of her financially, emotionally, physically... but I'm not. I didn't want to deal with this. I need to keep telling myself this. It made for a very stressful home life. We couldn't bring a child into it and it's what I really want. My buddy's right. We would have broken up anyway... and I would have had to pay palimony/alimony/child support. I would have lost my house and freedom. On top of all this she's 43 and I'm 37. I know they say that age shouldn't matter, but she's always been very beautiful and those looks are starting to fade. It doesn't bother me as much as it bothers her. It actually causes her to be very depressed and drink more. She's started loading herself up with botox treatments, peels, and everything you can imagine to try and keep up her looks. So damned hard to say goodbye to a best friend. Time for some Al-Anon, therapy, rereading Co-Dependent No More, hitting the gym daily, and throwing myself into work. 1
barky2 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Im going to telll you something you already know. Ready? You dodged a huge bullet with this one. And honestly..moving in after dating a month may just be the worst foundation to start a relationship on. Move forward from this. Dive into your own life. Unfortunately for you,when they fight...I'm sure ull be hearing from her. But you have to remember, she will not change anytime soon. Shell give you a song and dance about the changes shes made/will make....blah blah shut it. It'll be years before this girl is right. Move forward and find the ONE you deserve..because this broad aint it Barky 3
seekingpeaceinlove Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Me thinks you will be breathing a HUGE sigh of relief when the initial grieving phase wears off.
Author degearea Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 Thanks Barky and Seekingpeace. I needed to hear that. Both about the grieving process and the fighting they will potentially do. I can already see her running to me to save her and going back to him anyway in my mind's eye. Need some serious No Contact. There's just no point. Thanks again.
barky2 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Yup ull be the crying shoulder,run back to him until she replaces both of you. Dont give her a inch of contact. Do you do awhile. Stay strong it isn't easy. Barky
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