Orije Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Hey guys sorry if i wrote alot, i dont know if you read my other posts, but there has been alot going on with me and the girl i used to date. I am down to the point where i am lost on what to do next. This girl pays attentions only to her studies while i have been trying to keep the relationship together. I came up with surprises, got her things and said the sweetest things to make her happy but when it came down to it she pushed me as a friend until all of her studies are done which won't be until january. I have dated this girl for 5 months and in the 5 months i have only seen her a few times and we talked on the phone at night alot. My parents and friends noticed i was trying for her but she was too set on to getting into college and getting good great. Im not saying its a bad thing for her but to me it was kind of painful. I was always trying to help her out in school. It came down to her treating me just like a friend, even though she says she likes me and wants to try dating again in january, i dont know. We dont ever talk in the day because when i try to call her, she is busy doing school work and when i call at night she is able to talk but falls straight asleep. It went on for 3 days where i heard nothing from her like a text or nothing and i knew she was on social networks. I always told her i will stay by her side, but its really tough and im always told to move onto someone who respects my feelings. We talked about the governent shutting down and midway in conversation she told me why are we having this convo? That she could be doing her studies than talk about something that i dont know much about and she already knows and it was pointless. that blew my fuse. i told her i will wait to date again, but now that idk if i can continue cause i feel no chemistry and connection. Im too nice to be the guy to walk away and stop contacting her because if we went a few days without talking, i would try to call her. I'm not really too sure on what i have to do now. For now i guess im going to either sit here and wait until january to start things again or grow something and leave. breaking friendships encluding her because i am her first boyfriend. I dont wanna be that guy who breaks her heart and ruins her life. its tough on the road im going down. My parents told me it will be worse when she is in college because she will be away from me and could pay attention to studies again instead of me. Some encouragement or advice will be nice guys! sorry for writing so much!
Kaiten Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 I have had this happen a few times, man. When this happens the girl digs you. She thinks you are cool, but to her you are definitely not boyfriend material. I know that kinda stings but it could be a lot worse than this. I know it's cliche but... She's just not that into you. "Chemistry" and connection don't always happen that early in the relationship. It can take a while to form good "chemistry" with a girl. So not feeling it is not reason enough to count a potential partner out, however when you feel that it's not worth the effort, then it is best to stop. To her you probably seem desperate for her. Wait if you want to, but I certainly don't recommend it. Any more questions?
Author Orije Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 Alright i see. So it has been about a few days since i had any contact atall with her and immediately she starts texting and contacting me again and asks to hang out. I dont know how to really feel about this because i have been wanting to hang with her but she pushes it away and now she is willing to hang out and talk. Its weird and i dont know what to do cause i would love to hang out with her, but i feel if i do i would get attached again and she will push me away or become extremely busy as she has been
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