Shibby85 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 I was with my girlfriend for 3 and half years we have travelled the world discussed marriage and had alot of fun together last week I thought everything was fine I paid for her to get her hair done we went out on weekend had fun I left she stayed with friends. I then got dumped on the Monday saying she doesn't feel the same anymore she wants space and doesn't even want to talk to me now I have no idea what the hell to think at this point in time as I'm still crazy about her
GTNBTTR Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 She may just need a break, with how serious the relationship is it might be scaring her. The best thing you can do is give her space and see if she contacts you. In the mean time do the best you can to take your mind completely off this whole situation. Go out with friends that don't or will not be hanging out with her, go to the gym, pick up a hobby that you may have been putting off. She basically needs time to miss you and want what you two had back. This is in no way a guarantee that she will come back but it is a possibility. You will definitely need patience, a good week, maybe a month.
h0000 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Maybe she will ,maybe she wont. No one knows. Depends on what kind of person she is. Could be she met someone else. Could be her feelings died.Her feelings probably died long time ago. Young people often want to explore the world first. Of course you feel like a mess now. But give it time you will be fine.
justlooking463 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Do just what she asked, give her space, do not contact her whatsoever! If u want her back do it! Let her see what its like without u for a while, if she really loves you, she'll realize and come back, don't plead with her to come back either, especially not right now after the bu is fresh. It won't do u a damn thing but push her farther away from you. She says she needs space. Give it to her, go on with your life life she doesn't exist anymore. I know its hard. I just went through the same thing. Do something for yourself, work out, hang with friends, go out and meet new people. There's nothing better than showing your ex that left you that ur just fine and possibly doing better without them. It will bother them. That's what i have done, i started working out getting myself into shape and bettering myself, for me! Now my ex saw me and saw how good I'm doing without her and she says age wants to work things out. Your ex says she just needs some space, so it might just be a break and things might work out for the two of u after she figures things out, but in the mean time. I think you should do what i have suggested. Good luck my dude
love1336x Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Aww, I'm sorry love. Maybe there was somebody else in the picture? Usually when you don't see it coming it's because of another person. 1
lovesucks76 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 I was with my girlfriend for 3 and half years we have travelled the world discussed marriage and had alot of fun together last week I thought everything was fine I paid for her to get her hair done we went out on weekend had fun I left she stayed with friends. I then got dumped on the Monday saying she doesn't feel the same anymore she wants space and doesn't even want to talk to me now I have no idea what the hell to think at this point in time as I'm still crazy about her That's strange. I'm so sorry man. Are you sure she's not seeing someone else? That's odd.
Jord11 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 They do that, my ex broke up with me saying she didn't love me anymore I haven't spoken to her in 6 months, still miss her but I'm moving on,stay strong! Try not to beg and plead trust me it only makes it worse, only thing you can do now is move on I know that's not what you want to hear but you have to, go no contact let her come back too you, she will if it's meant to be, stray strong man I know how you feel
r321148 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Has she made any attempt to explain what happened? Is this the first time it's happened? I think all you can do here really is give her a bit of space if that's what she wants. If you don't then all you do is show her that you don't respect her wishes. Begging, pleading or being constantly in her face will only make things worse. Use this bit of time to go do something you always wanted to do: go on a trip, play a sport, climb a mountain, watch a movie...whatever it is you like doing that you haven't done for a long time. Difficult as it is you need to stay strong and not mope around waiting for her. If this is the first time it's happened it could just be "cold feet". She maybe just got overwhelmed with how things are going and freaked. If that's the case a bit of space might make her see things a bit clearer and give her a chance to see what life is like without you. If the relationship was a good one and you know you always treated her well then trust in yourself and know that she will miss you. If after that then she still doesn't come around then you deserve better anyway. You can't really do anything to make her come back, but there are a lot of things you can do to make sure she doesn't!
clementyne Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Sounds like you got blindsided. Did she show any signs of being unhappy? Or were there any probs between you? Could there be someone else?
