CNE181 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 So I am forced to live with my ex boyfriend due to financial reasons (both of us can not afford to live on our own yet and we're in a lease with another couple). He did the breaking up, but I am doing better than I thought I would after it. It hasn't even been a week yet, and I approached him about making the situation work as best as it could, saying that we should both just try to be nice to each other for our sake and the other couples' sake. I would hate for our breakup to make living here bad for them. So far, things have been okay. A little bit awkward, but liveable. However, I am worried that my ex took my suggestion to be "nice to each other" as "lets be friends." I don't want to be friends right now, it's too awkward. The only thing I want is to be cordial with each other. The things that are weirding me out at this point are that he is being a bit too concerned about me. I left for a day or two after the breakup to go to my sister's to calm down and get some space. He asks me as I am leaving if I am going to my sister's, and personally I thought he didn't really need to know where I was going at this point. In addition, I have a dog, who my ex also loves, so he is always still wanting to pet her and whatever. I am fine with that, I just find it incredibly awkward when he walks up to pet her while she is sitting in my lap. How could he possibly be okay with that/think I'd be okay with it? I am just a little too uncomfortable with that level of closeness with him at this point and I thought he would be too. Now, I've managed to land myself with a nasty cold and he is always asking about how I am feeling. Today he asks, "Are you feeling worse than yesterday?" I gave him the short answer of "yeah" not really wanting to have any major conversations with him. He then says that "maybe I should take a bubble bath or something." I know he is asking these things out of kindness, but me being the ignore the problem person, I am kinda thrown for a loop with stuff like this. It all just seems a bit too friendly for me right now. My other roommate says I clam up when he tries to talk to me, but it's just how I am at this moment. Am I being a bitch, especially after suggesting that we be nice to each other? I am not sure if we can be friends while living under the same roof, but I know I don't want to be at this point. By suggesting to be nice, I only meant to keep out of each other's hair and not make things bad for our roommates by fighting. I am just really confused by some of his actions and I don't know how to approach things. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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