genuine article Posted November 29, 2004 Posted November 29, 2004 dear fellow posters i have two questions for you:i know a wealthy male in california who lived with a female for ten years and he wouldn't marry her.even though he had more than enougfh money to marry her years ago.as you may know california doesn't acknowledge commonlaw spouses. anyway, he just recently gave in and married the woman because she gave birth to his much beloved son ,obviously to give him his last name.he is reportedly crazy about his son.please tell me how you think he feels about this female. i'm involved in an internet controversy about it.i say he doesn't care for that female, and he clearly only married her for the sake of his son. i say she should move on what do you think? also i date and date and date and i cant find anyone i care for. what should i do?
SoleMate Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 You think we can answer your questions based on the tiny amount of information you gave? Sure...why not...I'll do my best. ...please tell me how you think he feels about this female... Warm...loving...connected...sexual. Men typically do not marry women in this day and age unless it is their own choice. Sounds like he has enough money to hire lawyers and either make her go away, or buy her off, if that had been his choice. But he has chosen to live with her for ten years, and chance a pregnancy, and commit himself legally and morally to a partnership with her. No doubt the child was a factor that tipped the balance...but the balance likely was leaning in her favor to begin with. ...i date and date and date and i cant find anyone i care for. what should i do? Are these two issues connected? As in...did you want this wealthy Californian male for yourself? If so, my condolences. You're clearly out of the running now. If you find that you don't care for most of your fellow human beings, then you may need therapy or medication...or to meet a better class of person.
Merin Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 What do you mean you're in an internet controversy regarding this? Honestly.. who knows why this guy didn't want to marry this woman sooner than he did.. a lot of people get married without a pot to p*ss in or a window to throw it out of.. so I'm not convinced that money was his issue even having a lot of it.. he may have had other reasons.. Secondly.. while California may not recognize "common law marriage" he didn't HAVE to marry this woman so his son would have his name.. again, a lot of people have children together without the benefit of marriage and the Mother may choose to put the Fathers Last name on the birth certificate for the Child in question without being married. So does he really care for this Woman.. I haven't any idea based on what you've said. Regardless, he is married to her and they share a child.. so as long as she's willing to stay married to him, and vice versa.. whatever makes em happy ya know?! I've got the impression that the reason you're asking about this womans situation is because you would like to persue her? If thats the case.. I would recommend you NOT. She is married to someone else regardless if you feel she should be or not. If you're dating and dating and dating and not finding anyone you can care for, perhaps it's because you are looking at people that aren't really available? Good Luck
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