Caligurl04 Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Me and this guy met back in June. It was perfect. My family loved him. We connected. It was great. Then about 2 months later he started acting funny and I caught on..... I had looked at his phone one night on fb and saw a message from this girl I had no clue who she was. (they weren't even friends but his sister was friends with her) So I asked him about her and he said she was just a friend.... Long story short. About a week later I had drove myself nuts because I knew he was lying so I broke up with him. This was not the guy I had met and grown to like. I had messaged the girl very nicely and asked her for the trust since he still continues to tell me she was nothing but a mutual friend. She finally messaged me back and said that she has no idea who I was and that they had started talking again.. And they use to date back then. I heard from his best friend that they had dated and of course he lied about it. So I continuing talking to the girl trying to figure out what was going on. Conclusion.... He had been talking to both of us for about a week. So I blew up on him pretty much called him a liar and couldn't believe that he had made a fool out of me. (He always told me it was my trust issue that was creating this story and what not) anyways. He deleted me off fb and Bout a couple weeks later I attempted to add him back. I'm the most forgiving person in the world I suppose. Anyhow, he messages me and pretty much explains to me how sorry he was and that he was in a bad place when we met and got a DUI back in April and didn't tell anyone and this that and the other. Went onto say that he had never done that to anyone and feels so terrible for it. He also told me that he has decided to get out of the military and will be gone by the end of November. Now he doesn't seem like the kind to be dishonest.....nor get a DUI. He was brought up pretty well so I've been told. I told him I wanted to see him to talk in person. Not over fb or phone. So we met up. And he was like what do I have to do. Well I forgave him and we've been so good ever since. Back to how it was and it's been amazing. My only issue is him going back home. We're in NC and he's from ALABAMA. I don't trust him fully. He leaves in 2 months and I've made a fool of this relationship the other day over a stupid Facebook post. the post was him talking bout how he wanted to go home and couldn't wait. And it just hurt my feelings. I mentioned this to him and he just stopped speaking to me....he was upset that I was making a fit over a fb status....he pretty much ignored me while I said some stupid things that I know pissed him off. I didn't mean it of course. But I'm jus terrified. He messaged me this morning and said that I've ruined it and what had done it for him was the insults and mean stuff I was sending him. Now I was being ignored and I have no filter for my mouth. So everything I thought he heard. I get it. He's given up... And I don't know what to do now. The last thing I texted him was "My phone is about to die so I'm sorry about how I handled the situation. I hope this isn't our end- I want to see you in person and talk but you want space so I can respect that...hope to talk to you soon" I feel like that was very adult like. Sometimes I let my insecurities get the best of me but because I don't fully trust him it's hard. I don't know where to go from here. I want to be with him..... But I'm scared what will happen when he leaves or if he'll even talk to me again. I don't know how to go about preparing for a long distance relationship.....
Philosoraptor Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 This is not a healthy relationship and you don't seem to have any reason to trust this person. It would be better for you in the short run and the long run to cut connections with this person, heal up, and find someone who is willing to treat you with the same respect that you give them.
Woop1337 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 He's a liar (was there anything malicious between the conversations between him and his ex?). You have trust issues. So y'all better off without each other.
deathandtaxes Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 But I'm scared what will happen when he leaves or if he'll even talk to me again. I don't know how to go about preparing for a long distance relationship..... This is the most worrying part of your post. Good riddance to him! You've been with him since June. Count your blessings and cut your losses. This relationship was over when he started 'acting funny'. He had checked out at that point.
truth_seeker Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 He was dating you for 2 months, everything was great, then he decided he wanted to have fun with someone else. Once you caught him lying to you, that's when you should have ended it completely. You're hurt. This is why you keep holding onto him. Block him entirely. Social media, phone, email... once you do this, eventually you'll get over him. 1
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