Author AutumnMoon Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 I get that I really do and I guess many of us go through that phase of being "content" in the A but it always goes downhill for us at some point it always goes a little crazy and our emotions and self worth take a right kick-in. All I was trying to say is ur on a high right now everything is a-ok but there will come a time when the lows rears it's ugly head - then we realise just how un-content we always were. I myself was on a high for months then bam jealousy kicked me in the guts tenfold and I was literally sick with it. Thank you, I do understand what you are saying. We are coming up to a year since the physical affair began it was what I now know to be an emotional affair for a couple years before that.. It's not all been smooth sailing, far from it.
2sunny Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Ah, I didn't say special, I said different and when comparing to a lot of stories here, I'm right, it is different. I do not have the expectations of him as a lot of OW do, not that I don't wish for them sometimes, but I don't expect them and take this for what it is, knowing full well it can't last forever. When I get hurt he hasn't called me.. I don't think of myself as a victim at all, I made a conscious choice to get into this and it's on me as much as him and I will accept that. So you accept it when he hurts you? That is crappy to "accept".
Rollercoaster Rider Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 Strange? I feel horrible when I read about women and men here hurting and feeling used. I want to tell you all, walk away! Nobody should make you feel such pain. I guess my situation is different because I don't want to leave my marriage I don't want him to leave his marriage.. Our affair is for the thrill and for sex.. I do want the emotional connection too, and I do miss it when he withholds that side.. Which he does almost in a clockwork pattern.. But I've accepted this for what it is.. I want to use him, and I'm ok with him using me. I truly think you are kidding yourself. I know in the beginning of my A.. I thought I had it all figured out. pleasing the H... the OM... and Myself. I did good for a while, but all good things come to an end. D- day hit 2 - years into our A. That changed the whole game, I once thought I had control of. The past year has been different. We are still together.. but it's changed. A lot of ups and downs... I am like you though. I don't want to leave my husband... and dont want him to leave his wife. I am okay with the way things are for now. But... maybe not next week.. LOL.
Author AutumnMoon Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 I truly think you are kidding yourself. I know in the beginning of my A.. I thought I had it all figured out. pleasing the H... the OM... and Myself. I did good for a while, but all good things come to an end. D- day hit 2 - years into our A. That changed the whole game, I once thought I had control of. The past year has been different. We are still together.. but it's changed. A lot of ups and downs... I am like you though. I don't want to leave my husband... and dont want him to leave his wife. I am okay with the way things are for now. But... maybe not next week.. LOL. I know exactly what your saying. It's been a year since the physical affair started.. It was a lot of highs and lows to begin with but we've settled into a good balance the last couple months.. I guess we'll see what happens!
Got it Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 I get that I really do and I guess many of us go through that phase of being "content" in the A but it always goes downhill for us at some point it always goes a little crazy and our emotions and self worth take a right kick-in. All I was trying to say is ur on a high right now everything is a-ok but there will come a time when the lows rears it's ugly head - then we realise just how un-content we always were. I myself was on a high for months then bam jealousy kicked me in the guts tenfold and I was literally sick with it. Again you are making a sweeping generalization. Yes all relationships have their ups and downs but not everyone experiences things at the level that you are stating.
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