jorgon1022 Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Hi guys, I am asking this question because there is this girl that I really really liked. I gave her everything and treated her with the upmost respect. Never ever disrespected her. When I met her she had just broken up with her ex, and to make things short she was going to move over here because of me. However, she ended up not moving and I find out that she is now dating her ex again. Honestly, im not the best looking guy out there, but I do know that I was better looking than him. He is gangster, thugish, and overweight. She never gave me closure and because of this I am still wondering what I did wrong. What is it that he has that I didnt have, besides her heart? I know looks arent everything but when a guy is decent looking and treats you with respect wouldnt you choose that guy over the other. Is it something that I did or is it the fact that she still had feelings for him that she wouldnt give me a chance? I need help understanding this. Thank you.
Philosoraptor Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Sadly you were a rebound, which is why she bounced back to him without any issue. You weren't lacking anything, she wasn't over him and that's all it comes down to. Next time do not let yourself get attached to someone in or recently out of a relationship. 2
Author jorgon1022 Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 So looks have nothing to do with this? I thought that from an evolution perspective girls will go for someone thats better looking all things being equal. Do women not think like guys?
hppr Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I gave her everything and treated her with the upmost respect.. You did 3 big screwups 1) Nice Guy - need to be more assertive. Women like men who go for it and aren't ashamed of it and hate men who are nice, polite, forgiving. They think you are weak. 2) You misread her - she obviously didn't have any feelings for you and just wanted a shoulder to cry on. Never, EVER be that guy. NEVER. 3) Pick up another guy's leftovers - just don't do it. Don't zoom in on some chick, try to be her friend or whatever one week after a fight with her BF. It's a recipe for drama. Live and learn bud, live and learn.
carhill Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 How important are looks? Ticket into the audience. The parameters of how potentials are judged during the ticket-issuing process varies by individual. You will never see yourself nor any other person on this earth through any woman's, or this woman's, eyes. Suffice to say it appears you gained admittance as a potential, but never made it to the stage due to prior consideration for another. Having the stage door slammed behind you is closure enough in my book. On to the next audition.
Ryan R. Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I'd say very. If I was much better looking, I wouldn't be a virgin. I've been told I'm a fun person to be around. That being said personality matters quite a bit, too.
CherryT Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 So looks have nothing to do with this? I thought that from an evolution perspective girls will go for someone thats better looking all things being equal. Do women not think like guys? If she loves him, he will always 'look' better in her eyes. Looks are not everything. You can be a very attractive man but with a bad personality, I will think you're ugly.
Author jorgon1022 Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 I was actually very assertive. I never let her push me around. I showed confidence and that I stood by my beliefs but also showed her respect. Shes 20 by the way, dont know if that has to do with anything. She would always tell me how good looking I was and that she felt lucky that I was talking to her, but yet she went for that guy. In fact, she admitted that he wasnt good looking but apparently, he "cared" and thats what attracted her to him. I guess I just dont understand how someone can be so hot and cold. Its not the fact that she chose him over me that bothers me. Its the fact that she was never honest with me in the first place. She played me and thats what im having a hard time coping with right now.
Antenna_Of_Destiny Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Looks matter in the ways that you can change. You have to find the right components to frame your face and body in the most optimal light in terms of aesthetics and symmetry. A lot goes into it, such as choosing the best hairstyles to frame your face, the colors that go best with your skin tone and eye color, the patterns that show your body shape in the best way, etc. Posture, body language, not high body fat, some muscles, etc. You will attract tons of female attention if you get suits custom made to your exact measurements in odd colors and ride around in a fancy bicycle.
Author jorgon1022 Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 Antenna of Destiny- I agree with you there. I guess im just confused as to why she chose him over me. I often get told im good looking but I thought that would be enough to beat this guy out. On top of that, I will not say I have a good personality, but people tell me I do. maybe it is that she still had feelings for him, and its as simple as that. i dont know. lol
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