Author Shibby85 Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 We have had fights before but always worked it out but this time there were no fights we were getting on fine as I said we went out on the Saturday and by Monday I was dumped and she doesn't even want to speak to me about anything at moment
clementyne Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Sometimes we think everything's fine, but the other person may be feeling differently, just not showing it. Usually this is something that's been building up over some time. Best to talk to her and ask her what changed and how long she'd been feeling like that. You could let her know that you're willing to give it another shot after she's had some time to think and still wants the relationship. Then just give her some space and do your own thing, which will give you both some time to think things through and gain some perspective on the situation. 1
lovelylilly Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Three days before my breakup (which was out of nowhere) my recent ex boyfriend took me to krispy Kreme to get me a hot chocolate after our date. And he told me he ran 'errands' like that to spend more time with me. We never had a fight about anything. You're not going to like my advice, but it's best to forget your ex and move on. Don't drive yourself insane like I am. I'm sorry.
clementyne Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Three days before my breakup (which was out of nowhere) my recent ex boyfriend took me to krispy Kreme to get me a hot chocolate after our date. And he told me he ran 'errands' like that to spend more time with me. We never had a fight about anything. You're not going to like my advice, but it's best to forget your ex and move on. Don't drive yourself insane like I am. I'm sorry. He thought taking you out was like an "errand"?? Wow...
lovelylilly Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 He thought taking you out was like an "errand"?? Wow... No, he didn't mean it like that. We were at Krispy Kreme because he wanted to buy doughnuts for my parents. I just put the word "errand" in there cause it's similar to what he said, I can't remember the exact words. Doesn't matter anymore anyways.
alex007 Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 I was great to my GF always taking her out or going to concerts... I really did everything a girl would want and she even said to me that she knows she takes me for granted, and that any girl would be lucky to have me. I was thinking about breaking up with her because of this and the fact she kept getting colder towards me and more distant. She said she was very stressed out because she works 40 hours a week and is going to school online full time and has been with me when she has free time and that she was growing more distant from her sisters and friends because she had no time for them and the fact we were getting very serious in a short time. I just don't get why someone would want to "maybe get back together down the road when things are less stressful" when they supposedly love you... why give up and let someone go maybe forever if you truly love them wouldn't you just want to keep them but work on things? 1
Fufu Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 I was with my girlfriend for 3 and half years we have travelled the world discussed marriage and had alot of fun together last week I thought everything was fine I paid for her to get her hair done we went out on weekend had fun I left she stayed with friends. I then got dumped on the Monday saying she doesn't feel the same anymore she wants space and doesn't even want to talk to me now I have no idea what the hell to think at this point in time as I'm still crazy about her Read her actions. She dumped you, feelings changed/faded, wanted space and refused to talk to you. So my suggestion: Give her what she wants Don't go stressing her why, what happened and pronouncing your loves to her over and over again. It won't work. If she wants to tell you what's her issue. She will, if she doesn't. You don't have to bother. Remember she's the one who dropped this bomb first. And if she mentioned you are a nice guy and any girls would be lucky to have you, so why did she choose to leave you? This is what I called "Saying nice words to the dumpee, so the Dumper doesn't look too much like a bad person". At this moment, just focus on yourself, I know it's tough and you are probably have lots of doubts and denials going through your mind. But stop thinking of what ifs, why and so on. Read her actions, the facts. 2
alex007 Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Read her actions. She dumped you, feelings changed/faded, wanted space and refused to talk to you. So my suggestion: Give her what she wants Don't go stressing her why, what happened and pronouncing your loves to her over and over again. It won't work. If she wants to tell you what's her issue. She will, if she doesn't. You don't have to bother. Remember she's the one who dropped this bomb first. And if she mentioned you are a nice guy and any girls would be lucky to have you, so why did she choose to leave you? This is what I called "Saying nice words to the dumpee, so the Dumper doesn't look too much like a bad person". At this moment, just focus on yourself, I know it's tough and you are probably have lots of doubts and denials going through your mind. But stop thinking of what ifs, why and so on. Read her actions, the facts. Alright thanks, I didn't go asking questions i just said "if that is what you want, then okay, i cant force you to love me." I blocked her on facebook and went NC, she texted me the next day saying "why did you delete your fb?" I just said "lol stalker :P" and she said "Ok so I admit I was researching a bit lol" just keeping it as if I am not mad at her for the break up. And taking this time to work on my self and date other people.
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