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I made a move. Why hasn't he responded?


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I was recently a +1 at a dinner event where I met a multitude of different people. Among the people I met, I was introduced to a man who looked about my age -we got talking for a bit, but quickly got caught up in mingling with the other guests. He seemed nice and I sensed positive vibes from him.

 

A couple of days passed, and I took a risk by contacting him on FB. I had no other contact information than this medium. After some initial introduction, he and I conversed for a while. That was about a day ago, and I haven't heard from him since.

 

What is he thinking? I am not one to contact a man on FB in this fashion. Perhaps it is a little creepy, and I don't expect much from this, but the least he could do is respond or say he has a girlfriend if he's not interested.

 

Thoughts?

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Be assertive! Say hi to him on fb. Nothing wrong with sending a fb friend request to somebody you meet. He will respond or not. And then you know and won't have to fret.

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Be assertive! Say hi to him on fb. Nothing wrong with sending a fb friend request to somebody you meet. He will respond or not. And then you know and won't have to fret.

Oh! I have. I sent out a friend request, and he accepted. Although I'm not one to add random people like that to mine. And I'm not one to pester a man online either. He wouldn't have accepted my friend request if he wasn't interested?

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I love these threads. Because when I end up reading them more often than not the person hasn't actually made a move (or an obvious one at least).

 

Friend requests on facebook are pretty much a dime a dozen for many people and hold very little value or significance. All you have done is chatted with him and not actually said you are interested right?

 

Basically you want him to make the move, not yourself and that is fine however you are being very subtle about it and most guys suck at picking up on these "super vague moves".

 

If you want to go out with him... maybe you could ask him out? Women can do that you know? My girlfriend did it. :laugh:

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Oh! I have. I sent out a friend request, and he accepted. Although I'm not one to add random people like that to mine. And I'm not one to pester a man online either. He wouldn't have accepted my friend request if he wasn't interested?

 

Don't read interest into him accepting a friend request. Just say hey. Nothing to lose.

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He wouldn't have accepted my friend request if he wasn't interested?

 

Accepting your friend request doesn't necessarily mean that he's interested. I would suggest that you send him a friendly, slightly flirtatious message and see how he responds.

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