napy666 Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 When is a good time to start discussing your past sexual experiences when it comes to dating someone or getting to know them? I have had guys ask me; How many cocks have you sucked? How big are your boobs? What's your cup size or bra size? Can I have a body shot photo of you? Can I have a photo of your boobs, butt, body, pussy, etc. What's the farest you've gone with a guy? What have you done with a guy? Are you horny? Do you masterbate? Do you pleasure yourself? Do you use any toys? While others get disappointed or even mad at me for being a virgin and wanting to wait until I am married. I don't see what the big deal is and why sex is so important nowadays. To me when guys ask me these questions or other questions I feel it to be wrong and very personal but they don't think so.
crederer Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Are these people you've gone on dates with? I mean it's different for everyone, it depends where the conversation steers. If it comes out of left field that is indeed a tad bit weird and a little bit too forward.
CherryT Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Uh. Yes, it's very personal. I would never respond well to someone asking me "How many cocks have you sucked?" Frankly, I'm not a virgin but I'm not a slut, so don't talk to me like I'm easy and I'm just going to tell you my bra size and send you a picture of my naughty bits. I was with my ex for a very long time, years. And now I am with my fiance... and I only have sex when I am in a committed relationship so if they can put 1 + 1 together, they'll know how many partners I've had. This is my choice... yes, I've 'dated' men and even had casual dating relationships with a few. But until we are in a relationship, it's not happening and that's how I conduct myself. Don't like it? Don't care. As someone who isn't shy about my sexuality nor prudish really, I don't respond well to questions like that. Why? Because they're not questions that come from a place of respect. Of course my fiance and I talked about our past relationships and our sexual history. But it's how someone asks you and where you are in the relationship that's important. If this is something a guy is asking after meeting you once or twice? It's too personal. It's really none of their business because if they're trying to gauge my sexual appetite, we're not having sex anyways unless I think you're someone I want to be in a committed, monogamous relationship with. And if a guy asks me those questions, in that way, it's a sure shot for him to get me to walk away. Don't let guys get mad at you for being a virgin if that's what you choose to be. If they're disrespectful and asks you personal questions with little to no tacked, you're not losing out on much.
crederer Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Wait, so you have a fiance, then who are the people asking you these questions? Guy's you're going on dates with?
CherryT Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Wait, so you have a fiance, then who are the people asking you these questions? Guy's you're going on dates with? Prior to being with my fiance. When my ex and I broke up and until I met my fiance, I was single for a few years. So during those times, I met some really nice guys who were respectful. But I also encountered some of these creepers who would ask these questions. Sometimes without even meeting me in person! I remember a "friend" of mine thought a coworker of hers and I would get along. Without even meeting me and only having a handful of phone and text conversations, he asked me very explicit questions about my sexual appetite. Not cute.
some2many Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Its your own personal choice really being a virgin is not a bad thing...and while any solid relationship needs sex its not something I would just start off talking about. Save that kinda info for someone you know atleast cares for you and isnt just out to get his. 1
crederer Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I dunno I wouldn't worry about any of those guys now because you are engaged. So you got one that works for you, congrats, and leave the other guys behind and don't even think about them.
soccerrprp Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 When is a good time to start discussing your past sexual experiences when it comes to dating someone or getting to know them? I have had guys ask me; How many cocks have you sucked? How big are your boobs? What's your cup size or bra size? Can I have a body shot photo of you? Can I have a photo of your boobs, butt, body, pussy, etc. What's the farest you've gone with a guy? What have you done with a guy? Are you horny? Do you masterbate? Do you pleasure yourself? Do you use any toys? While others get disappointed or even mad at me for being a virgin and wanting to wait until I am married. I don't see what the big deal is and why sex is so important nowadays. To me when guys ask me these questions or other questions I feel it to be wrong and very personal but they don't think so. I find that sometimes guys (or gals) ask such probing and intimate questions to gauge just how "slutty" you are. Early on, they're probably determining whether you're worth looking at as a LT prospect. The more experienced or promiscuous, the less likely you're LT material. BTW, sex is and has always been important. Women are much more liberated now days, so our perspective seems to indicate something of a new phenomenon, but in reality, sex has always been a very important element of dating, relationships, etc. We are more free to express and talk about what has been largely been concealed or repressed that's all.
CherryT Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I dunno I wouldn't worry about any of those guys now because you are engaged. So you got one that works for you, congrats, and leave the other guys behind and don't even think about them. I think you're confusing me with the OP... I was responding to her original post. I have no contacts with any of my previous dates or even my ex.
Author napy666 Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 I had this one guy ask me "What turns you on?" then he says he's been watching anime porn since the age of 10. He is just looking for sex isn't he?
mercuryshadow Posted October 24, 2013 Posted October 24, 2013 When is a good time to start discussing your past sexual experiences when it comes to dating someone or getting to know them? I have had guys ask me; How many cocks have you sucked? How big are your boobs? What's your cup size or bra size? Can I have a body shot photo of you? Can I have a photo of your boobs, butt, body, pussy, etc. What's the farest you've gone with a guy? What have you done with a guy? Are you horny? Do you masterbate? Do you pleasure yourself? Do you use any toys? While others get disappointed or even mad at me for being a virgin and wanting to wait until I am married. I don't see what the big deal is and why sex is so important nowadays. To me when guys ask me these questions or other questions I feel it to be wrong and very personal but they don't think so. Guys who pose these questions to you have no respect for you. Don't even bother continuing with them. Seriously. 1
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