cat Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Last night we were at the same professional dinner together. I referred him for the job he has, and I don't regret it. He's good at the job and they like him. But it means our paths cross professionally more than I'd like. We didn't talk last night but I saw him looking at me intensely. I looked good! I saw him again today and he was friendly, overly so. Almost like an act. I don't know what the deal is. I would really prefer not ever having to see him. The worst part is that I think he's nice to me and he gets to be all happy because he has his wife back and gets to have me as a friend. He just frickin wins it all doesn't he. While have to sit here and force myself through conversations and feel like a b**** because I shut him down and don't encourage the talking. I wish he didn't exist. I want time to pass by and have it be a year from now and be looking back and saying THANK GOODNESS THAT'S OVER. Because right now it's hard.
livdee Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 I know exactly how you feel, cat. My exAP lives up the street from me and I pass him a lot. I always get a wave. There have been times when he ignores me and I get angry with myself that it bothers me. It would be so much easier if I just never saw him. NC works great unless your paths cross. You are not the b****. You need to do what is right for you and shutting him down to maintain NC is the only way to go... I know how hard it is!
Author cat Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 OMG he just brought his dog in to see me. HIS F***ING DOG.
livdee Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 Hope you handled it well. that is really playing hardball. i read on one of the threads that they wished their AP had given them a F%$# &*^ send off because the nice, polite thing was hard. I don't know what would be harder. I secretly like that he still waves, even though it kills me every time and I mutter obscenities to myself about him after that. :-) Hang in there!!
randomwoman Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 I really relate to this post. I have felt this way for so long. I fantasize about him leaving town and taking his entire family with him just so I never had to see him or hear his name again. I also identify with that overly nice bs. That's how my MM acts. Just unaffected and like he has some perfect life. We got very close and we both have mood issues and depression. We have spoken at great lengths about how he's obsessed with his reputation and he constantly wears a mask. Knowing that, I still get annoyed. Hang in there!
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