Should i care that girlfriend looks at other guys?

[93TheHitStick]

My girlfriend looks at other guys a lot. Up until now i really haven't cared too much. My girlfriend before her also looked at guys a lot and it lead to us breaking up. I reflected and figured that maybe i was just making too much out of it and its normal for girls to look at guys. I know i look at girls.

 

But then i was talking to my big brother who just dumped his girlfriend of a few years. He said that part of the problem was her checking out other guys. He said you should never date a girl like that because it really says a lot about her and what she does when you aren't around.

 

But idk. What do you think? Is it a big deal? I catch my girlfriend staring at dudes a lot to be honest. They are usually buff dudes and she will follow them obviously turning her head and everything. But idk.

[CherryT]

Hm... well it depends.

 

I mean, just because my fiance and I are in love and don't want to be with anyone else, doesn't mean we don't appreciate a good looking guy/girl now and then. I could probably say that I've looked at a guy and thought "wow, he's nicely dressed" and that would be it. I could probably say the same that my fiance can appreciate a good looking girl too. Sometimes when we're watching TV or out, we would point out people too. I remember seeing a girl who just looked really pretty, her face was just gorgeous! And so I told my fiance and he looked at her and said "she is pretty" and we moved on. Just because we're together, doesn't mean we've gone blind. However, we don't "check" them out. I mean, if we glanced over and saw someone attractive that would be it. But I wouldn't sit there, in front of him, just eyeing some dude for 10+ seconds. That's just weird.

 

If your GF is literally turning her head and staring at a guy in front of you and you're just sitting back and waiting for her to finish staring, it's weird.

[crederer]

What do you mean by "looks at"? Like, she looks in their direction? Or she flirts with them? Or.....?

 

Yah, people are going to look at the opposite sex. It's natural. She's with you so what's the problem?

 

your brother's girl probably cheated on him so he's biased.

[veggirl]

Staring is really disrespectful to you.

 

tbh when I'm out with my bf, I am engaged with HIM and don't really notice passerbyers that much. I am busy enjoying my time with him.

 

I think if your partner checking out others becomes something that you actually notice then it's too much. It's one thing to take a quick glance but to stare? Rude. Do you ever call her on it? I'd be pissed if I noticed my bf staring at other girls.

 

What do you do while she is busy mouth-breathing at guys walking by?

[mammasita]

Looking/admiring is natural. Staring/ogling to the point that YOU notice is blatant disrespect.

[giblesp]

I'd agree with your brother on that one.

[MalachiX]

You said you yourself look at other women so why the double standard?

 

Your brothers view on this thing strikes me as paranoid and overly possessive. We're human beings and we're hard wired because of our hormones to look at people we find attractive. The more sexual one is the more it just happens on reflex. Just because we look does not mean we'd ever cheat.

 

I hate it when women seem to think that a many looking at someone else means he's going to be unfaithful and I think it's just as bad when guys do the same things.